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Books for a New Big Sister or Big Brother when Baby Sibling is Born

Updated on September 7, 2014

Adjusting to a new baby can be difficult for older siblings- books about being a big brother or sister can help prepare your child

The transition for your son or daughter when a new baby is born can be a challenging road but so rewarding and fun if handled well. One of the best ways to help your child adjust to being a big brother or big sister is through story telling. It can help them understand how their life will change but that your love for them never will. Children need a lot of reassurance during this time. A nightly story can help ease their worries and is a great way for some alone time with your son or daughter. When buying a baby gift for a newborn it's nice to get something small for older siblings so they don't feel left out. Books about a new baby or being a big brother or sister are thoughtful and inexpensive presents for older siblings.

Siblings are the people who will know you the longest. Your parents will die, children come later and friends come and go. Brothers and sisters are lifelong companions who in old age will remember the youthful you.

I'm a Big Sister - New baby book by Joanna Cole

This is the book I bought for my daughter to help her adjust to the idea of a new baby brother. I got it months in advance of his due date and we read it all the time. Though she was under two she understood I was pregnant. She couldn't express her feelings but she would kiss my belly so I knew she understood what was going on, at least to some extent. She loved this book so much that I have the entire book memorized word for word. I now always buy this book or the big brother version for the older siblings of my friends or family that have a new baby.

I'm a Big Sister
I'm a Big Sister

This book is great because it sets expectations of how to handle baby, and most importantly that the big sister will always be loved just as much as always. It also highlights all the positives of being older:

"The baby is so little. Too little to walk. Too little to talk. Too little to play with toys. Too little to eat pizza or apples or ice cream."

 

I'm a Big Brother - New baby book by Joanna Cole

I liked the girl version so much that I bought the boy version when I was again expecting for my son. This book is essentially the same as the big sister version just geared towards a big brother instead. One thing I like about both these books is the younger sibling's gender isn't clear so it's appropriate whether your new baby is a boy or a girl.

Big Sister Meets Little Brother

Tips to help adjust your child adjust to a new baby - (Aside from reading new baby books about being a big brother or sister)

  • Spend time going through your child's baby pictures so they see how cared for they are and that they were once that small
  • Many hospitals offer classes to prepare siblings for a new baby. Check with yours
  • Take your child to pick out an outfit for the baby and let them pick one for themselves. Compare the difference in sizes and remind your child that they once fit into the baby sized clothing
  • Have the new baby bring your older child a gift when they're born. I like personally like something sentitmental but it could be anything. My son brought my daughter a beautiful butterfly jewelry box.
  • Make sure no matter how busy you are that you spend some alone time with your older child once the baby comes
  • Try to keep your routine with your older child as similar to what it was before the new baby was born
  • Have your child help you pack for the hospital and let them know you'll be thinking of them and missing them but will be home soon

New Baby Book for a New Big Sister

Prepare your daughter for the birth of your new baby by reading her a book on becoming a big sister. It can help her get excited for her new sibling, understand she still has her special place in the family and how to handle the baby in a safe manner.

New Baby Book for a New Big Brother - Prepare your son to become a big brother

These books will help prepare your older son to welcome a new little sibling into the family. They feature an older big brother meeting his new younger baby.

Gender Neutral New Baby Book

These are particularly great options if you're preparing an older brother and sister for the arrival of a new baby so they both can relate. They're also a good choice if you have a big brother and a big sister that will be welcoming the new baby.

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Let your older child be a part of caring for your new baby

The biggest cause of resentment among siblings is rivalry for attention. If you make older siblings feel like they are a part of things, they are much less likely to harbor a grudge against their new younger brother or sister. The more they love and care for their sibling, the more the feeling will be returned. Their relationship will be off to a good start and will continue to grow as they age and can do more activities together.

Let your older child hold the baby (with permission), give them a bottle, hand you a wipe when you're changing baby, pick their outfit for the day and give the baby a kiss when they're about to go to sleep. Ask their opinion if they think the baby is cold, hungry or tired. This will help them to feel valued and a part of things. Just be careful to spend some time alone and don't let all your time together be focused on baby. Make some special time just for you and your older child.


© 2012 Melissa Miotke

How did you help your child adjust to a new sibling? Did you read them any new baby books?

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      electrolion 4 years ago

      I really like this lens. This is very helpful to families awaiting a new birth.

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      Aunt-Mollie 4 years ago

      I always bring "big brother" and/or "big sister" presents when a bring a present for a new baby. It's so important to siblings to understand how important they are to the family when there is a new baby getting so much attention.

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      Camden1 4 years ago

      We read books, talked a lot about it, and had the baby bring presents for the older kids.

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      Fay Favored 4 years ago from USA

      Really good idea for introducing a new baby into the home.

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      Tara Wojtaszek 4 years ago

      Had to come back to bless this. I'll definitely be referring to this page when it comes time for #2 (not quite there yet though :)

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      Scullyvan 4 years ago

      Reading books to prepare them is great. My folks always brought home a new toy for the older brother/sister and said it was from the baby.

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      aussiejon 4 years ago

      Great lens, there was a bit of an adjustment period with our oldest getting used to the idea of the new bub getting all the attention, a book like those above would have helped a lot.

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      Christine V 4 years ago from Philippines

      Even after having 5 children, I still can't say that I've mastered this skill. Children are different so a mom or dad need to tailor any action to the child's personality. Your tips here would generally work wonders. Thanks for sharing.

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      dellgirl 4 years ago

      Congratulations on making the latest 'MonsterBoard: SquidAngel 1,000!! Last updated Friday February 15, 2013 02:35:17 AM EST. Awesome-arriffic!!!Another Big Congratulations on getting the Purple Star for this very helpful lens! ~Blessed~

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      TACTCI LM 4 years ago

      We just said we're having another baby! And they were like, coooooollll!

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      andrewdar 4 years ago

      Useful advice of a mother of two children:) Thank you !

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      Cynthia Sylvestermouse 4 years ago from United States

      Excellent advice and book recommendations!

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      Melissa Miotke 4 years ago from Arizona

      @anonymous: Thank you:)!

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      senterprises 4 years ago

      I've got a little girl who is about to have a little brother. I'm certainly going to look at the books you've recommended. Many look like they would be a great addition to the family library.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Yay! You won the purple star. Congratulations.

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      Mamabyrd 4 years ago

      We gave my girls a special gift the first time they met their baby brother. One adjusted very well and loved him from the moment she saw him. The other is still wondering when he is going to go back to where he came from.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      He loves her! He was a bit young to understand the books however.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Returning to love this with a little angel dusting.....happy reading!

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      CoolFool83 4 years ago

      These look really great! Awesome stuff here.

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      norma-holt 4 years ago

      My son was handed his new baby sister when we returned from the hospital and was overjoyed. When the next sibling arrived she was put on the floor for the 2 older ones to romp with her and she was just days old. They loved each other then but now is tragically a different story. Great lens and featured on Blessed by Skiesgreen 2013. Hugs.

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      Tolovaj Publishing House 4 years ago from Ljubljana

      New kid in a family is huge change. Talk, reading and A LOT of love helps!

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      LouisaDembul 5 years ago

      What a great idea with a book for a new big sister or brother. My first daughter was overjoyed when her sister arrived, helping me take care of her.

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      Gloria Freeman 5 years ago from Alabama USA

      Love this idea, thanks for sharing. Blessed and added to my lens...Squid Angel flinnie

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      Miha Gasper 5 years ago from Ljubljana, Slovenia, EU

      Reading books and talk can really help a kid to adapt. Getting a sibling is big change!

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      koolclipz 5 years ago

      I am going to show our daughter your page and we will pick out some books we like. Thank you for the great lens. We have a daughter Alyssa almost 10, and a new daughter Ashlyn who is a month old. So this was a great find for us!

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      Laraine Sims 5 years ago from Lake Country, B.C.

      I would have loved to have more but we were only blessed with one child. We "imported" children for her to play with. I love your book lens .. I would like to publish some of the stories I have written for young ones. Maybe some day.

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      Melissa Miotke 5 years ago from Arizona

      @LaraineRoses: Wow that would be great if you could publish some children's stories. Based on your lenses I'm sure they'd be wonderful. If you ever do publish any let me know!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Very thoughtful suggestions and recommendations!

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      Melissa Miotke 5 years ago from Arizona

      @WriterJanis2: Aww, that's so sweet! You are lucky:)

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      WriterJanis2 5 years ago

      I got lucky. Mine were always happy to have a new sibling. When my second was born I got my oldest a new baby doll so she could have her own baby. She could have cared less. She just wanted to be around her new baby brother.

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      Diva2Mom 5 years ago

      Had to come back to abundantly Bless this well-deserved lens! God bless dear Melissa :)

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      pawpaw911 5 years ago

      Love the big sister meeting little brother photo. Now those are moments to remember.

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      missmary1960 5 years ago

      Very sweet :)

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      Diva2Mom 5 years ago

      Great lens, my dear! You did an excellent job! As soon as I find out that I'm expecting, my dear hubby and I would gather all ouf children and share the great news with them, that's our Step#1 to prepare them for whatever transition that may take place, from my new pregnancy all the way to welcoming a new addition to our family. When I only had 3 or 4 kids, I did the same thing that you did in helping older children to happily embrace the coming of a new sibling. We had one of these books that you listed here, and everything you said was TRUE. Impressive, Melissa dear! If I were a Squid Angel now, this lens is so worthy to be Blessed :). Hope I get my wings one day so I can come back to make sure this lens is recognized for its valuable content. God bless you darlin and stay fabulous and happy with your beautiful family! Muah!

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      Rose Jones 5 years ago

      We didn't get the big brother/little brother stuff worked out - I wish I had read your lens - especially the part about giving the kids a job. Excellent books suggestion, excellent lens. Blessed.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      That tender look on your daughter's face as she meets her new brother is a heart melter for sure, what a precious moment...your children are adorable. I remember my oldest son was so looking forward to having a little brother to do stuff with and it came as a bit of a surprise to him how long his brother would be a baby. I love your ideas here to help through this important transition time and so sweetly done!

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      Rosaquid 5 years ago

      How precious your family is! This is a beautiful lens. Thank you! By the way, your excellent tips work. Our girls are nearly 5 years apart and they're still great buddies though they are so different from each other.

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      tobydavis 5 years ago

      Lovely idea for a lens and I'm sure very useful for parents wondering how to balance attention between the new baby and their other child / children - I'm going to forward it to a friend of mine who has two girls :-)

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      Tara Wojtaszek 5 years ago

      These are great tips for helping an older sibling adjust to a newborn, I often wondered what may happen if hubby and I decide to try for #2. I love the Big/Little Brother/Sister matching clothing sets, too cute.

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      blancaverome 5 years ago

      My oldest was given a firetruck by the baby. The third baby brought Hot Wheels home from the hospital for her big brothers.

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      JoshK47 5 years ago

      Excellent idea for a lens!

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      MintySea 5 years ago

      Cute book selection

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      thememorybooksh1 5 years ago

      Nice lens, thanks for the advice!

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      elyria 5 years ago

      Adorable kids and great advice!