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Every Body is Beautiful.

Updated on October 10, 2016

We all have beauty in one form or another


Your body is beautiful.

It is important that you believe that your body is beautiful, no matter what flaws you may have. How you and your children look at and talk about your body Is important. Celebrate the fact that people come in all shapes and sizes. Be a source of positive comments about self-image. Talk about health and happiness rather than appearance.

Help children to get through those years, without judging what their body looks like, as everybody is beautiful, no two bodies are alike, unless they are identical twins, and then they are different, in their inner selves, mind, soul and they have their own thoughts.

It's a sad day when you first realize that your children are becoming aware of their body image, for it is easier for them to get through life, by just accepting your body as it was gifted to them. Studies have shown that some children start talking about body image as young as seven, one study found that 48% of girls when asked, selected an ideal body type that was thinner than their own.

Meanwhile, celebrities obsess about their weight, kids surf the net and watch TV, and there is only so much parents can do, but it's worth doing it anyway.

Inside the living body

About this Video - Inside the Living Body

This is one of the most interesting videos of how our bodies start working at the moment of birth.

You may be surprised. Believe me after watching this you will know that "Every Body is Beautiful".

Remarkable information.

Stats Just Out!

Only 12% of woman over 50 are satisfied with their size and those who are content with their body size aren't happy about other aspects, like their stomach, face and aging skin.

Tips for helping your child avoid obsessing about body image.

Photo Credit - Elsie Hagley
Photo Credit - Elsie Hagley

Be careful how you talk about your own body, if you are overweight don't say "I hate myself" or talk about yourself as being "fat" or "ugly".

Perhaps get some help for your own body-image issues.

Meanwhile, keep negative thoughts inside your own head and don't vocalize them.

If you are on a diet, talk about your "healthy eating regime" rather than the fact that you are starving and are a bad person for having no willpower.

If possible, do not even talk about a diet, just say you are eating better food, you want to lose some weight and that will mean you can have more fun running around with the kids.

If your child is over weight, never,ever talk about putting them on a diet.

You control what they eat so simply replace and substitute unhealthy food for healthy food without making a fuss.

Talk about the five plus a day servings of fruit and vegetables and the advantages of putting good food into your bodies, such as having more energy.

Do not rate and compare your child with their friends.

Children come in all shapes and sizes at the same age, so remarking that one child is so much smaller, taller, bigger than another is only encouraging your child to notice a difference rather than accept their friends as they are.

Do not let your children hear you doing a" rate and compare" about your friends and acquaintances- you may be tempted to refer to someone as "fat" or "skin and bones".

Let your children be who they are and resist the urge to point out aspects of their body shape if they are in togs or sports gear "Oh look at that big puku" is cute when they are toddlers, but not when they are school age.

If your child says they are unhappy with their bodies, try to find out why.

Is it a result of teasing at school, has a friend made a comment or have they reached this conclusion all on their own?

If there is a bulling issue you need to get straight up to the school and deal with it. Then sit down with your child, explain that bodies change shape and size as children grow and then gently, over the next few months, ease your child into doing some more exercise, eating healthier food-as something the whole family is doing, not just your child.

Talk to your child about how everyone is different.

Discuss hair and eye color, skin color, height and weight, abilities, likes and dislikes.

Ask them what the world would be like if everyone was the same, and encourage them to be accepting all different shapes and sizes.

Do not reinforce messages about trying to have a perfect body.

If you are reading a magazine together or watching TV as a family, discuss realistic-looking bodies in positive term such as "doesn't she look happy and healthy.

Never, ever ridicule your child in front of people by saying things like " Some parents think it is amusing, but their child simply gets the message that they are bad, unworthy, fat and deprived.

How to Help My Moody and Anxious Child

Beautiful Bodies
Beautiful Bodies

Is your teenage child moody?

What children eat can help to keep them in good spirits and help them to accept their body as it is."I am beautiful as I am," why try to change myself because someone said something about me I did not like. Some foods contain substances which trigger the release of hormones and chemicals that keep them calm and happy.

Did you know?

Anorexics and Bulimics, as well as Drug Addicts and people with Obsessive Compulsive Disorders, have all been shown to have low levels of serotonin.

Here's Some Good Mood Foods - That may balance their diet that has Serotonin in them.


Oily fish such as salmon are full of essential omega-3 fatty acids and these play an important part in battling the blues. Omega-3 increases serotonin levels as well as making the brain more receptive to it. Studies show that people who eat plenty of fish are 31% less likely to suffer from depression.

Fish also has vitamin B12 which helps us deal with stress. Other sources of B12 are shellfish, beef, yoghurt and eggs.


Milk has an amino acid called tryptophan, which help our brains to make the neurotransmitter serotonin. Serotonin works with endorphins in a process that have been dubbed "nature's Prozac" because it works to stabilize our moods and keep us calm. Drinking milk before bed is often recommended as a natural remedy for insomnia.

It is also a good source of the mood-lifting vitamins B12 and D.


Carbohydrates in food like brown rice boost serotonin levels too. While all carbs do this, refined ones like white bread, cakes, and sugary foods only give you a short sharp boost. Then your blood-sugar levels crash making you feel low, and so you want another quick fix.

It's a vicious cycle that not only leads to mood swings but also means you pile on weight. Complex carbs like brown rice are digested more slowly than refined carbs like white flour and sugar so you feel fuller-and happier-for longer.


Is a great source of folate or folic acid, a key player in the production of serotonin. Research has shown a link between low folate levels and depression. One study found 15% to 40% of people with depression had low levels of folate.

Dark green leafy vegetables, lentils, and kidney beans all contain folate.


This is high in phenylalanine, an amino acid our body turns into dopamine. This elevates mood and helps prevent depression. One study shows phenylalanine may be as effective as an anti-depressant drug.


Vitamin C boosts levels of another brain chemical called norepinephrine and if you don't get enough, you're likely to feel irritable and low. A shortage of vitamin C also effects your body's ability to absorb iron, which you need to fight fatigue.

Citrus fruit, kiwifruit and capsicums are also good.


These are a rich source of selenium which is essential for maintaining a happy mood.

The scientist doesn't know exactly why this is, but they do know selenium is so important to the brain that if the body's supply is running out other organs give up their share to supply the brain. Selenium levels in New Zealand soil are very low so deficiencies are common in this country.

Other sources of selenium include fish and dairy foods. Brazil nuts also contain magnesium and B2, which help produce serotonin, and zinc, which is another stress-buster.


Ripe bananas are another great source of tryptophan. Plus they contain vitamin B6, magnesium, and potassium, which all help stabilize moods.

Playing Dress-Ups

Children love dressing up it makes them feel beautiful. Photo Credit - Elsie Hagley
Children love dressing up it makes them feel beautiful. Photo Credit - Elsie Hagley

Love your Body

There are many books that may help you, and your children especially teens, feel better about their bodies, if you hear them saying things that is not good for their outlook in life, try and get them to talk, and see if you can find what is causing them to be feeling so bad. Maybe it will help them understand, a few things in life, that they feel about there selves, it doesn't work for every household, but let's work together to make the world a happy place for every body.

© 2011 Elsie Hagley

Are Your Teenage Children Happy with Their Body Image?

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      Elsie Hagley 2 years ago from New Zealand

      purplepeaches: Yes we are all unique in our own way, we should be very proud of that as our parents were very proud of us when we were born.

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      peachy 2 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      every child and parents are beautiful in their own way

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      Elsie Hagley 2 years ago from New Zealand

      ladyquitarpicker: It is so true that not one body is the same as another person, we need to let children know that their body is perfect no matter what problem they may have, because if we don't they are destroying their chance of having an enjoyable life and live their life to full enhancement of perfect happiness.

      Hope all is well with you, all the best for 2015,

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      stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

      I could not agree with you more on this hub. We need to love our children just as they are, and make sure we tell them . I think we are not focused on just loving ourselves the way we were created to look, God did not make a mistake, love yourself. Stella

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      Elsie Hagley 3 years ago from New Zealand

      @ecogranny. Sorry I missed your comment, I must see if I can change my ex lens to( not approve by me) as I keep forgetting to check them out, don't get a email about the comments on them, only the new ones I have made here on HubPages.

      Glad you enjoyed this hub it is a important subject especially with girls.

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      Elsie Hagley 3 years ago from New Zealand

      @Brite-Ideas Sorry I missed your comment, I'm not used to getting a email about comments on my ex squidoo articles, as I have to approve them.

      I forget to check my comments out, busy updating my hubs in any spare time I have. Busy on the farm with cows and calving.

      Nice to see you have beautiful boys, I bet they are, just look at their mother.

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      Kathryn Grace 3 years ago from San Francisco

      Such an incredibly important topic. As a grandmother of four, I appreciate the reminders and tips you've provided.

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      Barbara Tremblay Cipak 3 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      since I have boys, they're pretty good about their body image, plus they're deadly handsome, lol..although they roll their eyes when I say that.

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      Elsie Hagley 3 years ago from New Zealand

      @goldenrulecomics: Thanks for visiting and commenting. I think everyone should read this article as we are all human, we must look at ourselves as beautiful because that feeling and laughing our way through life, will keep the world going round.

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      goldenrulecomics 3 years ago

      This is a great advice and it's something every teenager should know.

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      Elsie Hagley 4 years ago from New Zealand

      @Monika Weise: Thanks for visiting and I am glad you enjoyed this article, it is a fact, our bodies are unique and we should be proud of it.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Inspiring lens.

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      Monika Weise 4 years ago from Indianapolis, IN USA

      I love the message in this lens. We all need to learn how to accept ourselves as we are.

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      Elsie Hagley 5 years ago from New Zealand

      @anonymous: Thanks for visiting my lens, Every body is beautiful, commenting, liking, and the blessing, I love your visits every time I see your face it makes me smile, a good start for a new day. Hope you are feeling better this week, have a nice day.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Very helpful article with great points.

      Everyone is beautiful, and unique! :)

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      RetroMom 5 years ago

      Thanks for the useful advice. This lens is also very inspiring.

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      NoobWriter LM 6 years ago

      My teenage is moody. I don't have any happiness now:(

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      bames24 lm 6 years ago

      beautiful lens... :)

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      Runnn 6 years ago

      Informative and beautiful lens. Thanks for sharing,,

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      darciefrench lm 6 years ago

      My girls were much happier with their body images than I was - I remember being extremely self-conscious about my body. thank-you for the lovely article, I'm sure it will help.

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      Joycevoice 6 years ago

      I don't yet have a teen, but it is never too early to start modeling a strong body image. Great advice in this lens.

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      Harshitha LM 6 years ago

      Great lens. I liked the 'Is Your Teenage Child Moody?' section.

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      mamamia2011 6 years ago

      this is so helpful info. i wish my two daughters and one son will be aware of this too.

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      katiecolette 6 years ago

      It's what inside what counts... But there's so much peer pressure to have a perfect body that anorexia and bulimia are major problems for many teenagers.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Very important tips and useful information. Self-esteem is very important part of growing up. Thanks for sharing.

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      Elsie Hagley 6 years ago from New Zealand

      Thanks to all, for visiting and commenting, appreciate it very much, teenagers need as much help that we can give them, so many lost souls on this exciting world we live in. If this lens can help them in any little way it will be great.

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      Mary Norton 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      This is really a lens I have learned from. Thanks.

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      sukkran trichy 6 years ago from Trichy/Tamil Nadu

      very interesting and informative read. thanks for sharing those useful parenting techniques. well presented lens.

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      Kasandra 6 years ago

      Thank you for featuring my lens. I hope yours will benefit many troubled teens, and bring much hope and smiles~

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      Elsie Hagley 6 years ago from New Zealand

      @Runnn: Thank you for stopping by and commenting, appreciated, will visit your lens also.

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      Runnn 6 years ago

      You are right. We should always give positive energy to the kids.

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      Elsie Hagley 6 years ago from New Zealand

      @hjrankin: Thanks for commenting, this is a very real problem, my grandson lived with me for 15 months, it was very hard, this is why I made this lens, maybe others that read this lens will come up with some more helpful tips.

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      hjrankin 6 years ago

      No, unfortunately. My daughter is only 13, but is already thinking she's fat when in fact she's as skinny as a rake. She is quite developed compared to her friends, which also causes issues.