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How to Teach a Child to Choose a Profession You Want for Him in the Future

Updated on February 9, 2013

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Some parents want their kids to become entreprenuers, doctors, engineers, teachers, lawyers, and many more. They expect their kids to pursue a certain career they want for their future. Others successfully fullfilled the dream of their parents while others choose different careers.

How about you? What do you want your kids to become? If you are one of these parents, I have a proven great way to get children to choose the profession you want for them in the future. I learned this from my father.

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Set up their mind

I remember when I was six years old, my father would embrace me and ask me in a very soft manner "What will you be when you grow up?" and I would answer, "Engineer." Everyday he asked me the same thing and I would just repeat my answer "Engineer".

My father did the same thing to my younger brother. Everyday he would ask my brother, "What will you be when you grow up?" and he would answer, "Attorney." After that, my father would ask him another question, "What will they call you?" My brother would answer "Attorney Cana" (Attorney + Surname)

My father only stopped asking the same question over and over again when me and my younger brother reached Junior High School. But even though he stopped asking the question, he had already set our minds to what we would become in the future.

Simple Steps

  1. Embrace your child and ask them a question with a very soft voice. "What will you be when you grow up?"
  2. Ask the question over and over again. Once a day is enough. Show them you are excited to hear their answer.
  3. You can stop asking this question when they are in high school. By that point in time you should know if you have been successful in guiding them to a future profession.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      my mom always wanted me to become an accountant. And I always wanted to be a designer. But through some circumstances I ended up being a nurse because the one who paid for my education wanted me to become a nurse. But now I enjoy being a SAHM and went back to designing different stuffs for freelance. In the end, I guess you will go back to what you are really passionate about. I don't want to impose a certain profession for my children, although by now I am already observing where they are good at, and I want to help them enhance the skills that I have found they are passionate of. I want them to be happy in life and not be miserable.

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      Genesis Davies 5 years ago from Guatemala

      Interesting, but I would never do this to my children.I feel that my oldest would be an excellent doctor, but it turns out he hates the sight of blood. Maybe a computer programmer? My second is very good at carpentry already and art, but in the end, I just want them to be happy. I will certainly insist that they learn skills that are marketable, but it's up to them to use those as they please.

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      seegreen 5 years ago

      This is a horrible thing to do to a child. I've seen a friend suffer terribly from following the path his parents wanted because he didn't want to let them down. Parents can be very cruel and cover it up with "love". It is pure mental manipulation.

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      Kay 5 years ago

      While I totally disagree with this idea, it was an interesting read.

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      LilD323 5 years ago

      If every child became what their parents told them to, we wouldn't have many important figures in the world. I don't agree at all!

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      bechand 5 years ago

      this is pretty messed up. The second module teaching you to brainwash your kid? wierd

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      cmacleod lm 5 years ago

      I can't morally agree with this 'tactic', I would resent my parents for doing this to me if they did. It's the child's life and they should be able to guide it themselves.

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      cmacleod lm 5 years ago

      I can't morally agree with this 'tactic', I would resent my parents for doing this to me if they did. It's the child's life and they should be able to guide it themselves.

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      Nancy Johnson 5 years ago from Mesa, Arizona

      I really wanted my sons to choose careers or professions that they would be happy with, not what I thought they should do. They are the ones who have to live with that choice.

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      treehousebrando1 5 years ago

      Guide them in the right direction, but don't force them.

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      bwet 5 years ago

      i believe that this issue of choosing a profession for your children is more common in asian countries.

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      classifiedshi 5 years ago

      good informative stuff...please like me also

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      @Dragon 40: I also agree. We don't need more brainwashed people in our world....

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      ZoieZoe 5 years ago

      When I was 6 yrs. old I thought an "engineer" was a train operator; the guy driving the train.

      Anyway, this topic of parents choosing their children's future profession (0r guiding them to a particular one) seems to be more common within certain cultures.

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      peggygallyot 5 years ago

      We can encourage them by guiding them in the right direction

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      oceanfaerygoddess 5 years ago

      I would encourage my daughter in whatever she would like to do, not make her do something that I want her to do.

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      Dan 5 years ago from CNY

      Wouldn't telling a child that they have to do a job you pick force them to do a proffession that they may not enjoy????

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      Success_At_School 5 years ago

      I think they should be encouraged to pursue their natural talents.

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      clayva 5 years ago

      I think I'll wait until they show some real passion towards something and then nuture it. But I always tell them, be your own boss if you can. Interesting read.

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      pheonix76 5 years ago from WNY

      I think offering advice to your child about their future is great, but this method seems a bit too aggressive for me. Children and young adults should not feel pressured or obligated to pursue a career path that was chosen for them by their parents. What if that's not what makes them happy?

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      Judy Filarecki 5 years ago from SW Arizona and Northern New York

      My husband's parents insisted he go into pre-dentistry. What he wanted was architecture, but they didn't agree. What did he do? He flunked out of college in his freshman years and started a very successful construction company, designing and building houses and additions.

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      KevCooper 5 years ago

      Guidance and encouragement is what you should offer your children.

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      Rosaquid 5 years ago

      As far as profession, it's up to each one. We gave suggestions based on what we saw as their talents and strengths, and we provided the character-building environment to help them make good choices and reach their own dreams.

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      RuthMadison 5 years ago

      I feel sorry for kids who grow up never looking at their own desires, but feeling locked into what their parents expect of them. For the kids I went to college with, this was a recipe for them being distant from their parents and not feeling free to talk with them in an honest way.

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      anne mohanraj 5 years ago

      Nice and informative!

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      SteveKaye 5 years ago

      I started with a Ph.D. in chemical engineering because it seemed to make sense. My dad was an engineer. And we do the best that we can with what we know. Now I write poetry and take photos of birds.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Great lens! Sweet and simple. Congrats on the front page and thanks for the information!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      @jdwheeler: Another really good way to say what I think. I agree.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      @Dragon 40: Amen to that! I agree.

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      Ken McVay 5 years ago from Nanaimo, British Columbia

      Encourage a love for education and avoid trying to brainwash them.

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      jdwheeler 5 years ago

      I believe you should definitely encourage them to set their sights high but ultimately it's up to them.