Blended Families Issues and Solutions
Simple Solutions for Blended and Step Families
I'm a mother of two, and step-mom to two more. He has two children, I have one child and we have one together. Sometimes things are messy, but we work to be fair and fix things as best we can. This page is dedicated to solutions for real problems blended families face.
Holidays with Part Time Kids
We only have my step kids here every other Christmas. I like to be flexible so they don't feel torn between two households. However, I don't believe in sending gifts to be opened at their home-away-from-my-home on a Christmas spent at their biological mother's house. The main reason for this is when I've sent gifts in the past it is not always communicated that the gifts came from us (even when we include cards). I don't want the step kids to ever think we didn't consider them. So on the years when we get to see them at Thanksgiving (and not Christmas) we make a big to do the day after Thanksgiving decorating the tree and after we're done I pull out pre-wrapped presents and we have an "unofficial" Christmas.
I celebrate again on Christmas Day with my biological children, and send one or two small gifts in the mail to be opened on Christmas Day at the step kids' biological mom's house.