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Simple Ways to Improve Your Child's Self Esteem

Updated on June 5, 2013

Simple Ways to Improve Your Child's Self Esteem

Self esteem affects every aspect of our lives, and there are very simple things a parent can do to effortlessly increase their child's self esteem and confidence.

Self Esteem - The Core of How We Live

The way in which a child is treated and spoken to programs subconscious beliefs deep into his psyche, and every decision and choice he makes throughout his life (not only as a child, but as an adult), the way in which he behaves, the way he responds to others and to situations... absolutely everything is colored by the core beliefs he has about himself.

This is the case, of course, with all of us. As adults, our actions are determined by our core beliefs. And our beliefs were programmed by our experiences. As parents, we have the power to program our children and to affect the life they'll have as adults.

Here are a few very simple ways you can change who your child becomes as an adult - to make sure he has the very best shot at his full potential to enjoy success in all aspects of life.

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Smiling at Your Child Improves His Self Esteem
Smiling at Your Child Improves His Self Esteem

#1 Find Your Smile

Make sure your eyes light up when your child enters the room.

We have a tendency to not smile at the people we see all the time - especially our children. It's a habit that sneaks up on us without our realizing it.

By smiling warmly at your child whenever you see him, you are literally changing who he is!

Of course, this is something that takes no extra time or effort. It's the simplest, easiest - and most powerful step you can take to improve your child's self esteem!

It's Not About Now....

Although of course, it's nice for your child to have you smile at them now, it's not about how he feels now, or even tomorrow... it's about the programming. It's about the changes it will make to his life in ways you'll never know.

When you smile at your child, the message being programmed into his subconscious is that he is special, lovable, worthy, deserving.... and you can see how beliefs like this will lead him to make choices and decisions that are beneficial in all areas of his life - including relationships, health, career and finances.

If your eyes light up when your child enters the room, you are programming him with the belief that he lights up a room .... and he will therefore become a person who lights up a room.

Imagine how much he can achieve in life with that trait. :)

Most Important - And Worth Repeating...

If your eyes light up when your child enters the room, you are programming him with the belief that he lights up a room ....

... and he will therefore become a person who lights up a room.

Imagine how much he can achieve in life with that trait. :)

BoostKids: Teaching Your Kids Life's Most Important Lessons

Boostkids: Teaching Your Kids Life's Most Important Lessons
Boostkids: Teaching Your Kids Life's Most Important Lessons

This is an excellent resource - and one which I think each parent should be issued with before the birth of their first child! Great insight from this author, based on his own personal experience with his three children, combined with input from child psychologists, educators and child development experts. When his eldest son was 12 years old, he started researching ways in which to help the child out of his shyness, and to increase his confidence and sense of who he is.

The book is written in a warm, easy to follow style, with common sense, practical tools and techniques which help parents help their children to form true friendships, people skills - and of course, confidence, self esteem and self worth. All of this is aimed at enabling the adult your child will become, to succeed in business and long-term career, as well as personal relationships. Highly recommended!

Improve Your Child's Self Esteem by Listening
Improve Your Child's Self Esteem by Listening

#2 The Power of Listening

Listen With Both Ears

Our lives are so busy, and we can't always give our children the attention we'd like to give them.

But when we look at how the attention we give him now will affect the adult he becomes, we might find ourselves re-prioritizing a little here and there. ;)

All of us want to be listened to. Really listened to. In the case of a child, apart from the benefit in the moment, of someone listening to him, again we're looking at the effect on the future. When a child is being listened to, the beliefs being programmed into him are that he is worth being heard, he's interesting, and he has a right to speak.... which equals self worth, self value and self esteem.

Those beliefs will not only increase his self esteem and confidence now, during his childhood, they will ensure his success as an adult. He will naturally have confidence in speaking with others, in social and business situations, and it will even make a difference to his ability to make presentations and engage in public speaking.

It's Worth It

Considering the fact that it can change the adult your child becomes, it's worth interrupting the vacuuming for 10 minutes to look him in the eyes - and listen, fully focused, to what he has to say. Again, it's not about listening in the moment, it's about the belief that is being programmed into him through this. The belief that by-passes the conscious mind and is embedded directly into the subconscious - the belief that he is interesting, worth listening to, worthy, valuable... and because of that belief, he will become an interesting, confident person. It's definitely worth taking the time out. ;)

There are times when you can't just stop what you're doing, and of course, it's also important that your child learns that although he is valued and interesting, you can't always drop everything to listen to him. However, it's vital to acknowledge him, and pay him the respect any of us would like - of explaining you can't listen right now, but you'll be able to pay attention after ____ or in ____ minutes. And then it's very important to honor that.

"One of the greatest gifts you can give someone is the gift of attention."

- Jim Rohn

Bedtime Battles. How Sleep Can Change Your Child's Future!
Bedtime Battles. How Sleep Can Change Your Child's Future!

#3 The Connection Between Sleep and Self Esteem

Help Him Get Enough Sleep

I know this seems unrelated, but sleep is a major contributor to self esteem... or the lack of it.

Here's how sleep can affect your child's self esteem:

If a child is not getting enough sleep, he can't function at his full potential. Neither his brain nor his body is able to perform effectively, resulting in:

* An inability to focus and concentrate in lessons... leading to behavior problems and an inability to retain information... leading to a belief (in others as well as himself) that he is "naughty", "disruptive", "incapable", "doesn't concentrate".... and so on. Naturally these are beliefs that will lower his sense of self worth, and his self esteem.

* A reluctance to take part in physical activities.

If his brain and body haven't had enough sleep, he will have less energy and will be clumsier than when he has had sufficient sleep.

This will lead to a reluctance to take part in sport and other physical activities, and when he does take part he will not be able to achieve the level he could - leading to a lack of confidence in himself and his ability... along with a belief that he is not good at sport.

Added to this of course, is the fact that others will judge him and he could be teased, or picked last for teams ... And no-one will think "Ah, it's just cause he hasn't had enough sleep."... They will automatically believe it's because he doesn't have the ability... and of course, so will he!

* One of the results of insufficient sleep is irritability.

Again, this is not recognized, so the child is labeled as difficult or "can't be a team player" or "can't work with others", when it's highly likely that if the child was performing in peak condition - sufficient sleep and nutrition - he would very easily work with others and be a great team player.

But children will live up to the labels they're given, and so, he will adopt the belief that he's not a team player and doesn't work well with others... and he will become that person. Aggression is another result of sleep deprivation that will lead to a child being mis-labeled, and so becoming something he's really not.

In contrast, a child who is getting sufficient sleep is starting each day fresh, with all his wits about him, his energy topped up, and his brain and body able to comply with what he needs to achieve.

He's able to concentrate, focus, comprehend better, absorb information more efficiently, follow instructions more effectively, and of course take part in physical activities with more enthusiasm and confidence.

It's not difficult to see how the child who is getting enough sleep is bound to have healthier self esteem and confidence than the child who is not.

For more information on how sleep affects children, and how to overcome bedtime challenges to help your child get more sleep, visit this Squidoo page:

The Family Nutrition Book
The Family Nutrition Book

#4 Food for Thought... and for Self Esteem

Make Sure He's Getting Good Nutrition

Again, as is the case with sleep, what and when a child eats may seem to have no link to his self esteem, but when you consider the following, you'll see the connection:

A child who is not getting the nutrients he needs is unable to perform at his best.

Lack of proper nutrition can result in irritability, an inability to concentrate, clumsiness, lack of focus... and much more. And, as with lack of sleep, others will seldom realize the child is pretty much "running on empty" as far as fuel for his brain and body go, they will see him as "naughty", "disruptive", "clumsy", "difficult"..... and so on.

When a child starts the day with a balanced breakfast, he is going to be going to school with the full ability to achieve what is expected of him. A child who is going to school on no breakfast, or mainly sugar and simple carbs is at a disadvantage before he even arrives. His brain and body are struggling to run on empty. It's like trying to drive 100 miles on a teaspoon of fuel... the goal is not going to be achieved - not through any fault of the car, it's just that it doesn't have the fuel it needs.

Naturally, attempting to go through a day (especially a school day) without the proper nutrition for the brain and body to work efficiently is going to affect the child's self esteem.

Added to this, if a child eats healthily he'll have more energy, will be more likely to be physically active, and will be less likely to have weight problems... all of which have an effect on self esteem.

Being Me: A Kid's Guide to Boosting Confidence and Self-esteem

Being Me: A Kid's Guide to Boosting Confidence and Self-Esteem
Being Me: A Kid's Guide to Boosting Confidence and Self-Esteem

"Being Me" is a great book for helping parents give their children specific tools for increasing self confidence and self esteem. It's written in a conversational style, and focuses on practical ways to help children feel better about themselves.

I believe that the four steps above are the most effective long-term and permanent ways of ensuring high self esteem and confidence, but for those who'd like to give their child extra tools and information, this book - aimed at 8 - 13 year olds - is an excellent choice.

Happy to Be Me!: A Kid Book about Self-Esteem (Elf-Help Books for Kids)
Happy to Be Me!: A Kid Book about Self-Esteem (Elf-Help Books for Kids)

This little book has been written with younger children in mind. It's a great tool for emphasizing how special each child is, and not only why it's good to be yourself, but how to be yourself. A wonderfully positive and inspiring tool for parents of young children who have self esteem and self confidence issues.


Things That Have the Most Powerful Effect on a Child's Self Esteem

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It's Not About Now - It's About the Future
It's Not About Now - It's About the Future

In a Nutshell...

There you have four simple ways to improve your child's self esteem. If you're able to put all four into practice, you will see the most magical transformation in your child. But even if you're only able to introduce one. Just one. You will see a difference. :)

Each one of these tips is extremely powerful in itself, and can change your child's future.

For more tips on how to put these into practice, there are a few resources throughout this page, and please feel free to ask for tips and suggestions regarding specific challenges in the comments section below.

Further Resources I Recommend for Improving Your Child's Self Esteem

These are three excellent books which support parents in improving their child's self esteem.

There is one issue in the first book - it has a section which takes an old-fashioned view on homosexuality, and is therefore not useful for that particular topic. However, the rest of the information in this book is so good that unless you're looking for information and advice specifically on homosexuality, you can just skip that bit, and focus on the rest of the content.

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      Dancing Cowgirl Design 4 years ago from Texas

      Great ideas for a childs self esteem. The same works well for the grown ups in your life that may need a boost.

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      Virginiangare 4 years ago

      Letting him help out in what you are doing as long as he is willing, no matter how clumsily he does it.

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      Spiderlily321 5 years ago

      Great lens. Shared on my blog. Thanks for sharing

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      savateuse 5 years ago

      Nice lens with great tips - I've added it as a link on my women's awareness and self protection lens! Blessed!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Some of the tips are good for parents to practice. good one, Thanks.

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      srsddn lm 5 years ago

      Self-esteem is important for achieving high in life. Suggestions made in this lens are really great tips for parents to follow.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      I love visiting this lens, and posted it to FaceBook and hope my friends will check it out. I have grandchildren to think about, too. ~ Love is what we all need. :)

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      bwet 5 years ago

      wonderful lens... wish i could bless this lens

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      Rosaquid 5 years ago

      I thought this might be one of those "Gold Star at every opportunity" discussions, with which I heartily disagree. But, this I liked! Thanks! Simple, basic common sense tips.

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      DLeighAlexander 5 years ago

      Great lens! Angel Blessings to you :)

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      TheMotionCrafters 5 years ago

      wonderful tips!

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      AnimalHouse 5 years ago

      Great lens. It has to be a balance of all these things so your child can have an improved self-esteem.

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      EmergencyPrepar 5 years ago

      Give them lots of hugs and kisses and TELL them you love them:)

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      Dana Marie 5 years ago from St. Peters, MO

      Bravo!! Well done!

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      earthybirthymum 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Great Lense, very important information. many Blessings, Cheers


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      miaponzo 5 years ago

      GREAT tips here! Thanks so much for sharing these tips for building your childs self esteem. Blessed!

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      Paul Franciskato 5 years ago from Junction City, Kansas

      Think of the issues in the world that may be eliminated if all children were to grow up having a positive self esteem!

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      Loraine Brummer 5 years ago from Hartington, Nebraska

      Great and important tips. You made a useful and informative lens. Great job!

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      Genesis Davies 5 years ago from Guatemala

      Very good tips and points. I know that my kids respond better when I listen to them (something I'm still working on) and am more encouraging. However, the sleep and nutrition thing is something that I hadn't even considered in terms of self esteem. Thanks!

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      tfsherman lm 5 years ago

      Your lens was quite a surprise to me. I thought it would be full of things like "100 Ways to Say Good Job," ( but instead you took the far more holistic view of ways to lower stress levels in childrens' lives. Better nutrition, better rest -- we know we adults are skimping ourselves on these essentials, but we forget that our children may not be thriving in the marginal mad dash we've set for ourselves.

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      antoniow 5 years ago

      Beautiful lens, great job!!

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      FamilySolutions1 5 years ago

      I often have to remind myself to stop what I'm doing to focus on a child. When I don't stop and listen, I am giving my child the message that whatever I'm doing is more important than him. Of course, everything in moderation.

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      sajmit969 5 years ago

      Wow! Great lens shared.

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      panasonicbathroomfan 5 years ago

      that's an interesting read, thank you

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      surfer1969 lm 5 years ago

      Yep everything that happens to child mold who they will become In life.A very nice lens you have going on here.If you look at what's going on In the schools today you'll see that some of the bad things that happens In schools turns the kids Into what they'll become In life later.

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      Rose Jones 5 years ago

      Back to refresh my angel dust on this great page. I am going to remember to smile every time my child comes into the room, even if I think he is there to do me dirt. :) Catch him by surprise, and maybe soften his heart.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Very nice lens.

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      UKGhostwriter 5 years ago

      Terrific resource!!

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      Fcuk Hub 5 years ago

      Great lens, I'm sure I will use some of your advices and tips :)

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      ContractorBasics 5 years ago

      A really wonderful lens!

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      karen vance loudermilk 5 years ago from charleston wv

      great points you have made here, a very good lens. thanks for sharing

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      sunny saib 5 years ago

      great great lens.. :) wish there was a double like button..

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      sunny saib 5 years ago

      great great lens.. :) wish there was a double like button..

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      intermarks 5 years ago

      Hug will be the best way to show your love and support to them. That is what I believe.

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      sherridan 5 years ago

      I believe the smile one is often the key - do not let all your interaction be just reprimanding and moaning - make sure loving attention and praise are given.

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      MarcellaCarlton 5 years ago

      Tell your grand kids that we spend time with who we love. Then do it, spend time with them.

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      dann7trdro lm 5 years ago

      nice tips, some of them might work

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      guess the author has a son or difficulty with english... that he may be a she...........

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      fullofshoes 5 years ago

      This is a fantastic presentation of very important information. I could have used this when my kids were growing up. Some things I did really well... some not so much... ~blessed~

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      YourFirstTime 5 years ago

      Great practical tips. Kids with good self esteem will always excel.

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      marivicverceles 5 years ago

      wonderful lens..very informative!

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      getmoreinfo 5 years ago

      I have found that one of the things that matters a lot to children is when parents are able to take time away from work to spend with them even in the smallest of activities they really need that personal attention. Showing that we really care and are concerned about their feelings can have a major influence on building our childs self-esteem.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Also, make sure you have high self esteem yourself. You child mirrors you in far more ways than you can imagine. If you do not have high self esteem go to a life coach and have your core beliefs corrected so that you do.

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      Ruthi 5 years ago

      You have stated excellent ingredients to aid in feeding a child's, or an adult's, sense of self-esteem.

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      SteveKaye 5 years ago

      Every parent should read this. It's the essence of raising a successful adult.

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      kmyangel 5 years ago

      Great and useful lens for mothers :)

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      great information, glad to have this kind of stuff out there!

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      Vlad 5 years ago from USA

      Your lens pretty much gave all of the good and useful self esteem ideas, I would only add one more... Reading the Holy Bible with your child together and explaining the importance of a good relationship with God :)

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      3levels 5 years ago

      Good article on a super-important subject. I coach leaders for a living and can confirm how important self-esteem is from my work with them. Your message is crucial. Well done and thanks.

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      peggygallyot 5 years ago

      Listening is very important.

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      VeseliDan 5 years ago

      I think that parents can do a lot to improve their child's self esteem. Your article on this topic is great! *blessed*

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      Mary Norton 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Came back to give this lens my blessing. I thought I have done this before. Self-esteem is indeed key.

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      jarajelissa 5 years ago

      it's about the belief that is being programmed into him through this.

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      joannalynn lm 5 years ago

      I agree that we need to really listen to our children. For me, I have one house, one parent, one child with very high self esteem, the other low self esteem. I've done the same with both boys, but they are such different people. So, I work very hard to build my younger son up, but it is a struggle. Thank you for putting all of your ideas together here.

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      Peggy Hazelwood 5 years ago from Desert Southwest, U.S.A.

      Great ideas for building self esteem. I think listening is key.

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      gatornic15 5 years ago

      I did not have a lot of self esteem as a child except for when I played sports. I think it is important to have self esteem in every aspect of life. Thanks for sharing your tips.

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      Deadicated LM 5 years ago

      Awesome Lens and information on one of the toughest jobs in the world, raising a child.

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      Kay 5 years ago

      I struggled so with self esteem while growing up and made some not-so-great choices as a result. Blessed because this is just so important!

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      Lorelei Cohen 5 years ago from Canada

      It is indeed so very important to raise our children with a healthy self esteem. Your tips are excellent as are your articles.

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      Fay Favored 5 years ago from USA

      Wanted to come back and give this article a blessing. I hope more people take this message to heart.

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      pinkrenegade lm 5 years ago

      Great tips on how to help our children improve on self esteem. I agree on the right nutrients and making sure to listed. Communication is always the best way to help your child cope with a lot of issues.

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      pinkrenegade lm 5 years ago

      Great tips on how to help our children improve on self esteem. I agree on the right nutrients and making sure to listed. Communication is always the best way to help your child cope with a lot of issues.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Yeah, this lens should have a love button. Our kids learn so much from the way we interact with them. They can be built up or torn down by so much of what we do.

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      billiesmith32 5 years ago

      I absolutely love this lens you are so right. Children are so fragile and they only have us to look up to and learn from. Building there self esteem should come natrually to parents but sadly some parents need reminding it isn't about them anymore it is about the child. A+++

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      Sue Dixon 5 years ago from Grasmere, Cumbria, UK

      It's worth reminding us all that children need things that money can't buy. Great lens- Blessed!

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      Tamara14 6 years ago

      As a mom of two great girls I couldn't agree more with all the points here. The more we as parents "invest" in our children by hearing them really and telling them what they need to hear out loud the more happy and accomplished persons they will become. Great lens :)

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Returning to bless this great wisdom, there should not be a better reason for our eyes to light up than when our children enter a room!

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      AnnaAdam LM 6 years ago

      Very well done. Congrats to win purple star.

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      Mary Norton 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Congrats. An excellent topic and very well presented.

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      Brandi 6 years ago from Maryland

      Excellent! Congrats on your Purple Star! :)

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      flycatcherrr 6 years ago

      Terrific lens, and it is SO important to talk about this. Kids need to feel confident about who they are, as individuals - it's their best defence against peer pressure and all manner of negative outside messages.

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      WriterJanis2 6 years ago

      Very important information for parents.

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      davies86 6 years ago

      great lens.

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      Ben Reed 6 years ago from Redcar

      A subject that should be near and dear to us all. A wonderfully written and debated lense.

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      Lorelei Cohen 6 years ago from Canada

      This is one of the best articles on child rearing that I have read. I'll be nominating it to HQ. Best of wishes.

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      fullofshoes 6 years ago

      fantastic lens!! great advice.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Absolutely refreshingly delightful....may many read and learn...and may many children 'light up a room'! The perfect security word, 'delighted'!

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      darciefrench lm 6 years ago

      This lens is a gem of a resource for all parents. Teaching your child to light up a room .. so simple yet so profound. Brings happy tears to the eyes. Many blessings to you.

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      Mary Norton 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Very important indeed to help them in this.

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      karlp295 6 years ago

      Great lens - we share a common interest in writing about self esteem. I love your words about how we need to protect the child's psyche...

      May I suggest my lens would be interesting to your readers:

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      Wendy Hughes 6 years ago from Charlotte

      My mother always said, "People have time for what's important to them." ALWAYS find time for your children. It shows that they are important. SMILES! ~Wendy

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      HERBMASTER 6 years ago

      I am glad someone is writing about this. The word needs to get out about raising our children's esteem! If you ever feel a need to ! raise your spirits, come on over!

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      Merstarr 6 years ago

      Love your lenses. Really. Mommy and writer blessed - seeing as how I have no other blessing abilities as yet. When I do, I will come back! Thanks for writing!

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      article writing is truly unique on such an article topic, glad I read it tonight.

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      Odille Rault 6 years ago from Gloucester

      @Kylyssa: What a wonderful, wonderful memory! Thanks for sharing it here. It's a great illustration of what a powerful impact we can have on our children with simple things like that. :)

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      Kylyssa Shay 6 years ago from Overlooking a meadow near Grand Rapids, Michigan, USA

      I love your tips on how to improve a child's self esteem!

      Stopping and listening is something I remember my mom doing very clearly. I remember vividly one instance that has stuck with me for almost thirty-seven years. My mom was defrosting the chest freezer (it was the seventies, one had to take an ice pick to the insides of appliances now and then) and I walked up to her with my book. I'd encountered the word "fatigue" and didn't know how to say it. She closed the freezer, took off her gloves, and read aloud the sentence I pointed out. We practiced saying the word together a few times then I toddled off to finish reading my book and she finished defrosting the freezer. It was such a little thing but, to this day, it illustrates to me how important I was to her. She kept the house spotless but she never ignored me or put me off for the sake of chores.

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      joycecity lm 6 years ago

      Self esteem is very important for your kid's future! Love your kid and let them feel they are the best !

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      Marie 6 years ago

      Wonderful - I think it is important to share some quality one-on-one time with your child no matter how busy you are. The fact that you put aside everything else to focus on them is a big boost to their self esteem. Great lens.

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      Doreen Katzaman 6 years ago

      Thank you for this very useful and informative lens. It has opened my eyes to even more ways I can improve my child's self esteem.

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      Leilani-m 6 years ago

      Great lens, I try to do my best raising my child, and to correct some things my parents did wrong with me. I wish they had this kind of resources when I was a child, it would save me lot of pain and insecurity during my adolescent years.

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      Dorian Bodnariuc 6 years ago from Ottawa, Ontario Canada

      A really great lens, we always have to read one of these from time to time, to be reminded...

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      jjj1 6 years ago

      A VERY useful lens. Many thanks. As a parent to 6 year old twins, I thought I was doing a pretty good job - but I will definitely make more of an effort to smile and listen more.

      A few other things I would add - praise and reassurance that you love home/her.

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      sherioz 6 years ago

      This is excellent advice. So simple and straight forward and so powerful.

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      cryptid lm 6 years ago

      This is a really well done lens! Great job!

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      Fay Favored 6 years ago from USA

      Nicely done. If parents would even do a few of these things our kids would be much better off and have better self-esteem, causing them to achieve more in all areas of life. One more thing that builds their confidence levels is for the parent to be there. Just being there makes a big difference.

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      chamanto 6 years ago

      "Make sure your eyes light up". Very simple to do and very powerful. I think small things like these, have a great impact not just on children but with family and friends as well.

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      shayriana 6 years ago

      Great lens, very informative. Another tip is to acknowledge their accomplishments and praise them for their achievements, make a big deal about it!