Growing up in Asia, I don't think I will ever get use to how in the west, women take husband's last name and I don't think I will ever be OK, of having a daughter who take another man's last name after marriage. I image saying "I'm OK with u dating white guy, only if u keep ur last name after marriage and his family is OK with it." I will be furious if she adopt another man's last man's after marriage. I waste 18 years raising her, just so she can, replace it with some other dud's last name? This daughter is dead to me, don't even want her to coming to my funeral.
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Well said, Aime. Unfortunately there are still huge numbers of people who think their children are their property rather than 'souls placed in trust' until they can go out into the world on their own.
I can understand in the western women taking husband's last name because in pre modern western culture they believe wife is husband's property (lucky it ain't mainstream value anymore), but if she is not from a western background, there is no excuse
No, everyone in my family took our husbands name. Nothing to do with property. We are partners and equals. I have friends who kept their name and that was more confusing Even caused problems when getting passports or travelling out of the country.