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Is Spanking Your Kids Okay?

Updated on March 7, 2013

Is Spanking Your Child Abuse?

Up until the last 20 years spanking children was socially acceptable and common practice in most house holds, in today's world many people consider this abusive behavior and unacceptable. What happened in the last 20 years? Have we evolved as a society and realized that this isn't a effective form of punishment or have we gotten soft and allowed children to get away with more, and become monsters?

Some say that society is going down the drain because time outs and grounding have become the norm for punishment instead of a firm spanking. Others strongly believe that spanking does more damage and good.

So what do you think? Is spanking an acceptable form of punishment?

Pros and Cons of Spanking

Pros of spanking - Spanking has been a form of punishment since the beginning of time and has been very effective, when done properly it can be a very productive form of punishment.

Cons of spanking- Some parents take spanking to a level of abuse that is anti-productive and can scare children for the rest of their lives. There is a fine line between spanking and abuse and some people don't know where that line is.

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      jeff 3 years ago

      I think spanking is effective when used properly. I had a father who was abusive when really young and no spankings. Result: I was a bad kid. I had another father who was kind and only spanked me as a last resort if I was to do harm to me or someone else. The first father did not spank me and I ended up a disaster kid. Try helping a kid with extreme ADHD that is pure evil (beating up the neighbors dog, other kids, etc) and not spank them. Impossible! As said above I think spanking can be done as long as it is done proper. I have these three rules it seemed my step dad used on me:

      1. Tell the kid what they did was wrong and ask if they understand.

      For example: Father: you hit your brother did you realize that is wrong?

      Son: Yes.

      2. Make sure you are using proper tools for spanking and do not be abusive. If your wooden paddle had splinters in it make sure you sand them out to save your child the trouble of a bad bum. If you hit your child on the head with anything, use devices of torture, or other means to draw blood then it becomes abusive.

      3. Under 3 it maybe appropriate to use time outs. Above age 10 at the parents discretion move into grounding because spanking becomes natural (like when you eat too many fire sauce packets at taco bell).

      P.S. anyone living in Kentucky in any counties that still use spanking in elementary schools, if you do not want your kids spanked they have a paper for disciplinary action which you can throw away (check the fine print, they may have a separate paper). I was never spanked most of the time their because everyone else picked on me. I even was beat up gang style once.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      I don't think it should be made illegal as we have enough of Big Brother watch us and what we do every day. That said it should not be used by parents as a form of discipline. There are better methods that may take more time to do but they are much more effective and much better than spanking.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      It is totally acceptable to spank your child only as a last resort. No need to hit the child hard. A quick pop on the rear end will ensure that the child will behave. Sometimes, just the threat of a spanking will do the trick. I do agree with others that hitting your child hard or with out a liable reason is abuse. Never hit more than three times lightly and always talk to your child afterwards telling them why you spanked them and that you still love them.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      @anonymous: This is torture! No child should endure this. No adult should endure it either. Spanking is better than this concept!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      @anonymous: that punishment of makeing them stand for that long seems even more harsh than spanking it sounds like military punishment i see nothing wrong with spanking i was spanked my parents were spanked i spank my children only when needed it is not abuse unless you take it to far

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      @nebby: Your parents probably never spanking you because they were to easy on you. But hey, i'm not saying all children who don't get spanking turn out badly. Thanks. I was spanked as well

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      @anonymous: I do admit that many times i would be scared to get spanking. But there were times i laughed. But i think spanking should not be the only discipline. Thanks.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      @hlkljgk: Scared or not. children shouldn't given easy punishments or comfortable discipline. I'm 15. i was spanking it never hurt me. It opened my eyes. But you have a right to your opinion. You have a nice smile. :)

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      @ZablonMukuba: Spanking not beating. But i do agree with spanking.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      @Heather426: Crime and violence as skyrocketed since the 1970s. Before then more children were spanking and the crime and violence rate was low. It's obvious your going by what society says. I'm 15 it never hurt me. I have many friends who have been spanking and they don't go around "hitting" other people. Children who hit others after spanking do it because of anger towards their parents. Spanking is not the only tool of discipline though. I think Spanking and taking away their toys, ps2 etc. If spanking is so wrong then why up until the past 20 years are their more abusive relationships and abusive people. Less spanking more violence. It's not hard to understand.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      I disagree with spanking. If spanking becomes illegal, it will force parents to literally think twice before resorting to such selfish act. Even if spanking instills fear, it is not the correct way to teach your kids right from wrong. Tell you what, if your kids won't listen to you and you feel your all out of options, the alternative to spanking would be to lock him/her up in a room. And if he/she tries to escape, tell him/her that duration of lock-up can only increase for every successful attempt to escape. And if that is not enough, tell him/her to stand up straight (legs and arms straight) and continue for a few hours to see if he/she is willing to correct wrongdoings. Keep in mind that you can monitor his/her posture as well as conduct when he/she is standing up straight for 6 hours. Trust me, his/her legs will go sore and he/she will think twice before commiting another misdemeanor. I've experienced it before and I did not have to be spanked in order to learn my lesson. If I was a very bad kid, my parents would've expelled me from their home and I would've had to find a new way of life. Spanking to me would've been my last resort option when the types of punishment mentioned above have failed.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      @hlkljgk: I was spanked and it wasn't scary at all! That is the lamest thing I hear people say!

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Spanking should be used rarely, but when its used it should be a big event. I recommend parents take down their pants and make them bend over their knee. Its a good reminder of who is in charge and how big a line that the child crossed by misbehaving. Let the child shed a few tears.

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      Mary 6 years ago from Midwest

      There is better ways then spanking, but if done the right way a pop on the rear isn't going to hurt them.

      Come on look at these kids today. Totally out of control and only going to get worse.

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      Heather Burns 6 years ago from Wexford, Ireland

      Children learn what they SEE. Be a good person and they will too.

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      rwoman 6 years ago

      Immediate response is key...none of this when your father gets home or when we get home business. Also, always, always, always follow through with the promised repercussion. Kids aren't stupid and if you don't follow up they will quickly learn they don't need to either. I'm also a big believer in explaining what exactly the issue at hand is and we always point out that we love Noah but we are disappointed in his choice (to lie, to be mean, to be irresponsible, etc.).

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      ZablonMukuba 6 years ago

      i was beaten when i was growing up so i will beat my kids

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      hlkljgk 7 years ago from Western Mass

      just imagine how scary it is from their perspective.

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      nebby 7 years ago from USA

      My parents have never, ever lifted a finger against me and I have always remembered that. Positive reinforcement is what works best.