Motherhood is dependent upon approach & attitude. There are mothers who approach motherhood as a loving vocation. They entered into motherhood willingly with much forethought, viewing motherhood as positive even with the difficult roads encountered. Such mothers view motherhood as an enriching, growth process in which they & their children learn & grow together.
There are some mothers who approach motherhood as a trial, duty, & obligation. Perhaps they were coerced into being mothers by their religion, parents, relatives, & peers. They were hesitant about becoming mothers in the first place with a few not wanting to mothers at all. They are mothers only in the most perfunctory. They are dutiful to their children, providing them with the necessary comforts & no more. They are mothers because they MUST & HAVE to be, no more no less.
There are other mothers who approach motherhood as the be & end all of their lives. They have no other nor outside lives than that of motherhood. They are overly involved & invested in their children's lives. They are mothers above all, placing motherhood before being individual women & wives. They aren't above sacrificing all for motherhood including themselves. They are quite uncomfortable with their children asserting themselves & becoming independent people. They are the happiest when their children depend upon them. They feel that their children are the center of their lives & without their children, they are absolutely nothing. They also will do anything to keep their children dependent upon them, if not physically, emotionally, mentally, psychologically, & even psychically.