Turn Negative Into Positive
We can turn negative thinking to positive using our brain power
Turning negative into positive
Welcome to my article (10), turning negative into positive.
Dear readers, I have said in our previous article, I am going to turn negative happening into positive thinking; now, to turn negative happening into positive thinking, we must go through a process of many stages, I have gone through most of this process and I continue to go through; as you can see, if you read between the lines, even this article tells you that I am still doing that; you see, I wanted to call this article, ‘Crying out aloud, because this is what this article is about, here I am trying to overcome my inner pains, because of the way of life that I have lived when I was young.
Anyhow, this article may not be in the right place of my life story writings, because I am breaking my life story in half, but I believe that I must write it somewhere, so, I may as well write it here. Now, this article is going to be a bit jumpy, I hope that you do not mind this bumpy ride that I am taking you through. So, in this article I will be talking about the ways that we sometimes behave, since my life experience has thought me that part.
Therefore, let me break away from my farm life story in this article, and those experiences of the past, and their negative thinking that they have left within my mind; we will return to write about that later; since this article is between the past and the present time, therefore, I want to tell you how I have felt during my life. You see, even today my inner self wants to cry out aloud why this had to happen to me and my family. So, I better change negative happenings to positive thinking.
But then I think that to cry over past events is not going to help me anyhow, therefore, today I am going to express myself with the knowledge that I have painfully acquired later in my life; you see, in doing what I am going to do here. Because I want to throw away my shyness forever and never look back at those drawbacks that I had early in my life; so, I want to come into the world and be able to say what I want to say. Therefore, I want to break away from the past forever; I want to introduce myself to the world and say with a loud voice, what I need to say. So, I am going to turn those negative experiences into positive thinking; I am introducing myself to the world and say, “hello my world” and try to fit in with other people as well. It is going to be a bumpy ride.
Greetings to you my dear readers I hope you accept me as your new found friend.
Introducing myself to the world
Dear readers, what I am going to write next will sound almost crazy and ridiculous, because this is not what happens in real life; however, this is one of my imaginary ways of how I can break free from my boring and shy life that I have lived until now, I know that this way is going to be strange, because suddenly I am jumping from one thing to another; but let us leave behind these negative thoughts and be positive; so, let me introduce myself to the world.
HELLO MY WORLD! HERE I COME TO YOU WITH OPEN ARMS.
Hello world! Hello life! Hello everybody!
Hello, my readers; and hello to the imaginary people that I am going to talk to in this article. So, I hope that you would listen to me and be my friends, you see, I want to be friendly with you people, since we all live in this same world, so, we are here and we are going the same way, while we try to live the best way we can, our earthly life.
So, I hope that you are willing to be my friend, since I am a lonely man and I am looking for friendship; I am asking you to be my friends, because it seems to me that you are good people and you look friendly to me; I hope that I am right and you are good friendly people. So, may I ask, if I can have the pleasure of your company?
I know that what I am saying may not make sense to you, because it is not the best way to find new friends, and I know that I need to learn how to be friendly with people. So, I must learn how to introduce myself and other things. You see, I have lived my young live in an isolated place, so, I will make mistakes, while I am trying to say something that is important.
Anyhow, because today I am writing this article, where I am the writer or speaker, and you are the reader or the listeners, so, I hope that you don’t mind me if I ask some questions, because they are important to me, and I hope that my asking will not upset you, I hope also that you don’t mind me personally, as I am keen to be your friend, so, in my own strange ways, I would like to meet you, or at least those that are thinking that they can be friend with me. Since I want to share some of my time with you, and some of my personal views, if you think that you can be my friend and listen to what I am going to say.
So, you see, I am a shy man and I don’t like to be a show off or anything like that, but because today I have made up my mind to be a different man, and want to be a man of the world; I am going to make a great effort to achieve that.
Now, because this is the first time that I have met you, I would like to introduce myself the proper way and make your acquaintance personally, this is one of those things that I have learned lately, one needs to know how to introduce oneself easily; so, let us do that and let us see and practise how to introduce ourselves politely today and take a look how it was done in the bygone days, just to compare the difference.
Therefore, since here we are talking to a group of imaginary people, I would explain my introduction thus: I would like to shake your hand to each one of you, and while I am shaking your hand, I say, pleased to meet you, or “How do you do”, this is one form of introduction but there are many others. So, to Mr Y. or X. and no matter who you are; when we were introduced to other people or we introduced yourselves we said; “How do you do!” And then, in order to be polite to each and every one of us, we used to bend low and say again, “How do you do!” and “How do you do!” again. This is how it was done in the good old bygone days.
Having said that, now allow me to introduce myself in a modern and simple way.
Hello, my name is, “Francesco Menchise” and I am from Brisbane Australia; while I am doing this introduction, if I am close enough to the person that I am introducing myself I would put my right hand forward ready to shake hand it the other person accept my hand shake; here the other person is supposed to also extend his hand and accept my hand shake, while shaking hand the other person is supposed to say pleased to meet you, followed by his name (John West?) so, he is also introducing himself at the same time, and then I could say the pleasure is mine and talk about whatever is necessary.
Just to say something, I might say, my name is Francesco Menchise, but everybody here calls me Frank, and Frank sounds good and friendly to me, and it is easy to say; so, just call me Frank and let it be, as it will be easy for you and me.
Now that I have introduced myself in a modern and mannerly way, let me go back to talk as if I am talking to a group of people: May I ask you your names please? So, that you can also introduce yourself, and then we can be friends; I’d like to shake your hand to each one of you, and while I shake your hands I will say, “I am pleased to meet you!” You may answer me, “I am pleased to meet you too.” Or if you wish you may say, “The pleasure is mine.”
The introduction and other talks
So, I need to explain the reason why I have written this personal introduction above. During my life, I have noted that the greatest obstacle for people that have lived a withdrawn style of life, is that they don’t know how to introduce themselves and start talking to other people; for this reason I have written this introduction. It gives the importance it deserves in real life, I know that there are a few different ways for introducing people, and some people use different ways of introducing people to each other, so, my introduction might not be the best, but it points out that it is necessary to know some forms of introduction. I know that, because when I was young it was something that nobody tried to teach me, and this lack of spontaneous knowledge sometimes makes things awkward later in life.
You see most of us are not born with that presence of mind that automatically want to introduce ourselves, therefore, I believe that it is important that all children be thought and drilled, on how to introduce themselves properly from their parents and teachers. Not only in the way that I have done it above. But let the introductions be done in several other ways as it is supposed to be done in real life. So that the children will automatically be ready when a real introduction need to happen and they will feel secure of themselves. Otherwise, they will feel awkward and shy, and they will feel that they have put themselves in a disadvantaged position.
Anyhow, now that we have written about the introduction, let us talk about something else. I want to start with a simple everyday talk, which people talk every day of their lives, and I want to tell you how I feel, when I see the way that we behave, because I believe that sometimes we behave in a strange and unreal way. This observation I want to point out to prove my point. But to do that I need to ask you a friendly question; it is a question that anybody ask you out of politeness, and sometimes this question may take the place of a polite greening. But strange as it may seem, everybody gives the same answer to this question or greeting; and here is the proof of that.
And this question like a greeting can be: How are you? Or perhaps: How are you today?
And I am sure that you will answer; I am very well, thank you. Or perhaps you’ll say, I am well, or I am fine, or I feel great, or I feel as good as gold thanks very much.
And then just to be polite to me you’ll ask me back. And how are you today? (And then you’ll expect from me very much the same answers that you have given me.) I am very well, thank you. Or I am fine. I am as good as gold thanks. This seems to me unreal, so, I am going to write something hereunder about the ways that we behave, when we behave in an unrealistic way; so, let us talk about when we behave in a strange way; even if it can be the right thing to do.
Ways we behave in the world
This is the way that we sometimes behave
The way that we behave
Now, this part of the story, I did not want to write it here, but I feel forced to write it, because it fits my story that I am writing now, after all I was going to call this article overcoming our inner pains, so let me cry my heart out and say what I have to say.
Speaking for myself, the reality of life is that I find life has lots of ups and downs, and even if I don’t admit them to you, I feel them within myself. So, when you happen to ask me, ‘How are you?’ I may happen to be very much down, but, I will still answer you: I am very well, thank you! So, my dear readers, listeners or friends, there are no doubts about our behaviour that it is sometimes strange, and so, we should admit that the following most times is true.
We behave sometimes as if everything is indeed unreal, when we do say things that we do not mean or feel. And even when our own heart is hurt and cries in pains, we do turn to the world and pretending smile again, because we don’t want the world to see our pains. But all the efforts that we have made have been in vain. Because our heart still hurts and we still feel that pain.
I am sure that most of you will agree with me about what I have written above, because you may have been in a painful situation yourself, and therefore, you know and understand what I mean. But at the same time: What’s the use to pretend such a thing? When it is only pretence? Even if it has been able to make one feel better for a few moments, and one has been able to overcome the inner pains and has smiled just for a second. But, is all this pretence worthwhile, because you may be deceiving yourself.
But then it might be worthwhile, because we have been able to control ourselves and for a few moments we have felt well in the middle of those afflictions that are bugging us, but anyhow, every one of us does this his own way, because our lives are different to other people life and our story is different also, as we all know, every one of us has a story to tell.
As you can see, we sometimes behave in strange ways; my own judgement here is that, perhaps it might be worth behaving in such a deceitful way, not because we have been able to lie to ourselves, but because we have been able to control our own pains. And we have been able to live as well as we can.
What I have written above is part of my life story. So, let us go back to tell you the story of my life, because we are like everybody else and we have a story to tell, if we want to.
Stories have always been told
Every man or woman has a story to tell
Every man or woman has a story to tell
We are writing this article, as if there is a group of people willing to listen what we want to say. In my imagination I see nice people listening to me. So, I think and hope that within themselves they are happy with their own way of life that they are living.
I hope that the way that you are living your life is good for you for your own sake, because sometimes life can be very boring up to the point where it may become painful; this is when things don’t go the right way, which is the way that one wants them to go. And here I have to admit that I happen to be in such painful position myself often: And when this happens to me I am going through one of those grey days, and my life is boring and seems to be at a standstill. So, I feel so frustrated about my life that I have to ask myself. Oh my God! Why life has got to be so hard and boring for me these days? What have I done to deserve this? Why don’t I have the chance like everybody else to enjoy life as it should be enjoyed? And many other hard questions come to mind.
Therefore, I feel that life has not given me what by rights I should have deserved from it, and for that reason I can’t help thinking about life itself, and the ways that I am spending my life these days, together with the way that I have spent the earlier part of my life, so, I keep asking myself whether life has treated me the right way. Or should I have deserved a better life? I know that what I am saying here is lamenting and that is not a good thing to do, because it may upset other people, but that is the way I feel at the moment, so, I am sorry if I have upset you in any ways.
Then I think: I suppose that lots of other people of my age are going over their own lives like me, and they may be asking themselves; what is life all about? And whether life has treated them fair or not. So, they are looking back at the life that they have lived, and wonder if life has been good for them, and they may have the impression that: That part of life that they have lived now seems only a dream, a dream that has lasted for so many years, but now all those years have gone forever and they never will come back, so, all that is left of their lives is a story to tell, if they can find the time to tell their story, and if they find somebody that will listen to their story
So, every man and woman has a story to tell; no matter how unimportant it may seem, and how stupid and ridiculous it may sound, when they tell it to you. But, because it is their life story it is important to them, and they can’t change it because it is their true-life story. But if we listen to their true life story even if it is not much of a story, in the end it may bring up some good common sense, and we can learn something useful from their true story, if we take the time and listens to their true life story, even if their story is not much of a story.
To come to this article conclusion, we should say; whatever are our lives stories and whatever pains we have been through during your life, we must try to overcome our inner pains, if we are going to live a better life. Therefore, we have to try to turn negative things into positive thinking that is the only way to go about and try to live a better life in the future.
This is all that we want to say in this article, and we know that it has been long and rough, but we hope that we have been able to explain some of our points of view. Anyhow, let me go back to tell you my life story, in next article; my farm life continues.
See you soon.
© 2011 F-Menchise