was a story of a guy who caught his son being a bully, then made his kid hold a sign listing his punishments and posted it on Facebook - it went viral. People are justifying this saying it will teach his son a lesson. Yes, perhaps - but at what cost? Do we teach kids not be bullies by bullying them back with public humiliation? Why do these things go viral and why do people think these parents are "brilliant" in their approach to discipline? A kid who is a bully is already damaged - how is damaging them more publicly supposed to help? I was both bullied & abused and I can't see the logic.
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I totally agree that it's likely to make the bullying behavior escalate ultimately.
I appreciate your candor and on-par analysis of the situation with the child.
Totally agree. Narcissism on part of the father to have to do this publicly for praise from the public. In stark contrast to the reasonable answers here - people on that page were praising his "amazing" parenting skills and I was astonished!
Agreed. I think people mistake discipline and punishment. Discipline is positive and instills lessons and morals. Punishment is demeaning and devalues the target. Discipline teaches respect - not humiliation.
I agree there should be consequences for actions. In this particular case, the boy was 15 - old enough to know better certainly. There are numerous "public shaming" things viral on the internet though and I think it is counterproductive.
Paula, I couldn't agree more and I like your approach better - to teach that kindness feels good, as opposed to adding more shame and misery to an already obviously struggling person.