My oldest (almost 12 yr old boy) wants to be good at sports. I doubt this will ever happen. He's always had coordination issues, and he has no real interest in these sports other than being able to say he is good at them (seeks to be good at everything). He is however good at many other things. He is a reader, video game king, and very bright with technology. What is the best advice a mother can give without making him feel bad about his inability to do sports? I have tried focusing on his positives, and this isn't working.
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My thought was this was likely a normal thing for his age. Wants to be good for the sake of showing off a bit, but no real follow through. Thanks!
I think it is wanting to be like other ppl. Cute story, and I believe that is his situation. The kid is smart, does coding for computers already, but doesn't want to be seen as "the smart kid" rather be seen as the athletic or popular kid.
My hubby has been coding 4 over 40 yrs. He said, if a kid becomes a wizard in the STATISTICS of sports, batting averages etc., he can become very popular with the sports minded guys w/o having to be good at it. more ideas but need urcomment for space
That is actually a good idea. He is a data minded child. He likes statistics, numbers, things that make things make sense for his brain.
Do u watch "The Big Bang Theory" together? My Mike is a bit of a Sheldon.That show has made "smart" the new "popular" + help communica. Also "Scorpion"!Old movie "Real Genius" GREAT! Sports like track, swimming etc. Mike did guys' gymnastics in HS.
We do watch BBT and the new show Scorpion about high IQ people. He has Apergers, so his brain works diff but he just hasn't figured out he can still be cool AND smart. Swimming is a good idea also. I struggle to understand him sometimes.
I'm his mom, my natural instinct tells me it's my job to tell him everything. lol! Maybe it can be a bit pushy, but I'd like to steer him in the right direction.
I'm going to do soccer w/ him, but he is far from lazy. He works our with his brain. His talents lie in taking apart computers and learning. I think he just wants to fit in and not be seen as nerdy. I encourage what I see he is good at. Thanks!