Why are some parents incessantly upset that their children elect not to date dur

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   gmwilliamsposted 9 years ago

   Why are some parents incessantly upset that their children elect not to date during their teens,
   
   instead seeing their teenage years as a time for educational preparation & not worrying about energy draining relationships? There are parents who contend that their children are relationship failures because the latter elect not to date while teenagers.  Such parents feel out of place among their friends whose children do date.  There are parents who nag their children to have girlfriends/boyfriends although the child is clearly uninterested in being in relationships during this time.  These teens contend that the teen years are preparatory years for college & later a career.
   
   

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   sallieannluvslifeposted 9 years ago

   In my humble opinion, a parent is foolish for not discouraging dating during a child's teen years.  Teenagers are hardly prepared for a relationship during high school with hormones flaring, immaturity, peer pressure, preparing for life, etc.  I have always discouraged my children from dating too young, and every time they decided to date, it has proven to be a bad idea.  Teens are not mature enough or prepared for the pressures, issues and consequences of their actions being in a one-on-one relationship.  It is much better if they hang out with a group of friends, enjoy high school and  focus on their future, before they enter into serious relationships.

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      THANK YOU, IN UTTER CONCURRENCE!

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   Kiss andTalesposted 9 years ago

   I so agree Sallie  there is a time for everything, I helped my young ones with this example, just because the cake smells good while in the oven cooking and just because it should rise as well ,does not mean it is ready for the eating, most people know you usually put a tooth pick or straw through the center to be more sure oft being done.
   The point is development is not  finished just because it feels a certain way, looks outwardly a certain way. Parents should be the test and guid their young ones to full maturity.
   That means a lot of communication is needed.

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   tsadjatkoposted 9 years ago

   
   
   Wait a minute. What did I miss here?
   
   Some parents are incessantly upset that their children elect NOT to date during their teens???
   
   Are you kidding me? The parents I've known would pay to have a child like that. I would have paid to have a child like that. I have never even heard of a teenager complaining their parents want them to date.
   
   Have I entered a parallel world through hub pages because I didn't sign up for that.
   
   Wait a minute...
   
   a parallel world where teenagers don't want to date? Do they not want to get a driver's license? Do they not want to live at home after age 18 (after age 25 for that matter)? Do they not want you to pay for college?
   
   Hey, if that's the case I'll stay here, if it is that kind of parallel world I'm in, thank you hub pages!

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I KNEW SOME!

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      tsadjatkoposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah,well,I brought this up to the wife&she informed me in no uncertain terms that I am the one in a parallel world if I don't think this happens!She has witnessed parents forcing teens to date.So I say it's wrong&stupid.Thoseparentsinvitintr

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      sallieannluvslifeposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Unfortunately, and unbelievably so, like gmwilliams, I have also seen this ridiculous behavior among parents....most likely due to their own issues with acceptance and peer pressure they still remain in high school mentality instead of parental resp.

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      Patty Inglish, MSposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      A mom I knew forced son to see porn at age 5 & date older girls starting at age 13.. He dated men & women in high school and after, ended up alone at age 30+, still living at home, working at WalMart. Kind of like Robin Williams in "One Hour

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