- Family and Parenting
Every Body is Beautiful.
We all have beauty in one form or another
Your body is beautiful.
It is important that you believe that your body is beautiful, no matter what flaws you may have. How you and your children look at and talk about your body Is important. Celebrate the fact that people come in all shapes and sizes. Be a source of positive comments about self-image. Talk about health and happiness rather than appearance.
Help children to get through those years, without judging what their body looks like, as everybody is beautiful, no two bodies are alike, unless they are identical twins, and then they are different, in their inner selves, mind, soul and they have their own thoughts.
It's a sad day when you first realize that your children are becoming aware of their body image, for it is easier for them to get through life, by just accepting your body as it was gifted to them. Studies have shown that some children start talking about body image as young as seven, one study found that 48% of girls when asked, selected an ideal body type that was thinner than their own.
Meanwhile, celebrities obsess about their weight, kids surf the net and watch TV, and there is only so much parents can do, but it's worth doing it anyway.
Inside the living body
About this Video - Inside the Living Body
This is one of the most interesting videos of how our bodies start working at the moment of birth.
You may be surprised. Believe me after watching this you will know that "Every Body is Beautiful".
Stats Just Out!
Only 12% of woman over 50 are satisfied with their size and those who are content with their body size aren't happy about other aspects, like their stomach, face and aging skin.
Tips for helping your child avoid obsessing about body image.
Be careful how you talk about your own body, if you are overweight don't say "I hate myself" or talk about yourself as being "fat" or "ugly".
Perhaps get some help for your own body-image issues.
Meanwhile, keep negative thoughts inside your own head and don't vocalize them.
If you are on a diet, talk about your "healthy eating regime" rather than the fact that you are starving and are a bad person for having no willpower.
If possible, do not even talk about a diet, just say you are eating better food, you want to lose some weight and that will mean you can have more fun running around with the kids.
If your child is over weight, never,ever talk about putting them on a diet.
You control what they eat so simply replace and substitute unhealthy food for healthy food without making a fuss.
Talk about the five plus a day servings of fruit and vegetables and the advantages of putting good food into your bodies, such as having more energy.
Do not rate and compare your child with their friends.
Children come in all shapes and sizes at the same age, so remarking that one child is so much smaller, taller, bigger than another is only encouraging your child to notice a difference rather than accept their friends as they are.
Do not let your children hear you doing a" rate and compare" about your friends and acquaintances- you may be tempted to refer to someone as "fat" or "skin and bones".
Let your children be who they are and resist the urge to point out aspects of their body shape if they are in togs or sports gear "Oh look at that big puku" is cute when they are toddlers, but not when they are school age.
If your child says they are unhappy with their bodies, try to find out why.
Is it a result of teasing at school, has a friend made a comment or have they reached this conclusion all on their own?
If there is a bulling issue you need to get straight up to the school and deal with it. Then sit down with your child, explain that bodies change shape and size as children grow and then gently, over the next few months, ease your child into doing some more exercise, eating healthier food-as something the whole family is doing, not just your child.
Talk to your child about how everyone is different.
Discuss hair and eye color, skin color, height and weight, abilities, likes and dislikes.
Ask them what the world would be like if everyone was the same, and encourage them to be accepting all different shapes and sizes.
Do not reinforce messages about trying to have a perfect body.
If you are reading a magazine together or watching TV as a family, discuss realistic-looking bodies in positive term such as "doesn't she look happy and healthy.
Never, ever ridicule your child in front of people by saying things like " Some parents think it is amusing, but their child simply gets the message that they are bad, unworthy, fat and deprived.
How to Help My Moody and Anxious Child
Is your teenage child moody?
What children eat can help to keep them in good spirits and help them to accept their body as it is."I am beautiful as I am," why try to change myself because someone said something about me I did not like. Some foods contain substances which trigger the release of hormones and chemicals that keep them calm and happy.
Did you know?
Anorexics and Bulimics, as well as Drug Addicts and people with Obsessive Compulsive Disorders, have all been shown to have low levels of serotonin.
Here's Some Good Mood Foods - That may balance their diet that has Serotonin in them.
Oily fish such as salmon are full of essential omega-3 fatty acids and these play an important part in battling the blues. Omega-3 increases serotonin levels as well as making the brain more receptive to it. Studies show that people who eat plenty of fish are 31% less likely to suffer from depression.
Fish also has vitamin B12 which helps us deal with stress. Other sources of B12 are shellfish, beef, yoghurt and eggs.
Milk has an amino acid called tryptophan, which help our brains to make the neurotransmitter serotonin. Serotonin works with endorphins in a process that have been dubbed "nature's Prozac" because it works to stabilize our moods and keep us calm. Drinking milk before bed is often recommended as a natural remedy for insomnia.
It is also a good source of the mood-lifting vitamins B12 and D.
Carbohydrates in food like brown rice boost serotonin levels too. While all carbs do this, refined ones like white bread, cakes, and sugary foods only give you a short sharp boost. Then your blood-sugar levels crash making you feel low, and so you want another quick fix.
It's a vicious cycle that not only leads to mood swings but also means you pile on weight. Complex carbs like brown rice are digested more slowly than refined carbs like white flour and sugar so you feel fuller-and happier-for longer.
Is a great source of folate or folic acid, a key player in the production of serotonin. Research has shown a link between low folate levels and depression. One study found 15% to 40% of people with depression had low levels of folate.
Dark green leafy vegetables, lentils, and kidney beans all contain folate.
This is high in phenylalanine, an amino acid our body turns into dopamine. This elevates mood and helps prevent depression. One study shows phenylalanine may be as effective as an anti-depressant drug.
Vitamin C boosts levels of another brain chemical called norepinephrine and if you don't get enough, you're likely to feel irritable and low. A shortage of vitamin C also effects your body's ability to absorb iron, which you need to fight fatigue.
Citrus fruit, kiwifruit and capsicums are also good.
These are a rich source of selenium which is essential for maintaining a happy mood.
The scientist doesn't know exactly why this is, but they do know selenium is so important to the brain that if the body's supply is running out other organs give up their share to supply the brain. Selenium levels in New Zealand soil are very low so deficiencies are common in this country.
Other sources of selenium include fish and dairy foods. Brazil nuts also contain magnesium and B2, which help produce serotonin, and zinc, which is another stress-buster.
Ripe bananas are another great source of tryptophan. Plus they contain vitamin B6, magnesium, and potassium, which all help stabilize moods.
Love your Body
There are many books that may help you, and your children especially teens, feel better about their bodies, if you hear them saying things that is not good for their outlook in life, try and get them to talk, and see if you can find what is causing them to be feeling so bad. Maybe it will help them understand, a few things in life, that they feel about there selves, it doesn't work for every household, but let's work together to make the world a happy place for every body.
© 2011 Elsie Hagley