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Teaching Children to Value and Know Themselves.
Teaching Children to Know and Value Themselves
What does it take to raise a child to be strong from the inside?
Some time ago, I came across a blog of a parent that mentions a conversation with her husband about how best to raise and protect their son. The father’s response struck a chord He said that " They should raise their child to be so strong on the inside that nothing would break him" I think this is how all parents should want to raise their children. What would this entail in reality?
To be fully secure requires an inner knowingness of who we are at a soul level – or metaphysically speaking an understanding of our inner energies. Most people spend a good part of their life trying to answer the question ‘Who am I?’ How can we expect children to know this if childhood is about learning about who they are?
A Book About Teaching Children to Value Themselves
A Book that Teachers Children Not to Judge Others. (Suitable for a 3yr Olds).
Know thyself is a maxim acknowledged in both Eastern and Western world views. It is a maxim recognized and repeatedly mentioned from spiritual text, great philosophers, self help books and any authority on human development.
The Eastern and Western world view might seem contradictory to many but one thing that they both agree on is the maxim ‘Know thyself’
Plato employs the maxim 'Know Thyself' extensively by having the character of Socrates use it to motivate his dialogues.
Your work is to discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it.” – Buddha
Sun Tzu “It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell.”
Superficial Self -Knowing vs Our True Essence
What can be done to help children understand who they truly are?
Understanding who we truly are is more than a superficial exercise of observing the things we like or don’t like – the people that we are attracted to or not – The ways we react in different situations. All these things might change with time as we grow or change our perspectives. Knowing who we truly are is to know the part of us that does not change over time. Our essence or some might say our soul nature. The part of us that behaves consistently sometimes without us being fully aware of what makes us unique. It is not always a good thing to listen to what others say about us because they can only do so from their own subjective experience and using language which can sometimes be a barrier because language is a subjectively interpreted medium that is subject to one’s own beliefs, upbringing and values.
We need to help our children know who they truly are – what their essence is in order for them to live authentically with strong self esteem no matter what challenges are thrown at them.
What Can We do To Discover our Child's True Nature.
Keep a Journal
Ask your children to conduct a personal exercise and keep a journal of strengths and weaknesses and events of the day.
Complement your children on their good qualities and help them to improve or accept parts of themselves that cannot be changed. Encourage their natural talents and avoid living their life.
Educational and clinical psychologist provides tests to measure IQ and personality type.
The Briggs Myers 16p personality profile is used widely to identify personality type.
Encourage your children to listen to their inner voice or intuition. It reveals itself on a moment to moment basis and always knows the right thing to do.
Asking for Divine guidance. Teaching Children how to prayer with meaning. Prayer can become repetitive and loose it's meaningful purpose when said repeatedly and in a rote like fashion.
Listening to Divine Guidance. Connects us to our inner core.
Understanding Our Energies Through Metaphysics.
Metaphysics deals with our understanding of things that are more abstract in nature and cannot be explained or measured by science. Examples include spirituality and cosmology.
Provides insight into the human energy system and teaches how we can maintain emotional balance through balancing and aligning our energetic body.
Benefits of Children Understanding Their True Selves.
When children understand their essence –
- They live from the inside out and not from the outside in
- They will be more confident
- They will be less judgemental because they can appreciate the good qualities in themselves and others and realize that we are all on a journey of discovery.
- They will be more in tune with themselves and better able to deal with life’s challenges.
- They will be more in touch with their intuition and make decisions that align with their true selves.
- They will be happier as they are able to accept themselves for who they are.
We are all on our own personal life path and journey. Once you recognize this - people can be appreciated for who they are and not what they are. We all benefit when we allow our fellow man to express their true natures. The alternative brings only fear, anger, frustration and our ultimate destruction.
As parents we can change the world by supporting and encouraging our children’s natural talents.
Allow your child/ren to be who they are and not who you think they should be.