DDE: Yes! I stress all the time, "what am I going to have for dinner?" My kids are grown and gone, so it is just my husband and our four cats, but he works very hard and very long hours, so when he gets home 4:30 p.m. I want to have a hot meal ready.
However, since I quit my job and LOVE being home, I would rather be reading and writing. Preparing a meal cuts into my time...plus I never know what to make, and the clean up is time consuming.
The GOOD NEWS is that my husband is not a fussy eater. He is SO easy, unlike my first husband who hated casseroles, wanted only meat and potatoes and hated all vegetables except corn, beets and carrots. He was awful and nasty about it...'what is THiS s...?' He also hated leftovers.
So this is what I do: I try to prepare a big meal. For example this week I made goulash, which we love. I make enough to last three days...we just microwave the leftovers, and add a salad and a vegetable.
That way I was able to go to Barnes & Noble 2 days this week to read and write. At the end of the week we usually go to a nearby diner for supper, and then I concentrate on a big meal on Sunday to stretch into the next week.
I really no longer have a desire to cook, but I am a good cook and I feel my husband is important enough to prepare meals for him.
On a holiday, like Easter and Christmas when we have the family for dinner, I make homemade cinnamon buns, but I do not prepare dessert. We have TWO bakeries -about a four minute drive to each one...so I order an apple crumb pie from one (off the charts delicious) and a homemade cake with buttercream icing from the other. This last birthday celebration I bought KLONDIKE vanilla ice cream squares covered in chocolate, each separately wrapped in foil. I just plunked a square next to each piece of cake. Dave's family loved it. And we enjoyed leftovers for 2-3 days after.
So it is kind of a win-win the way I am managing cooking. Also my husband is so kind...the other day I texted him at work and wrote, "can you pick up pizza and wings for supper? I didn't sleep good last night and really don't feel like cooking..." and he did...we threw together a salad and it was a great meal.
Thank you for this great question. Sparklea :)