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The Loving Gift of the Feather Touch
Love And Touch Go Hand In Hand
All my life I've been blessed to be touched by loving hands. What better therapy can exist than that of the human touch? It has been a source of calmness for me as long as I can remember. Love and touch go hand in hand.
I've watched as mothers use different methods of touch to quiet a crying baby. Some gently pat the little padded bottom to the beat of the lullaby they hum. Some pat or rub the back as baby nestles his little face into the hollow of mother's neck. Some rub the little heads, often focusing on the eyebrows as baby sinks into peaceful slumber. New mothers instinctively develop their own methods which they practice on their children and every baby they touch.
I have been blessed to be the recipient of the loving touch of others all my life. First my mom and dad with pats of love, holding my hand, patting my face, stroking my hair. Then came my grandparents. My grandmother especially was good at touching with love. All my life and until she died, she would sit by me and rub my arms and fingers. If I was within reach, she was rubbing me. And, believe me, I would always put myself within reach.
I would describe grandma's touch as a feather touch. She would not apply pressure and never seemed to tire of showing her love through the gentle touch of her hands. When my own children and grandchildren came along, I practiced it often and still do if they are ever still long enough. I always think of grandma when I do this and try to touch as softly as she.
The feather touch can calm a restless baby, cause a fidgety child to remain perfectly still, heal a troubled mood and put even the worst insomniac to sleep.
It's a matter of only barely letting your fingertips touch the skin as you maintain constant long strokes, back and forth. It works on arms, legs, the face, back and fingers.
There are some, however, who just can't handle it, especially if the back is the focus of your attention. My little ones will arch uncontrollably and laugh, removing themselves, only to come back for more. For those who are extremely ticklish, it becomes a matter of whether the desire to be feather touched can overcome the unbearable tickle it often produces.
The Bible tells us that love never fails and that that true love will produce action. The gift of touch is a basic show of affection anyone can perform for many kinds of infirmities and it is not just for the benefit of the recipient.
And the whole multitude sought to touch him: for there went virtue out of him, and healed them all. Luke 6:19