Do you say negative things about yourself in front of your children?

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   kennynextposted 13 years ago

   Do you say negative things about yourself in front of your children?
   
   For instance do you say " I hate my hair " or other types of comments in front of your children. They could pick up on this and begin to think negative things about their selves.

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   the clean lifeposted 13 years ago

   Well years ago yes I did speak many negative thoughts and found out that negativity gets you nowhere in life. Now it's positivity all the way from here on in.. And I must say, that since thinking positive my life turned around all  for the good.

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   Bajangyrl2001posted 13 years ago

   Definitely not, kids are like little sponges are they absorb everything we do and say around them.  For example, I personally am against arguments and yelling after growing up around adults that were always yelling...as a result I avoid them at all cost and my partner and I try to ensure that our kids don't see that kind of conflict and negativity within the household.

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   nightwork4posted 13 years ago

   yes i do. i don't want my kids to think that they can't be wrong so i try to show them that it isn't a bad thing but just a fact of life that no one is perfect.

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   mviadamposted 13 years ago

   I think there is a difference between super positive and all roses v. showing your kids you can be wrong.  Its a healthy balance.  Self speak is different than self correction.  I make sure my kids only hear my positive self speak and self correction.

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   iverhunt04posted 13 years ago

   I try not too....I have seen how this can effect even how children see themselves.  I nannied a child once who picked at herself because she saw her mom do the same.  She was only in 2nd grade and thought she was fat, because she had heard her mom say "I am so fat!"  Sometimes, I say silly things like "that was so dumb of me..."  One time my son said, "no mom, you are not dumb."  Gotta love that!

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   SwtSgrSherayposted 13 years ago

   Absolutely not. We are to set an example for our children. A positive one. Children absorb so much whether it be negative feelings, or negative words, it makes an impact on them somehow someway. I was just telling my son tonight that he needs to be careful of what he says and how he says it to his sister, because many times words are not forgotten. As impressionable as children are it's up to us as parents to secure the best positive environment for them as possible.

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   ANDY5331posted 13 years ago

   No, this would encourage the children to say negative things about themselves, taking you as a role model, blaming themselves gives them low self esteem which can lead to being bullyed or bullying. This will cause your child to be ostracized for the rest of his school life and wreck his/her social mechanics

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   cardeleanposted 13 years ago

   I definately make a concious effort not to.  It is so important that we as parents act as positive role models for our children and what we do and say is repeated by them, both the good and the bad.

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    bobpants97posted 13 years ago

    no it gives negATVE INFLUENCE TO YOUR KIDS AND EVEN THERE FRIENDS

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