I'm going to go toward the opposite side of the spectrum here. Who created the worse memories? Do you know each and every family member that you are defining?
what I mean by this- I was very close to my siblings for so many years. I was known as the 'fun' one. But then my siblings decided they couldn't handle my mom after she slipped into the life of Dementia. I became the 'enemy' after asking questions about her care. They liked that she was taken to a facility and drugged up. I was then known as the mean aunt that may be suing the others. Did I? Was I really? No. But that is what the children gleaned from their parents. There was a lot of innuendo along with finger pointing. My point? You will always ask yourself if it was wise in ignoring members that loved your grandmother. Are you being fair in your summation? Could you possibly have been led astray in family disputes. Good luck, but know this- when you get older you will wish you could go back in time, get to know relatives on your terms, your time table-it may be too late.