Where Are We Failing in Parenting?
Parenting in this generation is more of art than responsibility or a duty. Parenting demands immense patience and docile nature. It requires your honest efforts. Parenting has a prime role in developing a child as a individual. It has to be handled with care and maturity. Just because you're a parent, doesn't mean you control your child's life or have a right to overrule their decision. We are witnessing many scenarios where in a teen is caught on a drug abuse case, drink and drive, involved in illegal activities, rape etc. What could be the reason behind this? Who are misleading them? Why are they adamant towards their decision?
The answer is bad parenting. It is true that a good parenting can bring a positive effects on child's personality. At the same time, it is true that a bad parenting can lead to inimical personality. We fail to make our children understand the consequences of their actions. We tend to fear them. We do not prepare them for the reactions instead we frighten them even before they could act. For example, we tell our children not to touch a fire. But we fail to explain them the consequences of touching fire. They try to experiment themselves to find the answers to their why's. They make an attempt to touch fire. This action results in burn i.e pain. They learn it by experience that they shouldn't touch fire. It is harmful. A good parenting or a parent is when you explain your kid consequences of touching fire. You can make them understand and be patient towards their innumerable questions, sometimes the same question can be asked several times.
As they start growing, we try to draw a boundary. We stop them from experimenting. We try to instigate our principles onto them. We set rules, we try to sculpt them. We cease them from exploring. We try to prevent them from committing mistakes. We all have heard a famous quote, "your last mistake is your biggest lesson". We fail to give chances to our children to learn from their mistakes. This is the reason why they commit irreparable mistakes. When you make them understand and help them sort out their small mistakes, they completely become resistant towards committing such blunders. As they step into teenage, parents responsibility doubles. They need to keep an eye and become a silent spectator of their actions. Do not put or force your opinions or principles onto your next generation. Behave more like a friend than a parent. It is necessary for you to assure them that you're going to be with them In all their phases. Reinforce confidence when they lack, make them understand it's okay to fail inorder to understand what success feels like. Sideline your personal unhappiness with spouse, avoid arguments in front of your children. Never discuss your financial status in front of them. Create a healthy atmosphere. Let them enjoy freedom completly, this will make them feel guilty to even commit any kind of mistakes. Maybe we'll witness better progeny. This will result in creating better citizens and a healthy society.