It depends on the person, the relationship with their grandparents, and what they are willing to do/not do. It especially depends if they have a mental disorder or a physical disorder. I personally can-not change diapers, give baths, and basically play babysitter/mom for my grandparents. I find it nasty, and its degrading/embarrassing for both me and my grandparent (s). If I had the means I would pay someone and make sure they are taken care of (clean them, make sure they are fed, make sure they are physically safe and happy). I would want them to be comfortable, retain their dignity and be happy!!