I really do, especially when you plan to keep the number really low as most of us do today. What do you say about it? Is it a better life for them to do this, like companionship and memories?
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I am glad they have become close Bob. My sister is four years older than me & we were never close & still not. It somehow was too much of a gap & then too she stayed gone a lot; not a home body like me being content to stay home with Mom
Maybe it just depends on the individuals.
"Truly, if I had it to do over, I wouldn't have had the second one at all."
WOW! Such honesty is unusual and refreshing in this climate of "political correctness". My guess is there are some parents who wish they'd never had children period.:)
That is sad MizB and I do understand it. As far as your siblings it sounds like you were sort of a second mother; which I was for my 4 younger brothers though they were just 2 to 8 years younger. No I would not know about abortions way back then!
Dashing, truly I relate to the 2nd one more than I do the first one, but if I'd known that I would be a single parent, I probably wouldn't have had any. BTW, I'm not very politically correct anyway. LOL
3 Cheers for Mz B!! I am not PC either! To hell w/ walking on eggs! I'm just fine the way I've been all my life! I ADORE my sons...Yet, I can say if I had my life to do over...I'd have NO KIDS! What's wrong w/ that? Even my sons understand!! LOL
I have about had it with PC! You can't open your mouth anymore without offending someone! It really is getting to be too much.
Jackie, I know, RIGHT?? Good grief and A-men!! I'm beginning to be offended by TOO MANY WHIMPS BEING OFFENDED BY EVERY LITTLE THING THAT COMES ALONG! LMAO! GET OVER YOURSELVES!!
It is refreshing to tell the truth. Having more than 1 child can be quite stressful physically, not to mention emotionally, mentally, psychologically, even psychically. Many people are deciding on 1 child which is BEST for all overall.
OK, I'll tell the truth. I never wanted children because I got enough of raising kids with my 2 younger siblings and my best friend's younger siblings (she raised 3 for her mama, 8 kids in her family.) I wanted to be a professional, not a mama.
Truth is I wanted four and after I had one I said OUCH I am not doing that again! But you know how that goes and I had one more but I made sure that was it!
That is kids for you. You wonder how two from the same family can be so different but it happens.
This is so true. Many people have 2 children to avoid having an only child. They somehow feel that having 1 child is a stigma when it is actually highly advantageous. No sibling rivalry, no sibling drama-only children are actually the happiest !!
My eldest son & wife have just ONE daughter (w/ no more to come) She certainly has NO reason to unhappy! She's also very mature & intelligent for her age. Has plenty of "friends" in school & socially. One child is FINE!
One child certainly is fine. The idea that children need siblings for companionship is such an atavistic idea. Average siblings either tolerate each other at best and hate each other at worst. There are forms of companionship other than siblings!
I sort of believe in 2 because of how populated the world is but I agree that in certain cases it changes things; such as with you. I know of a couple cases like yours with spaces in two sets of children & can only think it has to be great paren
Makes a lot of sense. Strange that although my two no longer hang together much they both have many of the same talents, artistically.
That is great, We live and learn.
Well my sister and I are not close with 4 yrs between us but my 4 younger brothers with 2 years between them making 6 years between the oldest and youngest have always been close. They hunt and camp and all that.
That is interesting; especially being opposite sex. That's wonderful.
Thank you Jackie , your picture is a nice picture that reminded me of my youngest two ! Thanks
Those are my only two and regrettable they are not particularly close; just different personalities. They were close when young though and super sweet. Just perfect angels....until they hit their teens! lol
Oh Jackie....Didn't anyone ever tell you about the "mini-monster" that takes up residency in the brain of teens? I'm sorry.....I should have told you!! LOL
Glad it's ALL behind me now!!! Whew!!
Me too Paula! Never want to do that again!
Strange; my sister and I four years apart have never been close. She didn't want me around her and her friends and it was always that way even though I kept secrets for them and was not a brat. No reason she shouldn't have and her friends liked me.