Parents Who Beat Their Children For No Reason
The Hidden Reality of Many Parents
This is a very sensitive topic for a lot of people, most relevantly to those who grow up in these kinds of households. I have never in my life been supportive of parents who beat their children for no reason whatsoever. It pisses me off more than anything if you want me to be quite frank with you. It makes no sense how you can have the audacity to have a child and then proceed to beat them for doing literally nothing.
I have, unfortunately, been in scenarios where I have seen parents beat their children just because they're crying. Are you kidding me? You're going to beat your child just because they're in need? Shame on you. SHAME ON YOU. That's a complete and utter disgrace. There is no defense, there is no logical reason for someone to beat their children just because they’re crying. It was YOUR CHOICE to become the parent of that child.
I don't want to hear anything about "I don't know what else to do". "They won't stop crying". "I want to sleep." "He won't shut up, so I'll make him."
So, by PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY SCARRING your child at an early age, you think that you're teaching them some form of discipline? That's your mindset? Your only solution to getting your child to be quiet is to hit them so they start crying louder, just so you can beat them some more until they can barely even feel their body? You lay your hands and abuse a child and then have the nerve to look at me with a smile on your face like you've done nothing wrong?
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Hypocrisy and Why Parents and Their Offspring Can Grow Far Apart
Take a look in the mirror folks, because this is hypocrisy at its finest. These are the same parents who will be the first ones to condemn something violent that happens in the household of someone else but won't stop to take a look at what they do to their own children. Ever wonder why so many children grow apart from their parents? It's not because they don't care about you anymore. Maybe they lost the connection with you through the altercations that you had them when they were young.
A lot of children don't forget things that happened to them when they get older. That's where a lot of abusive parents get it wrong. They even go on to blame their children for abandoning them. It's not that your children are scared of you. THEY'RE FED UP. They're sick and tired of being sick and tired, knowing that they have the opportunity to expose you to the world. But, you know what, they don't. A lot of children, teens, and even young adults who have suffered from abuse don't report or expose their parents for this behavior. Why? Because, by the grace of God, they find it within themselves to still love them.
It's tough. It really is tough, man. There really are people out there who treat their children any way that they see fit. This attributes to depression, to hatred, to anger, to suicidal thoughts. These types of treatment do much more harm than abusive parents drag it on to be. You slap your daughter dead in the face in front of her mother, yet you're the same guy that expects a cut of the pie when that same daughter accomplishes her dreams in life.
The emotional scars, the psychological effects that this has on children and young adults is tremendous. Abusive parents just have no idea. Some love is jagged-edged. That one abusive mother will be the first person to punch her child in the back for not walking the way she likes, but she'll also be the first one on the scene if someone else harms that same child. Is that what love is to them?
I truly do wonder sometimes. I've looked people right in the eyes after they smack their child silly, and they smile and laugh with me like nothing ever happened. Do I want to do something? Yeah. I want to smack them the same way that they smacked their child, but what good is that going to do? ABUSE DOESN'T STOP ABUSE.
Parent Like This Need to Face Facts
If I could, I would stop every abusive parent dead in their tracks when it comes to harming their children whether it be verbal, physical, emotional, or psychological pain. Unfortunately, things in this world just aren't that easy.
If you're a parent that puts your children through something like this, listen to me. I understand if you get frustrated with life, with your situation, with someone else in your life that is tearing you apart. But, that gives you NO RIGHT AT ALL to take that out on your children. It's YOU who brought them into this world. If they drive you crazy, if they cause you to do things you wish you could take back, understand the fact that YOU KNEW WHAT YOU GOT YOURSELF INTO IN THE FIRST PLACE. It's not like the television shows or movies. TAKING CARE OF CHILDREN IS HARD. It takes commitment, care, and love to properly raise a child. If you're not capable of handling the pressure, then you put yourself in the wrong line of work, my friend.
If your children truly are a blessing like you claim, then treat them like one. Don't punish them for everything going wrong in your life. And, most certainly, don't do it because you just enjoy it. It's sick and sadistic. The fact that I'm talking about this in 2019 is beyond me. ACTING HUMANE HELPS HUMANITY. However, doing the opposite like this leads to nothing but trouble.
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No worries. I am very glad that you've shared this article.
- AUTHOR
Yes, sir. Very true. Discipline is a necessity because, without it, kids would run wild. Unnecessary discipline, however, is uncalled for. Thank you for your support and understanding as well!
Disciplinary action to our kids is good but make sure you have reasons.
- AUTHOR
Yes! You raise some excellent points here. I really appreciate your feedback, my friend.
"I have, unfortunately, been in scenarios where I have seen parents beat their children just because they're crying."
Truth be told there is usually more to it than that. Odds are that is how THEY were raised themselves. It's also possible the parent simply has had it with their child pushing their buttons. Contrary to popular belief not all children are doe eyed bundles of innocence . Some of them take pleasure in defying their parents. Some have also bought into the belief if they cry and yell long enough their parents will cave in and give them whatever it is they want.
A parent says "no" to giving their child more candy and the child throws a fit and starts screaming and crying. A hard slap across the backside may eventually cause that child to understand when my mother or father says "no" I should let it go.
Spoiling kids is worse.
Years later these parents are dealing with teenagers who curse them out, disrespect them, steal from them in some instances hit them. They treat their parents like "human ATM machines".
While I'm no fan of child abuse I do believe parents and children are not "equal" and that a parent isn't supposed to be a child's "friend". There has to be level of respect a child should give.
A parent's responsibility is to provide for and produce self-reliant independent person with high moral character. It didn't take all that long for me and my brothers to figure out when my said to do something or not to she meant it and there would be "consequences" for disobeying her.
Having said that there are a lot of people who shouldn't have had children. They lack patience and nurturing capability.
Raising a family is far more stressful than not having children.
Some folks take out their anger about other things on their kids.
This is a big help for parents like me. I accept myself that sometimes, I slap my kids, however, I cannot accept that at the end of the day.
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