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The important relationship between fathers and daughters- three part series- part 1

Updated on June 27, 2011

Fathers and Daughters

When a woman grows up with a healthy loving relationship with her father or a man that is her father figure it can greatly dictate the man that she chooses to spend her life with. When a woman can have the gift of a wonderful loving relationship with her father she will grow up to be a woman who is not looking for a man to fill that void but to be with a man that she can share her love and life with.

The love of a father

Many times we think that the first love of a woman’s life is her first boyfriend or husband but the truth of the matter is the first person that is the love of a woman's life is her father, or it should be in a healthy good father daughter relationship. 

This is not in the terms of an unhealthy relationship, but as a child the first man that she will love is her dad and that love will be part of who she is. When a girl has a father that teaches her respect for herself, shows her by example how to be kind to women, helps her to build her character and guides her to loving herself than, she will hold that feeling of self respect and love throughout her life.

As the daughter grows into a teenager, her father will be there to guide her and teach her about boys. She will already know that she is deeply loved by a man (her father) and will not seek that attention out in other ways.

Girls that have a great relationships with their fathers are less sexually active at an early age, and have fewer incidence of children as teenagers or out of wedlock. When the girl matures into a woman the man that she selects as her husband is less likely to be abusive or dominating, and more likely to be respectable and kind, because that is a normal man to her. The other wonderful aspect is the daughter will grow up to like men, respect men, understand men and be comfortable with a man. The daughter will be able to distinguish between a man that is a good honorable person and a man that is not going to treat her well.

Special bond

Fathers and daughters have a special bond that is unique and different from a mother daughter relationship. When speaking about a father, this man could be a grandfather, a step-father that the child has known from a very young age, an uncle, or a man that she can look up to that is a big part of her life!

What are the boundaries that a father must provide to his daughter in order for her to grow up with all of these wonderful qualities that she will gain from her father?

The love between a father and daughter Read in part 2

 

 

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      shally kaushik 

      6 years ago

      i love you so much papa...you are not here but i can still your presence in my life....i miss u a lot papa...i miss u a lot

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      Swati rajput 

      6 years ago

      Miss u lot dad....... :(((

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      RhebaE 

      7 years ago from San Francisco Bay Area, CA

      Dad sets the pace in more ways than people realize. Mother daughter bonds get most of the attention but Dads matter. Every female I know with a terrific relationship had a positive relationship with their dad. There is a reason why men have to ask a woman's father for permission to marry their daughter. And why a father gives away his daughter as a bride to her husband. Dad is the first protector and provider and husband is the next. If dad has high standards then his daughter will be careful who she brings home.

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      dpinoy13 

      8 years ago from Antipolo, Philippines

      nothing better than a fathers relationship to his daughter or son

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      MKayo 

      8 years ago from Texas

      Absolutely wonderful Hub Dawn - Kudos! I voted you up. You are exactly right about the relationshiop between a daughter and her father. Especially important when they are young. Great stuff - thanks you! M

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      Audrey Kirchner 

      8 years ago from Washington

      Those are super points to make, Dawn - voted up - I believe wholeheartedly that a girl learns much from a loving father about what to expect in the man she wants to share her life with. I have always been so grateful my husband Bob is such a good man. It gave not only my daughter a sense of what she should look for, but it also in turn gave my boys a look at perhaps who they could become in their own versions. What a gift for a girl like me!

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      Dawn Michael 

      8 years ago from THOUSAND OAKS

      thank-you sa ge for reading my hub and yes D was dancing on my buttons..lol

      Hi tonymaco4, and I am sure that it is, daughters are very special, I have one too ....lol

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      Tony McGregor 

      8 years ago from South Africa

      Thanks for this very positive and beautiful Hub. I like to think my relationship with my daughters is very special.

      Love and peace

      Tony

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      Sa`ge 

      8 years ago from Barefoot Island

      This is a great hub so much truth in this. You did a great job on this. :D danced on your buttons. Thanks for your hard work. :D aloha

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      Dawn Michael 

      8 years ago from THOUSAND OAKS

      Thankyou dashing for you comments as always....lol

      ahorseback, what you wrote brough tears to my eyes, and I am so happy for you and your daughter!!! When I lost my dad last year, my heart broke to pieces, but I am so very thankful that I had all of those years with him. He was the first man I loved and it's funny because I tell my husband that and he smiles at me because we have a daughter and my husband is wonderful to her, and he gets it. I have my father to thank for showing me how a man is suppose to treat his wife and his children with love and respect.

      Yes it takes a real man to raise a daughter!!!!!!! well said

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      ahorseback 

      8 years ago

      Dawn, you hit the nail right on the head with this hub, I am a father fortunate enough to have been blessed with a daughter , I never once thought or wished she was a boy. She was the light of my life when she was born and 33 years later , I am still amazed at our relationship. She is my only child and we share a bond stronger than glue , and I recently told her about my secret hubber life. she is now a silent fan.Thanks for his wonderful reminder , I think I'll call her. By the way I once read this , "Any man can raise a son but it takes a real man to raise a daughter." I find some truth in this saying!

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      dashingscorpio 

      8 years ago

      Very true.

      A lot of parents don't realize just how much they may affect a child's future relationships whether it be in a positive or negative way. Much of today's attitude is men aren't all that important in having children or raising them. It's refreshing to read that we are more than sperm donors! LOL!

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      sjk6101983 

      8 years ago from Milwaukee, WI

      How Freudian. :)

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