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Are mothers better parents than fathers?

Updated on May 22, 2013

Are mothers better parents than fathers?

The word mother is synonymous to someone who feeds, cares, nurtures and protects. A mother will go to all ends to keep her young from harm's way.This is true for all animals where the maternal instinct is believed to be hard-wired to the brain. Mothers, with a higher level of the hormone, oxytocin, during pregnancy, exhibit a stronger bonding between mother and child. Children reach out more to their mothers than to their fathers. It may be because the mother spends more time with the child. Women naturally show emotion while men keep their feelings to themselves. Does this mean the mother have better parenting skills?

In many societies, mothers are destined to be the caregivers and fathers, the breadwinners and disciplinarians. However, in this day and age, the norm has changed due to social, cultural, and economic climate. Many households have both parents working; some have single moms or single dads; widowed husbands with children or widowed mothers with children; others are adoptive parents; single dads with daughters.

Do you think mothers are better parents than fathers?

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Are mothers better parents than fathers or vice versa?


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  • anonymous 4 years ago

    I say that mothers ARE better than fathers because mothers care about you more than your fathers!

  • anonymous 4 years ago

    I don't think it's a gender issue...each person is different with strengths and weaknesses.

  • anonymous 4 years ago

    what a load of old sxxt fact women give birth then after that is a lottery both can do as good a job as parents im single dad im great at it that's not to say there isn't single mums who are great also is a silly question whos better how stupid this question really is.........

  • srsddn lm 4 years ago

    It may vary from person to person but I would like to vote for mothers. There are many skills which only women have while rearing a child. Childhood is the most crucial period of development and I feel fathers cannot replace mother during that period.

  • KandDMarketing 5 years ago

    Only mother can birth a child, however, both parents are equally capable of care and nurturing.

  • anonymous 5 years ago

    mothers are most definitely the more important figure in the raising of a family . although, a child needs both his/her parents to have a good upbringing , the mother can do a better job than the father. she is next to nothing for a child because she carried the babyfor almost plus nine months which means women have a deep relationship with the child even before they are born . women are flexible, have longer patient and known to have a soft heart than men. so i believe that mother has the right character to decent upbringing and the closeness . exactly, mother is much caring and under standing then father.

  • anonymous 5 years ago

    Both parents are equally important, but from my opinion dads are the best parents=))) (I am a girl)

  • anonymous 5 years ago

    I think it's equal. Most women and men say they were best inspired by their father's. I'm a girl. We need to remember though a single mother or father are equal i think as well. I agree with you Fiona. But remember without men how can women have babies??? Thank you. That's just my opinion.

  • OrganicMom247 5 years ago

    Mothers are designed to be nurturing and loving. But we can't always say that mothers are better than fathers. Because every person is different.

  • FamilySolutions1 5 years ago

    Each parent has a different role in the family dynamics. If each parent stays within their role and fulfills it to the best of his ability, then I'd say it's a draw. The mother and the father will balance each other out.

  • AnimalHouse 5 years ago

    For me, moms are the best.

  • SteveKaye 5 years ago

    I think women are better mothers than men.

  • chrisssy 5 years ago

    Both play an important part but it can go both ways. I think a lot of kids, especially girls would grow up with more morals and respect if they were in a single parent home with just the father, rather than just the mother. Not at all am I discriminating-if you're a single mum all power to you since I was, too

  • anonymous 5 years ago

    Fathers can be just as good at parenting as a mother can. Sometimes, even better then some moms.

  • E L Seaton 5 years ago from Virginia

    That depends on the word better. I say it takes two and no one has all the strengths. parenting is not easy.

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  • archangelptx 6 years ago

    I've seen pieces of you know what parents from both sides of the gender spectrum--it really just depends on the individual and their parenting style (or lack there of).

  • LouisaDembul 6 years ago

    I don't think so. Different doesn't mean better. Fathers can be excellent parents, and mothers can be really bad. It depends on the person, not the sex.

  • FlynntheCat1 7 years ago

    This needs a yes or no! :D

    Mine's a no. Even though there are differences between my parents, these are mostly because my father worked more while my mother stayed home more - these differences disappeared after (for example) my mother went away for a month and my dad took care of us, or when the situation was reversed. Their personalities are different, obviously, but they treated us the same, dependent on their situation/current 'role' in the family (it didn't matter which it was)


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  • Aarron 4 years ago

    I think both parents are equally important for the child's development. Both mother's and father's play their role in a different way....I also like the tips given by Spiritual master Dada Bhagwan on his website on the art of parenting.

  • anonymous 4 years ago

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  • nanafisher 4 years ago

    I believe if children are loved, provided for and have a healthy relationship with the parent, mother or father, it can be a wonderful life together. All kids go through growing pains with both. I have a grandson raising a daughter. He is mom and dad all in one and doing a great job.

  • anonymous 4 years ago

    I believe its equal well it is equal. Both of them are capable of doing the same. Just the mind set of ppl that think women are better because the child is mostly wit them. But according to the Bible fathers was.shown they was the big factor.

  • StillPlaysWithT 4 years ago

    I think I'm a better parent than my wife - at least I'm more consistent when it comes to setting boundaries.

  • anonymous 4 years ago

    It's subjective.

  • anonymous 5 years ago

    both parents are eqally important but the mothers always sacrifice a lot, for the happiness of her husband and children//////////

  • Elsie Hagley 5 years ago from New Zealand

    No fathers are as good as mothers, I have the proof in my own three sons as fathers, and what their children think of their father by love and dedication.

  • craigmitchell 5 years ago

    Impossible to say really, without believing in gender constraints. My wife is an inspirational mother/grandmother, but I'd like to think that I'm an equally good father/grandfather.

  • anonymous 5 years ago

    mothers are better parents than fathers because without mothers no fathers!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • jordanmilesbask 5 years ago

    Well, I guessed it depends because my husband and I have our own way in taking care, guiding and helping our son.

  • anonymous 6 years ago

    i can touch everything

  • hlkljgk 6 years ago from Western Mass

    they each play an important roll

  • Jack 6 years ago

    Sometimes fathers stay home with the children while the mother goes to work. The mother teaches the girls about female things, and the father teaches the boys about male things, so they're both needed.

  • irenemaria 6 years ago from Sweden

    It is impossible to say generally.!! Both Fathers and Mothers can be lousy or loving.

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      tonyaalves3 4 years ago

      I think both parents play an equal part. Yes there more fatherless families but that does mean that the mother is the better parent.

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      ConvenientCalendar 4 years ago

      I would say generally yes, because most families are Fatherless compared to motherless!

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      I got to thinking of my own parents and really could not come up with who would have been the better parent there. I like the Parent's Lament....I think that is pretty true for all of us....the could've, would've should've stuff we can't change now...but we tried and meant to do better. :)

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      nanafisher 4 years ago

      great lens, helpful and I will pass it on.

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      nanafisher 4 years ago

      great lens, helpful and I will pass it on.

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      infoprogirl 4 years ago

      I think the answer to this question would vary from individual to individual, based on their upbringing and the involvement of each parent. Nice lens.

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      infoprogirl 4 years ago

      I think the answer to this question would vary from individual to individual, based on their upbringing and the involvement of each parent. Nice lens.

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      JennyBentle 4 years ago

      I think it just depends on the parenting skills of either the mother or father.

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      KandDMarketing 5 years ago

      Interesting. I know that biology plays a certain part, unless one or the other parent is "broken" or absent, however, as I voted above, both parents are equally endowed with the ability to care and nurture.

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      William Leverne Smith 5 years ago from Hollister, MO

      Most interesting presentation. Thanks for sharing and sparking some discussion! ;-)

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      pawpaw911 5 years ago

      Well, in my lifetime, I have seen example of both genders being very good parents, and both genders being very bad parents.

      It is such a sad thing when you see a child in a home with a bad parent of either gender. It just makes you want to give them a hug and make it all better, but sadly, we just can't make it all better.

      I have raised 3 sons, and I know it isn't an easy job. I know my boys made me want to pull my hair out a few times.

      Loved "If I Had My Child To Raise Over Again" above.

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      Jan 1980 5 years ago

      I think that mother and fathers are same in that case.For some think child need just mother and for some just father.When you combine both of it you get success.

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      Indigo Janson 5 years ago from UK

      Ah, the captcha isn't playing nice with me today. Here's what I tried to write in the debate above, only it wouldn't let me:

      It depends on the individual. I think women tend to have more of a nurturing instinct but then that's no hard and fast rule. Fathers don't always get the credit they deserve, maybe because there are also way too many terrible and absentee fathers letting the side down. So here's to all the fantastic fathers out there!

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      OrganicMom247 5 years ago

      Great topic for discussion.

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      samsipet 5 years ago

      Good question, and I think it all depends on each person.

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      ercramer36 5 years ago

      Both are equally important. If mothers were the only important parent, the inner cities would be examples of peace and tranquility. Fathers are vital to the development of a child.

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      jordanmilesbask 5 years ago

      It really depends on the family.. But I believe that both parents are doing their best..

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      Wedding Mom 5 years ago

      Nice lens. This is a very interesting read, I think both parents play an important part.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      As a single dad and victim of Domestic Violence, I have to say that men definitely have the potential to be just as good if not better than a woman at parenting.

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      Vallygems1 5 years ago

      It very much depends on a lot of factors. Social, Cultural, Economic, etc. Some kids in some societies are brought up by neither

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      Spook LM 6 years ago

      A long time ago I used to think that this was hogswash, now however, in balance I think it is very true. Terrific lens for a debate.

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      hlkljgk 6 years ago from Western Mass

      there is this really interesting recent study out there about the family dynamic differences when the dad stays home and mom works vs the opposite.

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      LouisaDembul 6 years ago

      Interesting discussion! Most important is that children feel loved by both parents, if they are around. Even if one spends more time at home than the other, both are necessary.

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      irenemaria 6 years ago from Sweden

      What ever is the case. My strong believe is that the child needs both of them.

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      lasertek lm 7 years ago

      Wonderful lens! I do believe that both the mother and father are good parents. One cannot outweigh the role of another because their responsibilities combined help kids become whole.

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      sheriangell 7 years ago

      I think that the question isn't necessarily gender specific, but rather a persons character and beliefs that determines whether they are good parents. A great lens about the most difficult and rewarding job ever!

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      Jennifer P Tanabe 7 years ago from Red Hook, NY

      Great lens! I believe the best parents are mother and father together, united in parenting, each with their different skills and abilities to add, hopefully making a total package. But we all have to learn parenting - it's a challenge whether you're a mother or a father!

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      jlshernandez 7 years ago

      Thank you for making my day with your lens greeting. I also took your advice and added a voting plexo.

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      inkserotica 7 years ago

      Yoohoo from a Squidoo Greeter! Good lens with some very useful facts and information. 5*