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Grandparents Raising A Grandchild

Updated on March 31, 2013

I Was Raised By My Grandparents

I was raised by my grandparents and loved every minute of it, well almost.

How did it come about that my grandparents ended up raising a grandchild? Well in my situation it happened like this, after my younger brother was born my mother got PPD-postpartum depression. A clinical depression brought on within weeks of giving birth to a baby. For her, unfortunately depression is something she struggled with for many years. In fact off and on her whole life.

This mental illness of my mom's was something my dad didn't understand nor know how to handle. So my parents elected to divorce, the easy way out. But what will happen to the two children involved? My mother wasn't mentally stable and my dad, I am guessing wasn't ready for that kind of responsibility.

The grandparents stepped up to the plate. It was decided that the boy (my brother) would be raised by my Dad's parents and the girl (that's me) will be raised by the mothers parents. My grandmother later expressed to me that she really wanted to raise my brother and I together but since my grandparents were older at the time. They didn't feel they had the energy to raise two grandchildren. So my brother and I were raised in two seperate households, but mommom made sure we had plenty of visits.

These days there are more and more grandparents raising a grandchild for a variety of reasons including illness, drugs, death,and immaturity of biological parents just to name a few.

Allow Me To Introduce My Grandparents

The Mills

My Grandfather Helped Raise Me

To Enjoy A Much Easier Life Then He Had

My grandfather AKA Poppop and later just plain Pop was born in Maryland the year of the Titanic sank 1912.

He grew up on a farm, getting up early every morning to milk the cows. After doing his morning chores he walked to school with manure on his shoes. It was necessary for him to quit school in the 8th grade so he could help his family on the farm. I heard many stories that I cherish now. :)

Since Pop lived during the great depression of the 1929, he saved everything. He loved to go to the auction and buy things for cheap and resell them, he would have loved eBay. After he retired from the state hwy admin. this was what he did to earn a little extra money and he really enjoyed it. I think pop is where I get my entrepreneurial spirit.

Pop was an avid collector too. Some of his favorite things to collect were coins, and old bottles. He belonged to the coin club. Some of his hobbies were fishing, golfing (which he didn't take up till in his 80's), and playing pool.

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World's Greatest Grandpa Sign - Hat's Off To Pop

My Grandmother

Raised Me To Be A Christian & Caring Person

My Grandmother AKA mommom and later just mom, was born in 1921 to a minister. She became a nurse and later a missionary in Africa.

She was very involved with the church, where she taught Sunday school, played the piano/organ and directed the choir and later missions program. She also enjoyed practicing the piano at home. She liked to keep an organized house and sometimes got perturbed with Pop for his wanting to save everything.

I think being a female I was closer to Mom growing up. Did she spoil me? Well maybe a little, I often heard her say she wanted to be the grandmother but had to play role of the mother.

One of my favorite memories was grandma telling stories of her missionary trip. I wish now we had them written down or recorded. She would lay with me in the bed at night and rub my back and tell stories till I almost fell asleep.

She never discounted my mother or father as to why they were not able to raise me. Instead, she gave them praise that they made sure my brother and I were safe before they left. Mommom was the glue that held the family together she made sure my mother, father, and brother had regular contact.

Learning things from grandparents like canning, and my Christian beliefs will be cherished the rest of my life.I feel blessed that my grandparents took me in.

Fond Memories

With My Grandparents

Canning With My Grandparents

A Fond Memory Of Being Raised By My Grandparents

A fond memory I have is canning with my grandparents. I was raised in a nice quiet neighborhood in the country area. Since Pop grew up on a farm, he enjoyed gardening. Every year we had a big garden consisting of tomatoes, squash, cucumbers, peppers, peas, corn, onions, and green beans. Even an orchard with concord grapes, peaches, pecan and walnut trees, cherries and apples. In the spring we would go pick strawberries and blueberries for jam.

I helped prepare the fruits and vegetables for canning. Sometimes as a child I grumbled about doing this and other times I thought it was fun. I remember distinctly sitting on my our front screened porch snipping beans, shelling peas and cutting and coring apples and tomatoes with both mommom and poppop. All this work to prepare for the canning process. I just wish now as an adult I had paid more attention to exactly how to do this. Thank goodness for the internet for a quick canning refresher course

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      mommateaches 4 years ago

      Your grandparents sound like very sweet and loving people. Thank you for sharing your story.

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      Sandy Spencer 4 years ago from Phoenix

      Oh my goodness, as a Nana raising 2 grandchildren, I appreciated this lens. Your grandparents sound wonderful. Thank you for this great story of your life.

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      greatgifts4u 4 years ago

      Lovely story - what wonderful grandparents you had.

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      Nancy Tate Hellams 4 years ago from Pendleton, SC

      I really enjoyed reading this. Your Grandparents sound like they were indeed amazing people. Thanks for sharing.

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      Rose Jones 4 years ago

      This is such a lovely lens. You are a sweetheart and your grandparents were too. I know how devastating post=partum depression and psychosis can be - from personal experience. I am glad after all I went through I was able to keep my kids. Pinned to my family board and blessed.

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      Bill Armstrong 4 years ago from Valencia, California

      Thanks for sharing your life, love the lens, I remember my Grandparents very well, even although they have been gone for many years, I recall all the beautiful and fun times with them..what would we all do without Grandparents huh ;)

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      Peggy Hazelwood 4 years ago from Desert Southwest, U.S.A.

      Thanks for this look at your childhood and being raised by your grandparents.

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      Heather McGlaughlin 4 years ago from Marryland

      @anonymous: Thank you, grandparents are great :)

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Nice story, I too had happy memories of my grandparents, nice lens.

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      Heather McGlaughlin 4 years ago from Marryland

      @poutine: Thank you, I will think about adding some stories. I truly enjoyed writing this lens.

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      poutine 4 years ago

      I enjoyed reading your story and I am very happy for you that you had loving grandparents to raise you.

      I would have loved to hear the stories about the mission trips.

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      Ann Hinds 4 years ago from So Cal

      Yes I am and today is the first week that we sent him back to public school. We have homeschooled for the last two years. Raising our grandson, who will be 12 next week, has kept us busy and probably younger than we might have been. When we adopted him, I wasn't sure that we would adapt but now, he is my 3rd child. It doesn't matter that the other 2 are in their 40's.

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      Diana Grant 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      I'm not raising my grandchildren but I certainly helped with them when they were young, and I live near enough to see them most weeks. Blessed

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      Magda2012 5 years ago

      I only know one grandmother, as the other grandmother and grandfathers were already passed away before I was born. It is great that you have a loving grandparents, thanks for sharing this.

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      Heather McGlaughlin 5 years ago from Marryland

      @Virginia Allain: Thank you Vallain, now that I am a mother myself of one grown child. I can't say that I'd want to raise my grandchildren. But I would do it if necessary.

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      Virginia Allain 5 years ago from Central Florida

      No, but I know quite a few couples my age who are doing just that. I'm glad you had the stability of their home while growing up.

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      Cecil Kenmill 5 years ago from Osaka, Japan

      I don't have grandchildren but my grandmother raised me while my parents were at work. Thank you for sharing your experience.

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      E L Seaton 5 years ago from Virginia

      Not in the grand business yet :) but your lens is touching and liked by me! Thanks for sharing and those grandparents of yours were blessings to the world.

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      LornsA178 5 years ago

      I admire your grandparents for giving you a home and a family. They are awesome! Thanks for sharing.

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      Heather McGlaughlin 5 years ago from Marryland

      Awww, thanks for your comment. I didn't write the whole story but my grandmother was actually my step grandmother (the only one I ever knew). She didn't marry until later because of her missionary work. She had a baby after the age of 40 in the sixties and unfortunately was still born. She always told me I was the child she didn't have. I had even heard her say, I helped keep them young. LOL

      Yes, I had a very positive upbringing with my grandparents. That is awesome that you have taken in your grandchild.

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      Ann Hinds 5 years ago from So Cal

      We are raising a grandchild. This is a lovely story and I am glad to hear it from a positive side. You write that you feel blessed that your grandparents took you in. Believe me, it was they who were blessed.

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      Ann Hinds 5 years ago from So Cal

      We are raising a grandchild. This is a lovely story and I am glad to hear it from a positive side. You write that you feel blessed that your grandparents took you in. Believe me, it was they who were blessed.