Me and my friend are drifting away what should i do ?

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   Xx--Demz--xXposted 14 years ago

   Me and my friend are drifting away what should i do ?
   
   Well me and my friend were so close and we told each other everything but then i found out that she is closer to one of my other friends instead of me ,, and i dont know what to do ?
   should i confront her and talk to her about or just leave it and see if everything works out ?

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   Bredaviesposted 14 years ago

   Ok this always sucks.
   
   What I think you should do is give it time at first. And show her that you are there for her. When she sees how much you care you guy's will for sure be close friends again.

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   Lisa HWposted 14 years ago

   Some friendships last a lifetime, but many have their own limited lifetime, especially when people are young.
   
   There can be someone with whom you're really close for a long time, but as you and your friend change and grow either one, or both, of you may discover you have something more in common with, or feel closer to, someone else.
   
   Friendship shouldn't be about "confronting", and it isn't about people not  being close to other people too.   I think you should stay her friend, think about making a couple of new friends yourself (there's room to have more than one friend), and see what happens.  If you're both growing in different directions (or if one is growing and the other is not), the friendship may fade into something less close than it once was.  You may drift completely apart in time.  Then again, if your friendship is truly strong, close, and solid it will withstand a little cloud weather and remain strong.

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   carmen2089posted 14 years ago

   You should try to reconnect with him. Go out on a date to make new memories. If that doesn't work be honest with him let him know how you feel. Because truth is you guys are probably out growing each other. And maybe its time to move on.

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   reeltaulkposted 14 years ago

   Confront her....you two are friends right, so there should be no problem in address whatever issues you may have with her.   With situations concerning friendship, loyalty is either present or not present.  You can't make someone respect you or be loyal to you.  Their behavior will always tell you where they stand, and from that you have to make a decision as to where your friendship stands with them, that is if you want to continue being a friend to them.  Leave them to be who they are as well as entertain whomsoever they choose.  Never push yourself on someone when regarding friendship, because if they are NOT a true friend they will take you for the ride of your life....Good Luck
   
   
   Vonda G. Nelson

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   misstuesdaygirlposted 14 years ago

   I think it's time to branch out and find new friends who can fill in the gap.  You can speak with her, but ask yourself what do you really want.  Sometimes friends don't want to hurt your feelings so they just disengage - which I think is wrong, but who needs people who don't honor or value them.  Sometimes people are friends from a past that doesn't match up with the present.  This means that what made you friends in the first place no longer carries weight.  It may be that you are not up to par in her book.  She can't say to you, 'you're just not up to par.', now can she, because wtfit, right.  So it appears easier to just leave you hanging.  I say this because I'm going thru the same thing.  It's like I'm not fabulous enough for her.  Currently I'm unemployed, not living the gay lifestyle, and am not a person of note.  I find that this friend gravitates to people whom she thinks can get her to another higher level or status.  She will meet someone whom she perceives as 'wow!' and then tell them she must know them, they must be in her life!  It's all about what they can do for her.  And she will say that what they get in return is her fabulousness! Go figure.  It's annoying.  So I've just learned to ignore her.  The more I tell myself I have good friends, the more they show up.  Who needs a friend that doesn't reciprocate?  Eventually your paths will cross and she will say where've you been, etc.?  And at that time you can tell her that it is on her.  She knows she's not being a good friend.  Don't pine for people who don't want to be with you. The best revenge is living well in spite of them.  Good luck!

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   lucy_rox101posted 14 years ago

   Talk to your friend and don't you ever give up on yourself sit down with your friend and ask her but talk to her somewhere private not in front of a crowned good luck

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