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consequence of strictness

Updated on September 28, 2015
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Being a strict and disciplinary parent according to some is an absolute necessity as parents are the only people who can and must tell you what’s right for you. All the parents love their children indiscriminately. They are however impatient about the decisions their children make. Thus they try their best to deter them even if they have to be harsh. For the children however it is difficult to grasp why the parents are being so stiff about something which is not such a big deal. Here i have discussed some of the consequences that i myself have experienced firsthand.

Lack of communication

Kids would try to make their parents understand but mostly they would just avoid communicating with them. It is when they get older is when the parents realize how detached their children have become. It is as if they are strangers to their own kids.

Doubting parents’ affection

They doubt your decisions for them, start doubting your affection for them. They feel as if you do everything for your own interest. The rules you make for them seem to them as a means of your own convenience and comfort.

Inability to trust

The children become habitual of hiding stuff from their own parents. It is because of the lack of trust which becomes part of their personality. The lack of trust remains with them for life and gets between any relationship they make.

Lack of self confidence

They can never be confident about the decisions they make. It will always be as if something is holding them back. It is always in their heart that they are lacking somewhere. They feel that there is something wrong with whatever they do no wonder their own parents don’t trust them.

Isolation

The children get somehow isolated due to their lack of trust. They become unable to express themselves and thus feel as if no one can understand them.

Disregard for relationships

As it is said that charity begins at home. If the children cant trust their own parents, it is nearly not possible for them to truly have trust in someone else. They would just think they are better off alone since they are difficult for people to understand.

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      Hajra Bajwa 2 years ago from Pakistan

      thank you for the appreciation..its just that they are sometimes too scared for you to understand..

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      Lana Adler 2 years ago from California

      Very insightful hub. I can relate to everything you've described, alas. Unfortunately, many parents still believe that being strict and controlling is going to pay off in the long run. In reality, they just push their children away and destroy their ability to trust. Really great hub. Welcome to Hub Pages!

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      Hajra Bajwa 2 years ago from Pakistan

      thank you so much for taking the time to read. Im really glad to get a positive comment from a writer like yourself.

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      John Hansen 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Welcome to Hub Pages Hajra. This is a good hub offering sound advice to parents. I do agree the real problem between many parents and their children is effective communication. Well done.

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