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Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow

Updated on February 23, 2015

Remembering a Loved One: My Mom

I chose the plant Yesterday Today and Tomorrow to represent my Mother. It is 10 years since she passed away (2002) and I still miss her dearly.

In the cemetery I have had one of these lovely bushes planted with a plaque:

"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift that is why it is called the present."

This is a lovely quote that I've seen many times in emails and I found it attached to my Mom's fridge. While many say the quote is attributed to Mr Anonymous I've also seen an attribution to Bil Keane (1922-2011).

Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.

Dale Carnegie

Mom's memorial tree
Mom's memorial tree

Why I Chose The Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow Plant

As a remembrance plant....

My Mom passed away after suffering for eight months from cancer. While it's a terrible time to go through it is a privilege to have been there to help my Mom in any way that I could. As far as I was concerned it never seemed enough and I was consumed with guilt and sadness.

If I had done this...if I had done that...couldn't I have helped more?

When I was cleaning up Mom's flat I came across the quote above. It was attached to the fridge with a magnet. It was telling me something beautiful and gave me comfort. It is the verse on the plaque by her tree. Firstly, it meant something to her. Secondly, the color of the plant is the color that suited my Mom best. Thirdly, my Dad used to be a great gardener and had one of these plants in his garden. It was years since he had died overseas but I always remembered it. And it just felt right to bring them together. I see this little bush is a memorial to them both.

I also found a poem in her draw about Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow. This poem follows below.

(This picture shows the bush while not in bloom and is the actual bush for my Mom.)

Yesterday-today-tommorrow
Yesterday-today-tommorrow

Quote: Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow

A poem found in my Mother's drawer.

There are two days in every week about which we should not worry,

Two days which should be kept free of fear and apprehension.

One of these days is YESTERDAY,

With its mistakes and cares,

Its faults and blunders,

Its aches and pains.

YESTERDAY has passed forever beyond our control.... read more

Author Unknown

Together - My Mom and Dad

Carl and Connie together
Carl and Connie together

This was the start of their married life together. Sadly by the time I was three and my brother just 18 months old they had parted. We know very little of what happened as it was something that was never spoken of. It seemed too painful. Now they are both gone and there is no chance of finding out. I believe they were married five years.

Yesterday has Gone

Yesterday has gone.

Forgive yesterday's mistakes,

And remember happy times.

Love... that is what it takes.

Today they are gone.

Forget the days of sorrow.

Remember times of laughter.

For yesterday has gone...

They are together in memory hereafter

Thanks to a little bush called Yesterday-Today-Tomorrow.

Lyn Bell

It is difficult to say what is impossible, for the dream of yesterday is the hope of today and the reality of tomorrow.

Bob Goddard

Forgiveness

To move forward and be free we need to forgive...both ourselves and others. Here are a selection of books to help the process.

"There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love."

Bryant H. McGill

Books to Help With Death and Dying

Helping you cope with the sorrow of death.

"The soul would not recognise a rainbow without tears in the eyes".

Solly Ozrovech

the fruit
the fruit

Yesterday Today and Tomorrow: The Plant

Yesterday Today and Tomorrow also has the common name of Kiss Me Quick and Day-Noon-Night. It's botanical name is Brunfelsias and is an evergreen shrub. Native to Brazil it does well in warmer climates.

The sweet smelling flowers start out as a violet or purple color which fade to lavender and then white. These three colors appear on the bush at the same time. This is what represents the three different days...and they only last three days in total.

These lovely shrubs like well-drained soil, a sunny position and protection from frost.

I was surprised to learn that the plant develops small yellow fruits as I have never seen them. This picture shows those fruits.

Warning: The leaves, flowers and berries are toxic.

Photo Credit

Fiskars 9124 Professional Bypass Pruning Shears
Fiskars 9124 Professional Bypass Pruning Shears

I've heard great things about these pruning shears. They'll be ideal to keep your Yesterday-Today-Tomorrow in perfect conditions.

 

There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called yesterday the other is called tomorrow, so today is the right day to love, believe, do and mostly live.

~ Dalai Lama

Brunfelsias
Brunfelsias

The Colors of Yesterday-Today-Tomorrow

Purple: Yesterday

Lilac: Today

White: Tomorrow

Purple
Purple

Yesterday

The meaning of the color purple...

Purple is a combination of the cooling blue and the dynamic warming red. Red is an active energy while blue is calming and expansive.

The color purple has been used through the ages to symbolize magic and mystery and royalty. Combining the coolest of colors with the warmest it is believed to be an ideal color.

Picture by Zaliha called Drop of Water

Today - The second day of the flower is lilac or lavender

Lavender or lilac
Lavender or lilac

A lighter version of purple this color is much loved by young girls who see it as romantic.

Picture by Seagrave called Love.

Snowfall photo by Lyn
Snowfall photo by Lyn

Tomorrow

The final day of the flower

White is the color of purity worn by brides in many countries because it symbolizes virginity. White means kindness and in many cultures it represents openness and truth. In some cultures white is worn at funerals.

White has purification feelings and can be used to clear blocks. It has the potential to move toward every other color making it a good choice for new beginnings.

So there you have it...funerals or new beginnings!

Picture taken of the snow from my front door 2011.

Remember yesterday, dream about tomorrow

.....live for today

- unknown.

Awareness Ribbons
Awareness Ribbons

Cancer Awareness Ribbons

We are all familiar with the colored ribbons that represent various illnesses. Here are the colors for my Mom.

While lavender represents all cancers, purple covers pancreatic cancer and colorectal (colon) cancer is represented by blue.

What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow: Our life is the creation of our mind.

- Hindu Prince Gautama Siddharta, the founder of Buddhism

Some of the pictures featured on this lens come from Dreamstime.

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      AJ 4 years ago from Australia

      This is a beautiful plant with a deliciously heady perfume which I absolutely love. Your quotation for your mother is equally as beautiful. Blessings.

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      LynetteBell 4 years ago from Christchurch, New Zealand

      @Rangoon House: Thank you for your blessing and comments:)

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      VeseliDan 4 years ago

      This plant looks really beautiful.I like the story about your mother! *blessed*

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      gottaloveit2 4 years ago

      What a lovely tribute lens. I just lost my Mom Feb 15, 2012. I was blessed to care for her the past 5 years. I have a memory garden growing and believe I have to now find this plant. It will be lovely. Blessed.

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      Delia 4 years ago

      When I lived in California I had a beautiful large Bush called Rose of Sharon or Yesterday-Today & Tomorrow, it had double blooms of Purple, Lavender and White flowers...boy so I miss that!

      Nicely done lens and informative...

      ~d-artist Squid Angel Blessing~

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      Lorelei Cohen 4 years ago from Canada

      What a beautiful symbolic plant to remember your mother by. Yesterday, today, and tomorrow a flower that really does have much more than just it's blossoms to endear us to it.

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      CyberTech LM 4 years ago

      I lost my Mother at the age of 19 and my Father at 8 years old, I am now alone, I lost my wife in 2003.

      Great Lens, it is very nice.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      My heart feel only love visiting your lens. This is lovely, and so warm!

      Blessed!

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      rallo-smith 4 years ago

      What a beautiful way to remember your parents.

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      Lori Green 4 years ago from Las Vegas

      I did the same thing with the color blue for my mom.

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      maria 4 years ago from pa

      what a beautiful story, thank you for sharing it.

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      happynutritionist 4 years ago

      This is a touching page...I had never heard of the yesterday, today and tomorrow flower and think it's wonderful you can plant next to the grave at your cemetery, we can't do that at my father's. Yes, when they go, we do go through the list of regrets, most of the time unfounded, but it's part of the grief process. This is a lovely page and I couldn't resist blessing it.

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      LynetteBell 4 years ago from Christchurch, New Zealand

      @happynutritionist: The plant is in place of the grave. At the cemetery you are allowed to plant a memorial tree (at a fee of course) but you must tend it. Thank you for your comments and blessing:)

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      Little Linda Pinda 4 years ago from Florida

      That must be hard never knowing what happened in your parents marriage. Your mom was so cute in that photo. My blood father didn't care enough to visit us but my stepfather became our real dad to us when I was 7 yrs old. I wrote a tribute lens about my dad and sang him Daddys Hands. He passed away in 2008. Thank you for sharing with us.

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      intermarks 4 years ago

      Yesterday, today and tomorrow, this is a non stop cycle, and we can never jump out of this cycle.

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      greg2biz2 4 years ago

      Beautiful lens. Appreciate it.

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      Chuck Nelson 4 years ago from California

      A bitter-sweet lens. Thank you for sharing.

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      Margarita Boettcher 4 years ago from Morrison, Colorado

      I completely understand the feeling that it would never have been enough. I lost my youngest son 2000. So I know about heart ache. I also understand the need to pay tribute the best way we can. Often when there is healing there is guilt from that. You don't want to move because you feel guilty. Special tributes like this go a long way to ease that feeling. But I feel very strongly that they know we will never forget them. This lens is lovely:)

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      poldepc lm 4 years ago

      nice presentation

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      jazziyarbrough 4 years ago

      Very beautiful dedicational lens. Thanks for sharing

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      sandi_x 4 years ago

      Beautiful lens

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      KimGiancaterino 4 years ago

      Lovely lens ... your poem is very nice too.

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      Pam Irie 4 years ago from Land of Aloha

      Such a wonderful tribute to your mother. I enjoyed it very much. This is the first time I've heard of the name of this plant; it is charming!

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      Tony Payne 4 years ago from Southampton, UK

      Very sweet, nicely done, I haven't heard of this plant before, but I think of my Mom a lot too. In 2 weeks it will be 15 years since she passed on.

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      FashionMommy 4 years ago

      This is such a lovely lens. It's a really beautiful tribute to your mom.

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      Anthony Godinho 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      What a wonderful tribute to your mom as well as your dad. It's a great reminder for us to make the best of every day. I lost my dad over a decade ago, but I still remember and miss him almost everyday. Stay blessed!

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      TamarWrites 4 years ago

      Thank you for writing such a beautiful tribute to your mom. My dad died 17 years ago, and I still miss him every day. He never got to know his grandkids.

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      Mandy Stradley 4 years ago

      Very sweet lens. I enjoyed the pictures.

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      lesliesinclair 4 years ago

      This a lovely tribute to your mother. It's so true about yesterday & tomorrow. thanks.

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      Mamabyrd 4 years ago

      This is a very touching lens! Thank you for sharing it with us

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      Lori Green 4 years ago from Las Vegas

      I plant blue and purple flowers for my mom also. This lens is blessed.

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      pawpaw911 4 years ago

      Great tribute to your mother. Love the old photo of your mother and father.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Beautiful lens and a wonderful tribute to your mother. Thank you for sharing.

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      msseiboi 4 years ago

      Oh..great ideas...wonderful lens...inspiring

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      WriterJanis2 4 years ago

      Such a beautiful and heartfelt lens. Blessed!

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      blessedmomto7 4 years ago

      I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my mom at a very young age. Lovely lens.

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      gottaloveit2 4 years ago

      Back to add my blessing. I've added plants in my Mom's memory to the memorial garden I created for my Dad. I think this plant is on my wish list.

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      Melissa Miotke 4 years ago from Arizona

      Now that I have my angel wings I came back to bless this lens:)

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      maryLuu 4 years ago

      Touching lens!

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      Rosaquid 4 years ago

      Thank you for sharing this. I found the poem especially meaningful today.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Thanks for a great lens and the poems.

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      Gayle Dowell 4 years ago from Kansas

      What a great lens and such a great way to honor your mom. Blessed~

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      LouisaDembul 4 years ago

      What a lovely page in honor of your mother. And what a good reminder for us all to concentrate on taking care of ourselves and our loved ones today.

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      dellgirl 4 years ago

      Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow is a great choice for this lens and for your tribute. This is a beautiful tribute to your mother! Thanks for sharing this. ~Blessed~

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      Elastara 4 years ago

      A heart-warming lens to show great tribute to your mom for the love you have for her.

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      anismanto 4 years ago

      "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift that is why it is called the present." I love these words. They celebrate optimism. Congratulation for this touching tribute, ma'am. Best for the Mom.

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      sailor_man 4 years ago

      I return visit and recommend for other lenses

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      Linda Jo Martin 4 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

      Beautiful flower and lens for your mother...

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      coolaunt 4 years ago

      Splendid lens.

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      SecondSally 4 years ago

      Your lens is beautiful. Thanks for sharing it.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Hiya I lost my Mom in 2002 as well very nice lens appreciated. Love the purple flowers as well. Did a lens about my Mom too as a tribute well sort of.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      I like your lens.

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      oztoo lm 4 years ago

      What a lovely tribute to your mother. I love the poem Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow and the plant Brunsfelia with it's lovely fragrance is a great idea.

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      Darcie French 4 years ago from Abbotsford, BC

      What a beautiful tribute to mom

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      Vikki 4 years ago from US

      This is absolutely beautiful. So thankful for my Mom.

      Blessed.

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      VspaBotanicals 4 years ago

      Very very beautiful.

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      Kay 4 years ago

      Very sweet. I just love pages like this. Blessed!

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Wonderful tribute!

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      TedWritesStuff 4 years ago

      I am a sucker for carpe dium... I sing it loud and long. Thanks for sharing,,,

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      CoolKarma 4 years ago

      Such a beautiful lens. I have Yesterday Today and Tomorrow planted all round my house. It is one of the few plants that do great without being "baby-ed" where I lived. I love the heavenly perfume wafting everywhere when it is in flower, which is a few times a year, here.

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      Fay Favored 4 years ago from USA

      I can understand how you still miss your mom and appreciate this article. My mother's favorite color was purple and she loved lilacs. Where can you get one of these plants? I've never heard of it.

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      Toy-Tester 4 years ago

      A beautiful lens. Reminds me of my green thumb Grandma and her garden from days passed. Thank you for the smile and memory.

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      Helen Phillips Cockrell 4 years ago from Virginia

      Wonderful lens. Beautiful tribute to your Mom and Dad.

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      anne mohanraj 4 years ago

      A great article with lovely quotes!

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      ismeedee 4 years ago

      Truly beautiful! It must be a little hard for you not knowing what happened between your parents. But this is a wonderful tribute to your mother!! I loved reading about how you chose the flowers!

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      MissKeenReviewer 4 years ago

      Dealing with the passing of a loved one can truly be painful. But the pain will ease up in time but the sadness still lingers on. There were moments when I've noticed tears rolled down my cheeks when I yearn for my loved ones.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      This is a touchstone lens for me. My mom died in 2001, and I am still coping with the loss. Your beautiful lens is helpful.

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      poldepc lm 4 years ago

      very emotional and touching breathtaking lens...thanks for sharing

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      Kimberley Vico 4 years ago

      Very thoughtful Lens - thank you!

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      Takkhis 4 years ago

      I don't know what to say except "A Beautiful Lens". I really love this lens that's why i just bookmarked it. Oh i must tell you that i like your parents picture :)

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      LorLinda 4 years ago from Denver Colorado

      Beautiful lens! I miss my mother!

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      Mary Norton 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      My mother passed away last year and I wish she is still around.

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      rray001 lm 4 years ago

      Great lens I like that you took the time to honor your parents. I have lost both my parents and reading this lens help me reflect on them.

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      Aunt-Mollie 4 years ago

      What a wonderful tribute to your parents and their legacy.

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      Lee Hansen 4 years ago from Vermont

      What a lovely memory plant. I must find this and add it to my garden for my father and grandmother. Welcome to my list of award winners at Purple Star Pastiche.

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      LynetteBell 4 years ago from Christchurch, New Zealand

      @Lee Hansen: Thank you:)

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      SteveKaye 3 years ago

      Beautiful thoughts here. Thank you for publishing this lens. It's a touching tribute.

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      orangegirl6020 3 years ago

      Lovely lens! :) It was very sweet to look through.

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      anonymous 3 years ago

      Great lens. It made me appreciate the time I have with my mom. I miss her all the time and I feel her presence around me even if she is far away from me. Thanks for this lens.

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      Zienna1 3 years ago

      I'm reading this and I'm remembering my dad, today is their 53rd wedding anniversary and my mum's birthday is tomorrow. Mum has to celebrate alone. I used purple for my wedding motiff as well as blue.They're both my favourite colours. I emphatized with you, I've been missing my dad so much. That's why I joined squidoo, so I can forget and relax a bit. Great lens and thank you so much for sharing.

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      Elsie Hagley 3 years ago from New Zealand

      Nice. I love those words, but oh so true, memories are precious, I feel for you and understand how you feel. My mother passed away in 1976, but I still miss her.

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      Treasures By Brenda 3 years ago from Canada

      What a lovely plant and way to celebrate the memory of your mother.

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      Shinichi Mine 3 years ago from Tokyo, Japan

      Thank you for sharing this beautiful story

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