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Pureed foods for Dementing Loved ones

Updated on July 21, 2009

BBQ'd hamburgers, potato salad, baked beans...yummm...

So where my dementing mother lives they had a BBQ last Friday and all family members were invited. The crew really works hard to do this sort of an affair...everyone has their place and they seat family all together and the turn out was good.

As one progresses in Alzheimer's disease it becomes time when they can't remember what chewing is and at the risk of choking, or inhaling it into their lungs their food is puréed...

 In my mom's case the fact that she wasn't chewing and her false teeth were smelling ; cause she didn't want to brush them...She didn't remember how to remove them and if the caregivers tried she would bite them...It took some doing but we were able to remove them without anyone getting hurt.

It certainly changed her looks and the first time she was sitting the dining room I passed her right up! Anyway I am there often to help her eat her meals. although honestly she does well by herself,cleaning every bit of her food off the plate...

 I have tasted the food that she is given because if I expect her to eat I best be able to also...and it is very tasty and they make it in the shape of whatever meat they are serving. One pile of food was a mushie green and I asked "what is this?" it was a green salad with dressing...now I have to admit it sure didn't look like it, but it tasted just like it,it was delicious.

When they have a BD party with cake, they put her's ( and several other's, she isn't alone in this) in a small bowl with milk on the bottom so it soaks into the cake a makes it easy to eat. She enjoys her food now and has not lost any weight.

So on this BBQ day when they served everyone their delicious cheeseburgers with a tomato, green lettuce, cheese and a pickle her bright blue eyes lit up and she so smiled...Then they brought her plate to her with piles of her food pureed..but in the shape of a round burger with soaked bread and it was warm and her salad and beans...I offered a bite of my food which she gladly took ( I mashed it though) and soon was spitting it out into her napkin...seems when they get used to pureed anything else is strange to them...she then happily joined in the meal with pleasure and much conversation.

She has become quite vocal as of late and though she never complete's a sentence she says enough that I can get the drift of what she is talking about...though coupled with her loss of hearing (refusing/even lost her hearing aides)and her poor eyesight ( can't remember what glasses are for) she is very interesting and we go many places in our minds...mostly back, back to her beginning and growing up and the Farm...

 Although on Friday she did ask me where her husband was? He died now 6-7 yrs ago, but I said "Oh you know these men, mom they went fishing again". she laughed and we discussed fish for a while...sorta... It is never a good thing to tell that a loved one has died...they go into a grieving and can become very upset...

We went outside for a walk in the warm sun, which lastest about 10 min. then she wanted to take a nap, which is what most of them do after so much has gone on...so back to her room we went...I left her sleeping in a comfy spot, with her stuffed teddybear in her arms with the promise of my return...

God Bless Her and the Caregivers...it is a comfort to me that she is well cared for and that my dad was smart enough to get Long Term Insurance for this very reason..I Love her so and is tough sometimes; but we have learned to "Live in the Moment" and seems to be fine...

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      june688 8 years ago

      very nice hubs

      Welcome to my hubs.

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Raven King...Glad you are done with that visit for sureeee...and yes pureed foods can be very tasty...Hope all goes well...Thanks for commenting sweetie...:O) Hugs G-Ma

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      Raven King 8 years ago from Cabin Fever

      Hi G-Ma. You told you personal story with a sweet manner and a little bit of humor. Because of the dentist visit my Mom has made a few very delicious pureed dishes. Yum.

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Oh Cris silly man...you two must be bored to be playing with me tonight...it sure has slowed down a lot hasn't it.? I miss so many that have left...but such is life friends come and friends go and more are made...variety is the SPICE of life...Hugs again :O)

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      tony ...Yes I did know sweet one...you told me so a while ago...made me feel good...Thanks I don't mind...:O) Hugs

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Ok Cris that will work for me my dear...:O) Hugs and more Hugs

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      Cris A 8 years ago from Manila, Philippines

      G-Ma

      You can say NO to tony! Fight for your right to refuse! :D

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      tony0724 8 years ago from san diego calif

      G-Ma this Is a classic example of why you are so priceless ! And also why I decided that you are my cyberMom . You did not know you adopted me did you ? A real slice of warmth from a good soul

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      Cris A 8 years ago from Manila, Philippines

      I don't think emails through HP is good enough. I'd send you one (through here) so you'd get my email address. Thanks again :D

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Awww baby doll you are just too sweet...Ok I will send it to you and the rest of it too...through here? can the e-mail here take a long one???:O) Hugs

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      Cris A 8 years ago from Manila, Philippines

      G-Ma

      Oh please do! I wanna know what happened to 'our friend" and her "friend". This is exciting, like a first-see or an exclusive preview! Many thanks! Have I told you you're the sweetest? I have? Sorry but I won't tire saying it! LOL Lurves ya :D

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      I wrote # 9 but then I took them all off...did you see it?

      Am trying to finish it but got stuck, am picking up now though...since I am not a true writer I find it very slow coming...I can e-mail it if you want??? :O) Hugs

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      Cris A 8 years ago from Manila, Philippines

      Btw, I've been out of the loop for a long time and I was looking for the "elderly lady" hubs. Did you decide to leave us all hanging? Uh-uh not nice! :D

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      hee hee...you are way to smart...Love Ya to death...:O) Hugs

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      Cris A 8 years ago from Manila, Philippines

      I'm sure - like mother like daughter! :D

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Cris ...Thanks Angel..they had a 10 year celebration yesterday and it was really fun...She likes Party's...Hee hee...:O) Hugs

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      Cris A 8 years ago from Manila, Philippines

      G-Ma

      Thank God for sweet things like you G-Ma. I wish you and mother more lurve and good times! :D

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      R Burow...yes it is true and does not get easier...so do what you can to prepare...www.Alzheimer's.org is a good start. also "36 Hour day" a book, is wonderful along with "Dancing with Rose" I recommend them both. and I attend 2 groups sessions a month and is a big help also...there is so much...If I can help let me know ok? I am no expert but have dealt with it for 5 yrs.now. My Prayers...:O) Hugs

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      R Burow 8 years ago from Florida, United States

      Grandma, I wish you and your mother my best. 'Living in the moment' is a phrase that is becoming more familiar to me, and one that I often use with my children. Their grandmother, my mom, is on this same road you describe. It is early yet, and we are doing all we can to keep it at bay. Yet this is the road ahead of her and us. Living in the moment is the best we can do. Thank you for a sweet hub.

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Brenda...Thank you my dear..Is an ongoing thing each day///:O) Hugs

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      \Brenda Scully 8 years ago

      so enjoyed that hub

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      TOM...Thank you...:O) Hugs and the same to you

      CANDIE...it was good my dear...and true love really never dies...:O) Hugs

      ASHERKADE...Hello nice to meet you...and how wonderful of you, I can see you are a caring person...Thanks for the comment...:O) Hugs

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      AsherKade 8 years ago from Texas

      my aunt from marriage, whom I never liked, had dementia, early onset. I took care of dementia patients for about 13 years before becoming a LEO. I helped my uncle, the husband of the aforementioned aunt, to get her bras and clothes. I did love him very much and he inspired me to be a LEO. I hand it to you to be so caring...and sensitive to her. She has a wonderful friend.

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      Candie V 8 years ago from Whereever there's wolves!! And Bikers!! Cummon Flash, We need an adventure!

      What a commitment -to eat what's she given if you expect her to eat it! Awesome! It is so hard to watch someone we love "loose" themselves, but our love never dies!

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      Tom Rubenoff 8 years ago from United States

      God bless you, G-Ma.