"In a perfect world you wouldn't have sex until you were emotionally mature enough and financially secure enough to cope with any potential consequence that might arise from having sex.
In other words you would focus on your education, establishing a career, and street smarts. However I am not naïve and understand my words may fall on deaf ears. After all I too was once a teenager.
I understand in most instances parents and teenagers live in a "parallel universe" which rarely intersects unless there is trouble.
My hope is that as my daughter you would come and talk with me before making any major decisions. As your parent I am not only responsible for your welfare but I love you very much.
Always remember you can talk to me about any and everything.
When it comes to sex:
"The kiss is the persuasion to lower invasion."
Be aware of your surroundings and any cues that may reveal a young man's (true motives) for meeting up with you such as parking in a secluded area, attempts to ply you with alcohol or drugs, candlelight or fireplace in darken room with music...etc
1. Always use birth control plus condoms (if you insist on having sex)
2. Never allow anyone to pressure or trick you into having sex.
3. Never confuse sex with love. (Boys and men don't.)
4. Never have sex with a hidden agenda such as to hold onto him.
5. It's unlikely your teenage boyfriend will be the man you marry.
6. Having sex does not make you an adult.
7. Have a "mate selection criteria" and be extremely selective.
In the U.S. today the average person loses their virginity by age 17. The average first marriage for women is age 27 and for men it's 29.
Clearly that would suggest on average most people have 10 years or more of sexual activity prior to getting married.
Essentially that means the person one loses their virginity to is not likely going to be the person they end up marrying!."