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Let's Talk About Sex Baby !!!
Knowledge is Your Best Friend
This is the day that all parents dread coming. The day we realize are children are growing up and need to learn about certain aspects of life. Trust me no parent wants this day to come but it does. Your best approach is to be ready. Research ways to approach your child about the subject. Now all the latest information regarding strangers. Pay attention to details about your child, this will give you a big insight to what they feel comfortable with.
Many parents have found it to be helpful by discussing it with friends or family members that have already been through this situation. That doesn't mean you have to do it exactly the same way but gather information from different people and form your own approach. Keep in mind that all children are different so tailor your idea to fit you and your child.
Get Involved With Your Child
Pointers Before the Big Conversation
Use age appropriate content. All small children should learn about stranger danger. Even if you are not ready to fully discussion everything, teach them about strangers and places they should not be touched. Our world is not the safest place for small children no matter where you live. There are too many twisted people in the world that prey on small untaught children.
Preteens are just starting to go through many changes with their bodies which we all know will affect their mood. So keep that in mind when approaching the subject because they may have already started noticing things about themselves.
The world as a whole is very stressful for teenagers. They have peer pressure coming out their ears. As a parent we need to face the fact that many teenagers start having sex young. We can't force them to not have sex so your best defense is knowledge. Make sure they understand that pregnancy is not the only thing that can happen. Birth control is not 100% guaranteed no matter what you do. Abstinence is the only guaranteed way to not get some type of sexually transmitted disease or pregnant. There is nothing we can do as a parent to prevent our teenagers from having sex but we can inform them and let them know the benefits of not giving into peer pressure. Make sure your teenager knows they can come to you anytime and discuss anything they need to. Communication and observation is the only way to keep our children on the right track.
Let Your Child Talk With You About Anything
It may seem old fashioned and impersonal but sometimes necessary. There are several places you can find free literature to help talk about sex with your child. Many health departments are more than glad to give you lots of pamphlets to discuss things.
Don't be afraid to ask for help. Children do not come with instructions and all parents need help at some point in time. You can talk to your child's doctor, librarian and even a health department counselor. You may have to think outside the box depending on where you live but there is always someone who can help. If you are having trouble thinking of someone, ask your child's school counselor for advice. They are not only their for the kids, they can also help point parents in the right direction.
If you are planning to talk to your teenager then visit their doctor's office. Make sure you have all the picture literature they have to show your child what a sexually transmitted disease looks like. Teenagers have the highest percentage of sexually transmitted disease patients in the US. I have went through this with four teenagers so far and trust me, them seeing what this can look like and do to them definitely made an impact on their idea of sex. I was very fortunate that only one of my daughters had a child under 20 years old.
Use your imagination on how to detour your child into thinking having sex young is a good idea. If you have a teenager you already know just trying to force the issue does not work. Encourage them that either having a baby or a sexually transmitted disease can alter their dreams they may have for the future.