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Single Moms Journey

Updated on February 9, 2011

From The Single Mothers Journey To Wholeness

Back in 2005 I was a single mom. I had 4 children, so many different schedules and thought I would go insane. Did I have the strength to make it through? Well I decided to write a book to help single moms who were just like me. I got real with what I was dealing with. Finances, work, dinner, childcare, anxiety, worry, faith, planning, and being both the mom and the dad in so many ways. Things have changed for me. I am now married to a great man who helps me Squidoo. Chuck is awesome! Jasmine my youngest is 15. My Mother Patricia, passed away and we moved out of state. So much has changed and it is still a journey but now I really can say there is HOPE!

This Lens is all about hope. Just like the subtitle...hope and help for single moms. I now am Nicole Orozco but back when I was Nicole Biggs I did graduate from college, I did have a written plan and I will just share this for free here because all single moms need a little help sometimes, in fact all moms and dads single or not need a little help sometimes. ENJOY!

Starting Over

Some Nuggets About Starting Over

"I had so many stuffed feelings when I first got divorced that I felt

like a Thanksgiving turkey."

At the time of my separation I had no idea what it would take to raise four

children on my own. So much had happened. I was still mourning the loss of my

grandmother, who was a major support to me in raising my children while I was

still married. After my grandma's funeral, Don (my ex) left for good. I was angry,

depressed, desperate, and tired-so very tired and scared. At that time I had a 13-

year-old, a ten-year-old, an eight-year-old, and a two-year old. I was working as

an outside sales rep, and I thought I was on the verge of having a nervous breakdown.

Actually-and certainly not to my credit-this was my second divorce

from my second husband. Little did I know that by the time everything was over,

my ex would steal my car, my son and I would steal it back, and my mother

would break her hip and give me one more person to take care of, along with my

already challenging brood of four children but I'm getting ahead of myself.

The children and I had moved into my mother's side of a duplex we owned

so that we could rent out the other side for extra income. Jasmine, my youngest,

was in preschool; the two middle children, Shelbi eight, and Ryan ten, were in

elementary school on a year-round schedule. My oldest son, Cheyne, was about

to enter high school. The hot July desert only seemed to accentuate my situation.

In the midst of all this-as my life was plummeting around me-I met a woman

who was the mother of a girl that Cheyne had met at a church concert up in

Northern California. Her name was Dawn and she was to become my good

friend and a rescuing angel who would help me out of many distressing situations

during that time in my life.

After a divorce or separation, or any time there is a sense of loss, various

stages of grief will take place. According to Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, (who

wrote extensively on near-death experiences) denial, anger, bargaining, depression,

and finally, acceptance, are the stages you will go through. Guilt is another

often-overwhelming emotion you will have to wrestle with, especially concerning

your children. You may not be the cause of the separation or divorce, but feelings

of guilt and shame can still overtake you. Right after my breakup with my twoyear-

old daughter's dad, she cried every night that her heart was broken. After my

first divorce from the other three children's dad, my oldest son shut down and

was angry, and my other two got lost in the shuffle of the divorce. I felt like a rubber

band that was about to snap or break. At different intervals I experienced the

various stages of grief. Divorce is never fun!

Excerpt from My Book "The Single Mothers Journey To Wholeness" Copyrighted by Nicole Elizabeth Biggs 2005 "Now Orozco"

You Are Changing The World - One Heartbeat at a Time! - Remember You Are The Only You!

SO POWERFUL!

Time To Take A Break!
Time To Take A Break!

Transition - The Journey Back

Some Tips To Help You Cope!

In our journey, there is a phase that I call transition. Transition is the time

between the initial weeks or months of becoming a single mom, and the part of

the journey where we begin to feel more whole and complete. It is like a bridge in

our life where we need and receive healing and learn to love ourselves by accepting

the premise that we have always been whole and complete. Support or other

groups, books, and self-care are vital lifelines on the bridge that help us to reach

our destination.

Every day single moms have more than their share of challenges. We have

to get our children to school and still make it to work on time, do activities, and

handle childcare. If we need help of any kind, we have to fill out mounds of

paperwork before we can get any government assistance. We pummel through

our challenges, finding out that we can come out fairly unscathed, albeit weary.

On top of all this, we still have menu planning and cooking, cleaning, homework,

paying bills, and providing shelter and transportation. The list goes on and

on, frequently increasing and changing. Now you know why I put so much

emphasis on taking care of yourself and nurturing yourself. If you want to succeed

as a single mom, Nurturing 101 is a prerequisite to passing the course.

"Today I will remember that every moment brings change and I am safe in this present

moment."

Excerpt from Chapter Two in My Book "The Single Mothers Journey To Wholeness" Copyrighted by Nicole Elizabeth Biggs 2005 "Now Orozco"

Single Moms Items

Here are resources for you to help you on your unique Journey to Wholeness!

You Are A Super Mom!
You Are A Super Mom!

The Challenge

Overcoming Everything!

Facing challenges isn't always easy. There were some days I would call my

friend, Ami, (my soul sister since high school) ten times a day just so she could

remind me how strong I really was. I needed to hear her words of encouragement.

Ami had seen me through two divorces and knew all of my idiosyncrasies

and weaknesses, as well as my strengths. Some days I would pick up the kids and

drive to her and Chris's (Ami's husband) house at the beach and kick back like

we used to when we were 19. We all need relationships and friendships like this.

Let me go back to challenges. One day, while running an errand in downtown

How many times have you heard someone say-or maybe you've said it

yourself-"I'm not smart enough. I'm not good enough. I'm not pretty enough."

Do we fill our minds with I can't or I don't have, or I feel sick and tired. Tony

Robbins says in his book, Unlimited Power, instead of asking yourself why, ask

yourself how. Why is such an open-ended question. It can lead our brain around

in circles and we may never find an answer to a question such as "Why can't I

ever get ahead?" Our thoughts will then justify why we can't ever get ahead. Tony

Robbins states a better question would be "How can I get ahead?" This allows our

brain to find the solution. As you can see, how we talk to ourselves can definitely

impact our well-being.

Nurturing our spirit, soul, or inner-self, keeps us in check while making

choices that affect our family's future. When we have to rise to the many challenges

of single parenthood, decisions aren't always easy and confusion can be the

result. By nurturing our spirit through prayer and/or meditation, we gain

strength and guidance to live up to our highest and best potential. It can bring us

an awareness of calm and peace. Knowing we can have help from our Higher

Power helps to eliminate fear and provide us with trust in the process of life as it

unfolds. Don't give up. It takes time to heal the spirit and soul, just as it does the

physical body.

Early on, opportunities and happiness may seem elusive, but as we accept

each moment for what it is, "a flash in your life," and as you begin to take notice

of everything around you, your perception of circumstances will change. Challenges

can become opportunities for growth and self-actualization. No one usually

accomplishes anything of great moment while in a comfort zone (not that

there's anything wrong with intermittent comfort zones). Challenges can allow

change and miracles to take place. Life can be an adventure when we concentrate

on what is good and right in our life. When we do this and focus on our own

path and let go of feeling sorry for ourselves, we can stop the blame game and our

spirit can soar. At the same time, we are being renewed and strengthened. As our

spirit lifts up and positive energy flows forth, it gives us courage, love, and hope

to overcome our challenges.

Indio with all four children (including my then three-year-old), we hit a

pothole in my little Ford Escort and broke down in the middle of the street. We

were ¡ hour from home by driving and who knows how long by walking. The

temperature was over 100o. We started walking and ended up at Wendy's Hamburgers

on Highway 111, the major highway that runs through the Coachella

Valley desert cities. By some miracle of synchronicity, it turned out I knew the

manager there. I used to work with him in retail sales. I told him our dilemma

and he gave me $6.00. Thankfully, this was enough to rescue us. We were able to

get home and the tow truck driver took a check for our car. If faith and determination

didn't pull me out of that mess, then I don't know what did. This experience

only reinforced my desire to find resources that would allow me to have an

easier time or, at the very least, to have cash in my pocket for future challenges

and emergencies.

Excerpt from My Book "The Single Mothers Journey To Wholeness" Copyrighted by Nicole Elizabeth Biggs 2005 "Now Orozco"

Your Recovery Does Come FIRST!
Your Recovery Does Come FIRST!

Reclaiming Yourself

Just Dive

"We are able to break generational cycles, one layer at a time."

Why? Why? Why did this happen to me? What did I do to deserve this?

What is wrong with me? These are questions I think every person on this planet

ask themselves at some point in their life. Deep down, if we have felt failure at

any time in our life, we may still feel inadequate years later. After two divorces, I

had to start looking within myself to find the answers to the WHYs of my broken

life. I decided to listen to Tony Robbin's advice and change my questions to

HOW. By asking how this happened to me, my inward search led me to look at

my denial and to think about the old programmed tapes I had running in my

mind. What this showed me was that by not loving my core being, I had masked

my true self, and caused myself much heartache.

Asking how showed me that I was not living my true identity. No, to quote

an old joke, denial is not a river in Egypt. Actually it runs deeper than any river

ever could. We go through life experiencing repetitive cycles or patterns, having

the same old fights and the same old reactions to many of the triggers in our life.

We usually bring the same-or same types of-people into our lives to help us

replay these scenarios; then we wonder why our life is not working the way it

should.

Why it has to take so much honesty and feelings of pain to break through

to the truth, I don't know. It's almost like doing the 12-step process used in Alcoholics

Anonymous. The first step you have to take is to admit what is wrong

before it can be fixed. It's similar to a spiritual principle to rid you of the denial

(transgression) before you can go on. There are many books and many different

theories on this subject alone. In the beginning, even after making some progress,

I found that I would then revert back into my comfortable denial zone, only to

try again later. I would start by saying nuts to all of this and then I would work as

if there were no tomorrow. It would be OK for a little while. Our family would

exist, mesmerized, almost as if we were on some type of auto pilot mode. Eventually

some pain would creep in and let me know that I was not yet done with my

healing. Once again, I would start by peeling off another layer of repressed emotions,

hoping against hope that this was almost over and with each layer that

came off, my spirit and soul would lighten.

Excerpt from My Book "The Single Mothers Journey To Wholeness" Copyrighted by Nicole Elizabeth Biggs 2005 "Now Orozco"

Single Mom Goodies

Some Goodies For Single Moms or Any Mom

The Tower
The Tower

The Tower

A Poem

THE TOWER

There is a tower so high above the town.

The clouds blend into it, almost giving it the surreal image of smoke coming out.

There are many steps in this tower—and each step represents the beauty and heartache

of what once was

—and what is yet to come.

As I approach, I feel a sense of awe; looking up so high, I almost stumble.

I have seen many towers before, but none like this one.

I approach the first floor determined to see inside this mysterious place.

But the doors are locked and sturdy.

Yet I hear music inside—calling me—inviting me in.

I ask, “May I please come in? I know I am supposed to be here.”

Slowly, the door opens for me to go in.

I take one step, then another—still determined—but also afraid of what I might find.

There it is! The staircase I saw in my dream.

It has purple—no, royal blue—carpet with gold rails winding up to the top.

I take a deep breath and continue.

The first step has a code on it.

It says, “To reach the top and be free, you must understand.”

What does that mean, I wonder?

I must understand what?

As I take my next step, I realize something.

I hit a wave of feeling.

There is a power in these stairs and the first step that represents something, is truth.

I have hidden myself behind a mask for so long.

Truth means I must take the mask off in order to be free.

I feel light and relieved, knowing that the mask was a survival mask so that I could

not be hurt.

But the complete irony is—it hurt me to wear it because no light could enter in.

I see rays of light come through the windows—shining into my very being.

I never had to wear the mask at all.

by Nicole Elizabeth Biggs

NO MORE!
NO MORE!

Victim No More

Reject The Victim Mentality!

"Mentors are lifelines in the bridge over the deep waters of victim to

victor."

Living independently from others' viewpoints requires that we take

responsibility for our own lives and actions. In order to do this, we must stop

blaming others and stop playing the role of a victim. We may have been hurt,

betrayed, or abandoned in our life, but if we stay stuck in this groove of being

wounded, it will be difficult to progress to the steps that can lead to a happy and

fulfilling life. To make matters worse, being a victim is a role our children can

take on. There are three phases to the removal and healing of the victim pattern;

acceptance, forgiveness and accountability.

ACCEPTANCE requires that we take a good hard look at where we are in

life. What are our responsibilities and, more important, how do we move out of

denial into reality? Mary Lou, the mother of an 11-year-old boy, could not accept

the fact that her 14-year marriage was over. She blamed John for everything and

made him the bad guy in this scenario. In her eyes she was the wounded party.

Until she accepted that this was her life too, and that she had played a part in the

breakup, she was stuck in her own resentment and pain. Anger and sadness are

part of the healing process, but when we stay stuck there, it is difficult to regain

our own personal power. When Mary Lou finally accepted her life as it was, she

was able to take the next step, which was ownership of her life. She then made a

conscious decision to forgive. Until she had gone through the acceptance stage,

she could not go to the forgiveness stage.

FORGIVENESS is difficult. When life bringsus as single mothers to the

reality of what separation really is, how can we forgive when we have been left

alone to bear so much responsibility and agony? We are so very tired. Perhaps our

ex is either totally out of the family picture or maybe he gets weekend or semimonthly

visitations. Either way, we still have to clean, take the kids to the doctors,

nurture, love, help with homework, get them ready for school and life, and

handle virtually everything that goes along with this. Sometimes we are even criticized

for the job we are doing.

Over time, resentment can build up and it sure does seem like it is justifiable.

Why should we want to forgive when the undesirable behavior of the other person

has not changed? I'm sure you have heard this before; forgiveness is not for the benefit

of the forgiven person but rather, it is for the benefit of the forgiver. It does not

excuse the behavior of an absent or controlling parent, but forgiveness does allow us

to heal and take care of our own life. We cannot change another person or their

behavior no matter how much we want to. Harboring a grudge can be detrimental

to your physical, mental and spiritual well-being. Resentment can eat away at you.

Once you release someone and let them go, the process of forgiveness starts and

healing can begin. Now we are able to focus on the changes we need to make and

take inventory of our own shortcomings, while at the same time, having the willingness

to change them. As we begin to change patterns we will start to have compassion

for the weaknesses of others. When we stop blaming and judging others, we

will know that forgiveness is starting to take place.

Excerpt from My Book "The Single Mothers Journey To Wholeness" Copyrighted by Nicole Elizabeth Biggs 2005 "Now Orozco"

Action Jackson!
Action Jackson!

A Dreamer In Action

Time To Go Get M Girl!

"I recalled John Maxwell saying in Failing Forward, 80% of success

is just showing up."

Do you have any dreams or aspirations? Most likely you do. Do you know

where your passion lies inside of yourself? It could be possible that you don't.

Many of us don't. We fall into jobs, get married without thinking things

through, and generally accept the circumstances in our life. Think about it now

while you are reading this. What makes your heart thump? What gifts were you

born with? Do you dare to even hope when you already have enough to do-and

all hope seems to do is lead to despair?

Yes! Hope! Hope, because you can make your dreams a reality. Of course it

will require a great deal of faith and persistence on your part, and you will need a

vision or plan. If you integrate all of these factors, you can mold your dream into

a reality and your dreams will crystallize before your very eyes. It will, however,

take time. Even if you are too pooped to pop right now, the exhaustion will pass,

organization will come, and you will be ready to dream once again.

Faith is where dreams are born. The bible says if you have faith as small as

a mustard seed, you can move mountains. This is certainly good news for single

mothers as you will find you frequently need to move a mountain or two. Faith is

a belief deep in your soul and in your consciousness that something is possible.

Faith is an I can, and it can, and it will attitude. Faith is the seed that, when

planted and nurtured, grows into reality.

98% of the population quits when things seem difficult or impossible. In

sales I have experienced so much rejection that on some occasions I would feel

like crying. Persistence is what kept me going and that, in turn, led to bigger and

better opportunities and more income. I remember so many times feeling the

urge to run away or quit, and I had to will myself to stay where I was. I recalled

John Maxwell saying in Failing Forward, "80% of success is just showing up." I

would get through just one more day by reminding myself to just show up and

do my best one moment at a time. Excuses don't work when you are being persistent.

If you're tired, get some rest and then keep moving on. This may seem paradoxical

but you can be persistent and still rest when you need to. You will think

more clearly when you are rested, and sometimes a little catnap is all you need to

do the trick. For every perceived failure, there is a learning experience and a seed

of success is planted. Being persistent to the stage of completion helps to overcome

perfectionism. Sometimes you can be involved in doing something and

become part of the Let's Make It Better syndrome. This will probably guarantee

that you will not complete what you are doing because it will never be good

enough and you'll keep changing things. Just do it. Then improve it later if you

must.

Excerpt from My Book "The Single Mothers Journey To Wholeness" Copyrighted by Nicole Elizabeth Biggs 2005 "Now Orozco"

Rocks And Sand
Rocks And Sand

Balancing Your Life

Get The Balance Back!

"Eventually, though, I had to listen to my body and go with my life's

direction."

There are 24 hours in a day for everyone, but most single mothers definitely

needs more. Perhaps 40 hours in a day would be more like it. Whatever the

circumstances, it seems like there is never enough time to do everything. Just for

starters, balancing life takes ingenuity, patience, and discipline.

What do you spend more time focusing on, your spirituality, your time, or

your money? This seems to be a trade-off for most of us. The times in my life I

had the most money, I had the least time. The times in my life I had the most

time, I had the least money. To balance our lives, we need to first write down our

priorities (I am great on writing things down) as mentioned in the previous chapter.

We should list them in order of importance; spiritual life, children, work,

rest and relaxation, social life, doctor and dentist appointments, shopping, cleaning,

and menu planning, etc. These should all be included and rated accordingly.

As you accomplish these things on your priority list, cross out what you have

done, even if it's just one thing; (been there, done that).

Buy or make yourself a planner and block in where you are currently

spending your time. Then go back to your priority list and rework it as needed.

This will take a great deal of ingenuity because you will most likely have to

change your mindset to what is important and those things you are currently

holding onto that you can throw away or put on the back burner. Stephen Covey

in First Things First, states that if you had a jar with sand and rocks in it, most

people filling up the jar would fill it with sand and then attempt to stuff the rocks

in. The students doing this experiment could never fit in the allotted number of

rocks.

However, by putting the rocks in first and letting the sand flow over and

into the crevices, the jar could be effectively filled. Rocks are our priorities and

sand is the other stuff. We just need to determine what our priorities are and

spend time on them. Doctor appointments are down the priority list until you

become sick and have to move it up to the top. If the kids all need their teeth

checked at about the same time, schedule in one block of time for all of the

appointments. Perhaps you could shop by phone or computer. It might be worth

it. You could also teach the children how to menu plan thereby cutting down on

your things-to-do list and teaching them a lesson in the mechanisms of meal

planning at the same time.

Excerpt from My Book "The Single Mothers Journey To Wholeness" Copyrighted by Nicole Elizabeth Biggs 2005 "Now Orozco"

Networking - Finding Your Niche

Go Out And Get M!
Go Out And Get M!

To build your own network, you will require a willingness to learn new

things, to change, and to meet new people. With a willingness to learn, opportunities

will come that will present themselves in different and unexpected ways.

Also, receiving help allows us to give support to others who may need it. It is contagious.

Networking is all about creating a circle of people who can influence others

and situations in ways that we never thought possible.

Again quoting The One Minute Millionaire, Hansen and Allen state that

any one person in the world is only six-people deep. If you need help or support

in parenting, then network. If you need some help in business, then network. If

you need financial backing or clothes for a new career-or help in training for

your dream job-then network! The only requirement is that you step out in

faith and not worry about what others think of you.

Force yourself to go out if you must

I know that I make this sound simple, but it has not always been that way

for me. I remember going to meetings alone; sometimes seminars, sometimes

church, and frequently Chamber of Commerce meetings or study groups. At

first, there were many times I didn't really feel like going anywhere, but I did anyway.

So should you. Inside I am shy, but I force myself to become an extrovert so

as to not isolate myself and to let myself feel more alive. I have met many interesting

people and the more I step out to network, the less scary it is. Somehow it

provides me with more of life's tools on learning how to live and how to heal. By

reaching out into the community-even in small doses-you can become part of

the whole. You'll find that you will believe in yourself more and more and your

opportunities will soar!

Be selective about who you let into your circle. This is not meant to be a

snobbish statement but rather for you to be aware that not everyone is trustworthy,

and some people can drain you of your valuable time and energy. The old

saying Birds of a feather, flock together is truer than you think. There are plenty of

networking groups you can join. The Chamber of Commerce in your area probably

holds monthly mixers, and there are book clubs, churches, and seminars held

on all types of subjects. If you like sales, find a product and try network marketing.

Just step out and start somewhere.

Excerpt from My Book "The Single Mothers Journey To Wholeness" Copyrighted by Nicole Elizabeth Biggs 2005 "Now Orozco"

Breaking The Chains - Get Free Now!

Break Those Chains!
Break Those Chains!

Unlock your mind and be free

Self-love puts us at peace. It can break the chains of abuse, addiction, self-condemnation,

illness, guilt, mental confusion, and despair. An affirmation from

Louise Hay's book is I love and accept myself. She says to write it 500 times (she

likes to write, too) and say it over and over until it sinks in. This is one way to help

the chains of your past fall off, whether you are a millionaire or are in prison.

Trusting in the process of life also helps us break free for good. At the

beginning of this book, we went over the beginning steps of letting go in the healing

process. Then we went into all of the actions we could take for change to happen

in our life. In this chapter, trusting in life's process might seem redundant,

but the trust process is at a different level every time we encounter change or

growth in our life. Every time we think we have it all worked out, life may throw

us a challenge or two, bringing us to the next level of trust.

Life is a continuing cycle and each achievement or milestone in life brings

us to a higher level of confidence. It's at a level that allows us to do our parenting,

or to accomplish whatever it is that needs to be done at the time. During the

tougher times we were forced to only be and trust so that we could just make it

through. The more we trust, the less a crisis can take hold of us, and the more we

are able to break free from the shackles of fear.

By now, we probably have fewer control issues and probably are more at

peace with ourselves and with our children. We look at our kids with joy. We

trust God to provide for us and for our needs. Now, if we get laid off or lose our

jobs, we know we can find another one. We also know that if we lose our house,

we can find another home, because we have done it before. If our children chip a

tooth, we can get it fixed, and if our children are sad, then we allow them to

express these emotions, knowing they will soon come out of the sad feelings. We

trust that the love we have for them will make up for any inadequacies and they

will grow up OK.

We know that whether we are sad, excited, or feeling chaotic, there is now

an underlying feeling of peace and contentment. At the beginning, when we were

first separated, we felt so scared and alone. If you are still at this fearful place in

your life, relax and know that it is not forever and you can arrive at a place of

trust and peace. Knowing this fact is instrumental in allowing you to break the

chains.

If you are still on the bridge and are balancing all of the aspects of your life,

you probably have sporadic moments of peace. The further you go on in your

journey, the less sporadic these peaceful times will be and you will start to trust

that the bridge will hold you and bring you to the other side.

Excerpt from My Book "The Single Mothers Journey To Wholeness" Copyrighted by Nicole Elizabeth Biggs 2005 "Now Orozco"

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      This is a wonderful lens. Getting through a divorce is a hard process. Very inspiring. A friend and I have been working on a project together dealing with our journies. Thank you for putting this together.

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      Ayers4christ 6 years ago

      I have so much respect for single moms. You have tremendous grace and strength.

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      recipes-with-pasta 6 years ago

      I Miss my mom T.T great lens between

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      JeremiahStanghini 6 years ago

      Wow... you've been through quite a bit!

      With Love and Gratitude,

      Jeremiah

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      tiff0315 6 years ago

      Great lens! I was a single mom for a while and can relate to a lot that you have written about. Thank you for such a wonderful lens

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      NoYouAreNot 6 years ago

      Being a single mom of 4 can lead you very close to breaking-point. I have been raising my daughter alone since she was 2.5 (she is now 14) and even this can be difficult at times. Plus, in my country (Greece) there is no real government assistance for single moms -- I researched it at about the beginning of the 21st century (just to see how much progress and social welfare this state can attest), and I found out that I was entitled to 45 euros/month (~ $62, at today's rates), but ONLY IF my income did not exceed $1100/year! I didn't even bother to apply and mess with greek bureaucracy. Greece has a very low birthrate -- can anyone guess why? :-(

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      justholidays 6 years ago

      Raising children as a single parent isn't an easy thing, but I do think that raising children alone right from the start is easier than after a divorce when one has already a time schedule for two adults. It is this complete change that might lead mothers into getting insane... Personally, I raised my children alone since the very first day and I've never felt overwhelmed neither lost... of course, I don't have four children; which probably eased the process :)

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      fadibody 6 years ago

      Very thought-provoking articles. Thanks for the share!

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      Anthony Godinho 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Encouraging and inspirational read through your lens which were excerpts from your book. Wishing you the best as you continue your journey! :)

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      Adriana 6 years ago from New Market

      You are a fighter! And a good example for your children and other women. Wishing you continued success in your journey. Blessed by a Squid Angel :)

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      Heidi Reina 6 years ago from USA

      Your accomplishments in overcoming the daunting challenges of being a single mom are an inspiration. Blessed by a SquidAngel ~

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      deyanis 6 years ago from Oz

      Nicole, you're an inspiration to many single moms out there. I love reading your story and your book excerpt. It's amazing that you took all your life experience, take up the challenge and be a stronger woman & mom in the end. This is a very well-done lens especially for someone who's just joined Squidoo. Looking forward to reading your next lenses. Sprinkle my angel blessing here --- Blessed ---

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      marketmasterpro 6 years ago

      @carlajo73: thank you for checking out the lens and the nice comment too!

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      carlajo73 6 years ago

      Lots of great info here! Glad to hear that you were able to bounce back stronger than ever! Congrats to you!

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      VarietyWriter2 6 years ago

      Well done lens!...especially for someone new to Squidoo!