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Broken homes & shattered hearts: How to find healing after divorce.
A warrior girds himself with the proper armor to emerge victoriously from any battle. To the very least, if all hell breaks loose, and everything crumbles around him, he wants to at least survive. Being a survivor of brokenness takes more than armor. It takes putting a power greater than yourself first, relying on it, drawing strength and hope from it. Putting your trust in it.
A warrior knows there will be battle scars. Scars never heal. They can be covered up. Scars are reminders of the hardship, the battle, the blood and guts. Scars remind us we survived, and lived to tell the tale.
Scars warn others that come after us. They scream out: Watch it! Learn from my mistakes! Don't go in there to that battlefield unless you are prepared to get battle scars.
Divorce is war. But war doesn't have to be devastating. Divorce is a battle over the family unit, and only God can mend the broken pieces.
Healing through divorce.
Put your armor on. Gird the leather clad belt around your muscular waist line and slide your long sword in the sheath.
You are preparing for a battle in your own home.
This is a battle that takes families by storm, leaving them gasping in pain, heartache. You think you are prepared to face any obstacle tossed in your path. You think you have the proper training and instruction to succeed into victory from this battle.
You fight the enemy, but you still come out with battle scars; wounds that take a life time to heal.
Divorce is a battle. A war.
The survivors grope around through the darkness hoping to find a beacon of hope and provision. But the pain still lingers on.
Divorce involves the whole family, not just the fractured husband and wife with the kids. The family unit is dissolved and life goes on, but it will never be the same.
Scars never fully heal, but you can cover them up.
So what do you do when you are the one left fending for the family without a spouse?
Forgive. Forgiveness opens the door for God to heal your heartache and damaged emotions. Forgiveness helps you put the past behind you so you can walk on into your new future.
You cannot look ahead to the blessings God has in store for you if you are not willing to let go of the past.
Walk on. Deep inside, you are fighting a battle. Is it an uphill battle? Yes. Will the effort you are putting into what is left of your family unit be worth the glory? Yes!
Is holding grudges at your ex worth the struggling emotional damage you will have deep inside? No.
What about your innocent children?
When you show your children that you are standing up for righteousness; willing to fight to maintain morals in your home, you are setting an awesome example for your children to follow one day in their own life.
Don't let your divorce or damaged relationships hold you back from blessings in your future. God is greater.
So walk on. Stand tall. Get up and fight for your family, your children, and whatever future God has in store for you.
Even if it means walking as a single parent the rest of your days; the sacrifices you make now in your children's lives will yield greater benefits and blessings than living in the past of what a broken home has done to you.
So walk on. Stand tall for what fragmented family you have left. God is the master of taking broken shreds of disaster and piecing them together to create a masterpiece. Just look at stained glass, after all, it is broken and put back together. Our lives are no different.