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BEWARE THE INTERNATIONAL SOUNDEX REUNION REGISTRY
ADOPTION-SEPARATED PEOPLE WHO ARE SEARCHING: BEWARE THE INTERNATIONAL SOUNDEX REUNION REGISTRY
Recent efforts to register with adoption reunion registries led to an "interesting" discovery. It concerns the International Soundex Reunion Registry.
To adoption-separated people, looking for each other, those at the ISRR promote themselves as the best reunion registry to have your name listed on as an almost guarantee of locating each other. Study of the facts however shows that in fact this may not be the truth.
Here's why. The HARD COPY MAIL-IN-ONLY registration REQUIREMENT to list your name on the passive reunion registry of the International Soundex Reunion Reigstry in actuality IS A MANDATE. This ORDER MEANS that an adoption-separated person has NO CHOICE by which to register his/her name and other private information with the ISRR.
They enforce this mandate at the ISRR by not providing [an] email address[es] or [a] fax number[s]. Therefore this absence of alternative methods to contact the ISRR constitutes enforcement.
It's like separation enforcement. By this I mean that this scheme is consistent with the complaints (of mostly first mothers) about adoption practitioners like lawyers and social workers etc. enforcing the separation of children from their mothers and vice versa by sinister methods. This could be one of those under-handed ways.
Their absence at the ISRR of flexibility regarding their mail-in-only requirement for registering, with them, makes them at the ISRR suspect. It's almost like those at the ISRR keep this mandate in place more to conceal wrong-doing and less for registration purposes.
Such wrong-doing could entail a couple things. One possibility is that while being routed through the surface mail system, which usually is the United States Postal Service (USPS), ISRR-intended mail is removed. Said mail then does not reach its destination of the ISRR.
It seems plausible this situation actually may exist simply because of the absence of alternative methods to contact the ISRR. Also this vacuum reinforces the suspicion that those at the ISRR do not in fact receive the USPS-routed mail registration forms because they know they don't and since they know this hence they thus are compelled not to provide alternative methods for contacting them.
Second is the possibility that those at the ISRR do receive USPS-routed mail registration forms but then they hand over this mail to [a][n] anti-reunion person[s]. In turn this could be anybody--from [an] adoptive parent[s] to [a] lawyer[s] or [a] social worker[s] etc.--who is against adoptees being reunited with their first parents and absolutely does not want natural mothers and same fathers finding their adoption-lost son or daughter.
The ISRR's excessive secrecy raises too many suspicions to be ignored. They're too secretive, even by concealed/closed adoption standards.
Sincerely, I proclaim to others Don't be discouraged. On the other hand Do BEware, and Aware! Investigate first, if necessary, especially since there are many parties who falsely claim they can find your adoption-lost loved one easy.