Would you allow you kids to go swimming fully clothed on thier own ?

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   CLOTHEDSWIMMERposted 12 years ago

   Would you allow your kids to go swimming fully clothed on thier own if they  ask you if they cloud do it for a bit of fun or woul you sooner that you whent with them?
   
   For me i would let my daughter do it on her own if she wanted to on the conditon that the next time I cloud go with her.

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      SomewayOuttaHereposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      is there an echo in here?....i think i saw this same/similar thread awhile ago....

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   Diane Insideposted 12 years ago

   I think it depends on the age of the daughter, and if there were trusted supervision. Not just for modesty, but for safety. Children drown all the time and if it were a teenage daughter who , I knew could swim, as long as there is supervision for safety I wouldn't have a problem with it.
   
   But young children I would go with them.  whether they could swim or not. Just safety conscious.
   
   I know I was dropped off lots at the park swimming pool but there were life guards and usually an adult around who my parents knew.  I could swim but by no means was a strong swimmer.  But we lived in a small town and my parents knew the adults who were present.
   
   I imagine if they didn't know them I probably wouldnt have gotten to go alone.

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   LoriSoardposted 12 years ago

   I agree with Diane. Is there a lifeguard there? Safety would be my first concern. Why would you make her swim in clothes instead of a swimsuit? That sounds plain uncomfortable. If it is a modesty issue, they have swimsuits that are modest and even old fashioned ones you can buy online that cover everything but your calves made for those following the modesty movement. Use your best judgment on this issue that aligns with your beliefs but doesn't make your child uncomfortable.
   
   If your concern is boys, then I would do the opposite of what you're suggesting. I would go with her the first few times and see how she handles herself in a group with mixed genders. Then, if there was other adult supervision that I trusted, I would probably let her go with them. All this is dependent on age. My 18 year old can do things my 15 year old cannot. I used to be a lot stricter with my girls, but I'm starting to realize that if you don't begin to give them a bit of freedom, they just get sneaky about what they do. It's much better to give them small tastes of freedom and see how they handle it and increase as they earn it.
   
   All that said, there are some situations that I would still say no to. For example, a high school pool party at a house where no parents are home. My kids aren't going and if I find out they sneaked, I will go in and pull them out and embarrass them in front of their friends. I also will phone all the parents I know and send the kids home. Haven't had to face that situation yet with my 18-year-old, but that is what I would do.

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