My Fight Against Parental Alienation
Me and my Daughter in Happy Times
What is Parental Alienation?
Parental Alienation is where one parent, usually the custodial parent, influences and promotes hatred, separation, and dislike towards the other parent. This mostly happens when both parents are separated or divorced.
Examples of Parental Alienation
There are many forms of Parental Alienation, these are just a few.
#1. Negative comments by the custodial parent about the non-custodial parent.
#2. Setting up temptations for the child. An example of this would be where a parent tells the child, "I was thinking of going to the skating rink but your Mom/Dad is on their way to pick you up for the weekend." This will automatically set up resentment by the child toward the other parent.
#3. Being "honest" with your child about the divorce or separation. When a parent tells "their" side of the divorce story to the child, this can cause alienation towards the other parent.
#4. Influence from others. When people around the child have a negative influence towards the other parent this can damage the child's emotions. This can be anybody that is in the custodial parent's life like a boyfriend/girlfriend, aunt or uncle or any family member of the custodial parent.
My Fight with Parental Alienation
In 2007 I divorced my wife in Florida and voluntarily agreed to give her custody of our daughter who is now 10 years old. I was awarded visitation and ordered by the Florida court to pay child support. I did not want my daughter to see her parents in any kind of dispute and thought this would be the fastest and best solution.
Since the divorce my ex-wife and my daughter have moved to Georgia to be closer to my ex-wife's parents because their health was declining. I did not object to this and I also moved to Georgia shortly after.
Well since the move, I'm still paying child support but my visitation has been few and far between. This past Father's Day I was prevented from seeing my daughter. My daughter has also become more aloof and distant towards me.
According to my custody papers I should have my daughter for Father's Day and the rest of the summer. But my ex-wife has left my daughter with her parents while she is in Oklahoma until the end of July.
I've had a meeting with the local judge in his office to discuss this. The judge is very sympathetic, in fact he has also dealt with Parental Alienation in his personal life years ago. But he informed me that the state of Georgia can only enforce the child support but can't enforce the visitation. I will have to get a lawyer.