Middle Child Thoughts From a Middle Child
There were times in my life when I thought being in the middle was something negative...being born between my two sisters was something I had to work at overcoming...I was overwhelmed with the negative image of the middle child syndrome...both in the media and every day life...I spent time alienating myself believing that in order to form an independent identity I had to somehow keep myself in a self created cocoon...always blaming others for this self created circumstance...then something differentiated this dilemma from actually being a dilemma...it became a plus...I consciously decided to make it a plus...a part of a beautiful journey that is my life...I started to see the similarities that are a natural part of me being a sister...I realized that through my poetry and writing I somehow tapped into the intellectual component that is my older sister...the studied one...the educated daughter...and the dynamic performance side of me comes from the vibrant and extremely talented younger sister...I suddenly realized that I had become this full creature...this beautiful expression of God that I'd been searching high and low for --- not realizing that she existed right there in the middle!
After this overwhelming understanding moved into my life I began to see so many things in a different light...I began to feel freer and more independent than I thought possible...there was a lightness of being that I began to carry around with me instead of a heavy feeling filled with doubt and judgement concerning my situation...I had finally unlocked a space in my heart that would serve to heal my soul in a way I never thought possible.
Yes this article is about accepting who and what you are in this life but it is also about deciding to take something that one considers negative by oneself and turning it around into something beautiful, powerful and positive.
I decided it was time to spread my wings and fly free!!!
Tips --Accepting being born in the middle
1. The first thing I did was to accept that being born in the middle was and is not a negative
2. I wrote down all of the positive things in both of my sisters characters that I admired
3. I wrote down the specific similarities between myself and my sisters
4. I let go of any thoughts of judgement about them as people...I focused on the love
5. I embraced my place
I was able to overcome the idea of the middle child syndrome with patience and courage...I believe it is a very real thing but somehow and somewhere on the journey through life we can overcome anything...by reading information and acknowledging the presence of the middle child syndrome school of thought I was able to take the first step in overcoming it --for me!! I truly hope this piece will reach those like myself who have lived or live with the idea that the middle child syndrome is something negative...I hope by reading this I may touch a heart and help to make a positive change -- even if it's only in one person!!!
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