What advice will you give to your children about getting married?

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  1. grinnin1 profile image67
    grinnin1posted 12 years ago

    What advice will you give to your children about getting married?

  2. BeTheMessage1 profile image60
    BeTheMessage1posted 12 years ago

    Become a nun ;-) I have 2 daughters. haha

  3. cloverleaffarm profile image68
    cloverleaffarmposted 12 years ago

    I would tell them, to make sure it's a good "fit". By fit, I mean that you are on the same page about things including where to live, how to live, and how to raise the children and other important subjects. Talking about things before hand can make all the difference.
    I would tell them to always be honest to their spouse, and take care of their spouse's feelings. 
    Take care of each other in good times, and in bad. Sometimes the bad times seem to out weigh the good, but they really don't.
    Be happy

  4. mattforte profile image87
    mattforteposted 12 years ago

    This answer is simple.

    Don't.

    I wanted to just write "Don't" but apparently that's too short.

  5. MissBex profile image58
    MissBexposted 12 years ago

    This is interesting.  I hope more people chime in.  Unfortunately, I did not offer any sort of advice to my kids about getting married (guess I was absent that day).  Apparently, I should have.

    My oldest child (22) was married at 19.  So far, so good but since his wife is in college and my son is not, divorce in inevitable (my DIL will out grow my son).  He will be crushed when the time comes.  OMG, he'll probably be living in my basement.  UGH.

    My middle child (21) dates the United Nations.  I doubt he will settle for any one girl.  He likes them in all colors, sizes, and nationalities.  I will probably have grandchildren in 15 countries and never meet any of them.  Heck, for all I know, I could be a grandmother right now!

    I finally had "the talk" with my baby, age 11.  He  cannot get married until he has a Master's degree.  He must marry a girl with a good sense of humor and she has to "fit" into this cast of characters we call a family.  I don't know how much longer he will continue to believe this to be true.  I'm keeping my fingers crossed!

  6. donnaisabella profile image72
    donnaisabellaposted 12 years ago

    I have four daughters. Pick a man, do not let him pick you. Make sure he has the potential (educated, employable, businessman, hardworking preacher, good sense of humor and tall enough for you to look up to him) - I guess that would be my taste, isn't it? I do not know what advice I could give anyway, the best example is what they see between me and their dad. However I have always emphasized to them, "Marry a guy that has money, not too much, just enough to be able to take care of all your needs and your family. He should respect you and other women enough to distinguish that you are his wife."

  7. TripleAMom profile image77
    TripleAMomposted 12 years ago

    I think the most important thing is that the one you marry must share your belief system.  If not, I don't feel a marriage can last.  Then, the first year of marriage will be very difficult.  Many young people go into marriage expecting it to be the perfect fairy tale and when it isn't, that is grounds for divorce.  Love is a decision, not always a feeling.  You will get angry at each other, hurt each other's feelings, but if you decide to love each other and work through the tough issues, the marriage can be sustained.  It's a choice.

  8. jeanniedoe profile image56
    jeanniedoeposted 12 years ago

    Marriage is a lifetime commitment, it's not a game. Have a partner who will love, respect, and care for you for the rest of you life.

  9. annescripts profile image60
    annescriptsposted 12 years ago

    1. The way your potential mate speaks to his mother is the way he will speak to you.

    2. Watch how they spend money when you're on dates. If you get married, the money they flippantly toss away will be YOUR money.

    3. Tell your significant other "no" to something BEFORE you get married. You learn a ton about people when you say no.

  10. msjapples profile image60
    msjapplesposted 12 years ago

    It is important that you share the same or similiar beliefs on matters of money, children, religion, etc. Live together first.

  11. arpitme profile image60
    arpitmeposted 12 years ago

    I will give complete overview about what i feel about my marriage life and then left it to children to make choice. My view about marriage is that it starts in a surprising pleasant way with the couple in deep love with each other. This condition stays for about 4-5 years . As the outcome of the love came in there life (child) things start changing and there center of attraction becomes the child. They now started thinking how they can become good parent. Few years after when the child touches teenage couple starts planning for the future. This is the worst stage of the marriage life and maximum fights occur in this stage with each other or with there children. The last stage of marriage life is when the child marriage has happened and they are living away from there parents. The relation of the couple in this stage is like brother sister relation. They take care of each others health, do morning walk together, do yoga together and there relation has least selfish factor in there whole marriage life. The first and last stage of marriage are the stages when couple are closest to each other

 
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