Some of those living check to check, those receiving some form of government assistance, addicts, spendthrifts, etc. expect their children take care of them financially, even when the parents provide no resources, support, or tools to help the child become an affluent adult. Do they not understand how harmful this mindset is when what's best for their child(ren) should be most important? Do they truly not know this expectation and even indoctrination in some cases, can severely limit their children's potential (educational/financial/etc.) in life & can contribute to generational poverty?
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This answer is what I thought happened in 3rd world countries & not here in modern America. I am being awakened from my ignorance. Am I in the minority in the thinking that the parents should be self sufficient prior to having children?
I must make it clear that I do not think that all of poor feel this way, I did say some. However, I've noticed a surprising number do. I find it sad and tragic because this thinking put into action is a burden on children & has negative effects.
This mindset & attitude ARE common among parents in the lower, working, & lower middle classes. They expect their children to give money to them & to look after them when they got old. They view children FAR DIFFERENTLY than affluent pa
I find that some equate being poor with being ignorant and less-than-good. Being "affluent" as being superior not only in income but in intelligence and good character. What a sad view of the world. It is not even true.
MarieLB I made it clear that some poor parents expect their kids to take care, despite them not leading by good example. I have even had a couple of US born complete strangers strike up this subject & support this idea. I ask why it it common?
I have to agree with you. I know of parents who have sacrificed to give their children college educations. I took care of my mother who had Alzheimers because I loved her and took her out of a nursing home and brought her from AR to California.
I was as clear stating that "Some of those..." Resources and tools are wide & varied, far more than keeping a roof over one's head & food on a table. It seems this reality is lost on many & they create life without thought or planning.
I took common to mean a high percentage. I hope it is not that common. I wish people would teach their kids to have high goals and try hard to succeed.
Many parents in the lower socioeconomic echelons have children just to be having them. They don't practice family planning. It's common for some to have MORE children than they can properly care for, hence the problem......