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Has adopting a child ever crossed your mind? how do you feel after you adopted ?

  1. sofs profile image82
    sofsposted 7 years ago

    Has adopting a child ever crossed your mind? how do you feel after you adopted ?

    If you had thought about adoption but never went through the process - why?

  2. wychic profile image89
    wychicposted 7 years ago

    For my husband and I, we've thought about adoption but haven't gone through the process because it's not yet the right time in our lives. Right now we're living in a 2-bedroom rental and have our second child on the way so there's no room, and currently money is being saved for a small acreage and the home that will be built on it, so there's nothing available for the fees associated with adoption. Once we get into a permanent place we will be looking at adoption in earnest, and then when or how we go through with it will depend on which children currently needing homes will fit well with our family and lifestyle since we intend to adopt older children...there's a waiting list for newborn babies, yet children 5+...or even 3+...are often completely overlooked

  3. camlo profile image89
    camloposted 7 years ago

    Well, I can only tell you what I know from the point of view of an adopted child - hope this helps: My adoptive parents gave the impression that they owned me - not even I was my own property.
    I hope they were the exception to the rule.

  4. puebloman profile image60
    pueblomanposted 7 years ago

    No, adopting a child has never crossed my mind, and if it had, and if I had even considered sharing my feelings with you I hope I would have been barred from adoption

  5. Lisa HW profile image71
    Lisa HWposted 7 years ago

    I have adopted.  He's grown up now.  I've never regretted it for one minute - ever.  I have always felt especially privileged to be able to be the mother of son that someone else delivered.  I have to biological children as well.  How I feel about being my eldest son's mother and their mother is the same.  I was aware, with my son, that I need to think out how to present some truths to him, so that was one thing I had with him but not his siblings.

    Just as people usually feel like having children makes them feel like they're "more of a person" than before they had children (in terms of emotional growth, strength, and maturity), I feel that way with my eldest son - only I feel that that having adopted a child also made me yet "more of a person" in a slightly different way, as well.

    Whenever I'm thinking about how I feel about any of my children, I realize my heart is kind of pounding ever so slightly.  I feel that way when I think about how I feel about having adopted my eldest son, or how I feel about him now that he's grown, as well.

  6. juiwei2000 profile image59
    juiwei2000posted 7 years ago

    My parents are thinking about adopting a girl.

    I am against it, considering the fact, I know I will be doing all the work taking care of the kid and just about all the money spend on the kid would come out of the bank account.

    I work 9am~5pm, so I have money for myself, not so I can spend it on somebody else!!!

  7. romari profile image58
    romariposted 7 years ago

    i am an adoptee. and I will never think of adoption. I will still really love to have my own child in the future. I don't want to adopt a child and let him or her to feel what I have felt to be an adoptee. It is painful to be separated from the biological parents.

  8. angela_michelle profile image97
    angela_michelleposted 6 years ago

    I felt wonderful, excited, and full of joy after I adopted.