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Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow
Remembering a Loved One: My Mom
I chose the plant Yesterday Today and Tomorrow to represent my Mother. It is 10 years since she passed away (2002) and I still miss her dearly.
In the cemetery I have had one of these lovely bushes planted with a plaque:
"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift that is why it is called the present."
This is a lovely quote that I've seen many times in emails and I found it attached to my Mom's fridge. While many say the quote is attributed to Mr Anonymous I've also seen an attribution to Bil Keane (1922-2011).
Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.
Why I Chose The Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow Plant
As a remembrance plant....
My Mom passed away after suffering for eight months from cancer. While it's a terrible time to go through it is a privilege to have been there to help my Mom in any way that I could. As far as I was concerned it never seemed enough and I was consumed with guilt and sadness.
If I had done this...if I had done that...couldn't I have helped more?
When I was cleaning up Mom's flat I came across the quote above. It was attached to the fridge with a magnet. It was telling me something beautiful and gave me comfort. It is the verse on the plaque by her tree. Firstly, it meant something to her. Secondly, the color of the plant is the color that suited my Mom best. Thirdly, my Dad used to be a great gardener and had one of these plants in his garden. It was years since he had died overseas but I always remembered it. And it just felt right to bring them together. I see this little bush is a memorial to them both.
I also found a poem in her draw about Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow. This poem follows below.
(This picture shows the bush while not in bloom and is the actual bush for my Mom.)
Quote: Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow
A poem found in my Mother's drawer.
There are two days in every week about which we should not worry,
Two days which should be kept free of fear and apprehension.
One of these days is YESTERDAY,
With its mistakes and cares,
Its faults and blunders,
Its aches and pains.
YESTERDAY has passed forever beyond our control.... read more
Together - My Mom and Dad
This was the start of their married life together. Sadly by the time I was three and my brother just 18 months old they had parted. We know very little of what happened as it was something that was never spoken of. It seemed too painful. Now they are both gone and there is no chance of finding out. I believe they were married five years.
Yesterday has Gone
Yesterday has gone.
Forgive yesterday's mistakes,
And remember happy times.
Love... that is what it takes.
Today they are gone.
Forget the days of sorrow.
Remember times of laughter.
For yesterday has gone...
They are together in memory hereafter
Thanks to a little bush called Yesterday-Today-Tomorrow.
It is difficult to say what is impossible, for the dream of yesterday is the hope of today and the reality of tomorrow.
To move forward and be free we need to forgive...both ourselves and others. Here are a selection of books to help the process.
"There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love."
Bryant H. McGill
Books to Help With Death and Dying
Helping you cope with the sorrow of death.
"The soul would not recognise a rainbow without tears in the eyes".
Yesterday Today and Tomorrow: The Plant
Yesterday Today and Tomorrow also has the common name of Kiss Me Quick and Day-Noon-Night. It's botanical name is Brunfelsias and is an evergreen shrub. Native to Brazil it does well in warmer climates.
The sweet smelling flowers start out as a violet or purple color which fade to lavender and then white. These three colors appear on the bush at the same time. This is what represents the three different days...and they only last three days in total.
These lovely shrubs like well-drained soil, a sunny position and protection from frost.
I was surprised to learn that the plant develops small yellow fruits as I have never seen them. This picture shows those fruits.
Warning: The leaves, flowers and berries are toxic.
I've heard great things about these pruning shears. They'll be ideal to keep your Yesterday-Today-Tomorrow in perfect conditions.
There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called yesterday the other is called tomorrow, so today is the right day to love, believe, do and mostly live.
~ Dalai Lama
The Colors of Yesterday-Today-Tomorrow
The meaning of the color purple...
Purple is a combination of the cooling blue and the dynamic warming red. Red is an active energy while blue is calming and expansive.
The color purple has been used through the ages to symbolize magic and mystery and royalty. Combining the coolest of colors with the warmest it is believed to be an ideal color.
Picture by Zaliha called Drop of Water
Today - The second day of the flower is lilac or lavender
A lighter version of purple this color is much loved by young girls who see it as romantic.
Picture by Seagrave called Love.
The final day of the flower
White is the color of purity worn by brides in many countries because it symbolizes virginity. White means kindness and in many cultures it represents openness and truth. In some cultures white is worn at funerals.
White has purification feelings and can be used to clear blocks. It has the potential to move toward every other color making it a good choice for new beginnings.
So there you have it...funerals or new beginnings!
Picture taken of the snow from my front door 2011.
Remember yesterday, dream about tomorrow
.....live for today
Cancer Awareness Ribbons
We are all familiar with the colored ribbons that represent various illnesses. Here are the colors for my Mom.
While lavender represents all cancers, purple covers pancreatic cancer and colorectal (colon) cancer is represented by blue.
What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow: Our life is the creation of our mind.
- Hindu Prince Gautama Siddharta, the founder of Buddhism
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