May I safely assume given 5 kids (today) is considered "large," that by "very" large you mean more than 5?
While I confess to being a bit uncomfortable determining how many children a couple should have, I also admit I recognize the lack of foresight in family planning of some couples
I'm not going to reference the "Duggars" this time...LOL. I should think at this point, it's clear they are a rare exception to the (super) large family "concerns." The facts are quite public and well-documented that ALL of their darlings are well-behaved, mannered, fed, raised, taught & supported in all aspects of need, nurture, love, education, morals, culture and social awareness.They even sing and play Violin! A positively amazing feat, to say the least.
I will also not reference any family at poverty level, needing social welfare and assistance to merely survive, yet continue to reproduce at will.This is the opposite extreme and involves a degree of ignorance I don't believe can be fairly included in this discussion.
Again I will tell you I'm not comfortable with the term, "abusive." I can reluctantly agree to, "thoughtless, irresponsible, & perhaps, neglectful." I say this because I feel the need to reserve "abuse" for very different types of discussions on family & children.
All of the ways (you list above) in terms of parental responsibilities to their children are vital to every child's upbringing and ultimate value as a productive, stable member of society. This is to not even mention each individual child's sense of self-worth, confidence level and desire to achieve.
Simple logic should easily tell us, the more children, the more of ALL required to raise them PROPERLY is needed. When reproducing little humans becomes more of selfish "collection", serious problems arise.The first question that comes to my mind is "WHY would an adult (or 2 adults) place such a burden upon themselves?"Here I can freely use the word,"abuse." Self-abuse.
As each person is unique, so too is each couple & family. A tribe of kids may not be the choice for many. (a.k.a "Smart Choices!)
Bottom line? If the large family choice is made by sane, sincere adults, they must be trusted as willing & able to do it well to the good of every member of their family. The Universal hope would be that they are as successful as possible.
Regardless of family size...this is true for all parents/families.
I apologize that my reply is not in the "list form" you requested.