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Why do teens feel the need to have a boyfriend/girlfriend
Do teens need relationships
Why do teenagers feel they need to be in a relationship in school?
My 15 yr old has been into boys since 5th grade. A little young but how do you explain it. She went from boyfriend to boyfriend, why? What ever happened to being in a group and hanging out as friends. She is dating this guy now (again) that she has liked for 4yrs. I say again because she dated him 3 yrs ago. They are in 10th grade and talking of moving to CA after high school. That is where she plans on attending college. What's he going to do? Not sure, they haven't thought it through completely. As long as they're together. I laugh. Her grades failing she wanders why everyone is mad at her. Her dad from not wanting to waste college tuition to her grandparents yelling at her to grow up. Seriously? She's 15, smart kid, she chooses not to do the work until last minute. Why? She says its easy. Then it should be done right?
From her mouth... "At my high school if you "date" a boy then you're considered a "sl*t" but if he's your boyfriend then its better that's just the way it is, you wouldn't understand. "
Really I wouldn't understand? It was the same way when I was in school. I just didn't follow the crowd.You want independence, individuality? Then achieve it.
A relationship adds to the stress of school work, chores, getting a job, learning to drive (safely) and family. Do they really need to worry about what their boyfriend/girlfriend is doing when they are not together?
I actually had a guy at my home at 2am trying to peek thru my daughters window to watch her sleep. I live 5 miles outside of town 3acres, hay field across the street. He parked down the street and walked up my 300ft driveway. all because I took her (& my family) out of state for the 4day weekend to visit family. He was upset the she wasn't with him so he went to another girls house(while we were gone) to make out with her. Then blamed my daughter for not being here. He was gone quickly after that.
Brings me back to the question why do teens feel the need to ad relationships to all the stress they already have? So much drama. Its just not worth it. Have fun but study so you have a head start on life when you graduate. Life is short... it really is. Enjoy it while you can but remember the choices you make now will affect your future. No matter how small the choices are.