What is the most effecitve way to get a teen to talk to a parent?

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   queenbeposted 14 years ago

   What is the most effecitve way to get a teen to talk to a parent?
   
   Mother to son who have been seperated from one another. We are not as close as we use to be with one another due to a situation  we have no control over.

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   oralproposted 14 years ago

   Confide in your teen. The flip side, of course, is sharing your own thoughts and feelings with your teen, even if they are difficult, complicated or a little embarrassing:
   
       * Tell them about your day, starting with the facts. This may ease your way into a conversation.
       * Tell them about your feelings in different situations, including things you consider to be failures. This conveys the message, "It is OK to fail, as long as you learn from the experience."
       * Tell them about yourself and your experiences growing up. Start with the general descriptions and avoid specific examples at first. Just set the stage for developing a two-way conversation.

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   zmansfamposted 14 years ago

   Each moment you do have with him, give him a model for him of your unconditional love, and gently remind him that you genuinely care about his happiness, his thoughts and his dreams. My son was quiet during his teen years, I never  pushed, I just let him know daily. When he turned 18 and was leaving for college, he opened up, about everything, daily conversation simple things to major things. He is now 22, and it continues, I asked him why he never talked much as a teen (I am a school counselor so I wanted to know for other parents) He said, " I don't know mom, not much really to say, but I knew if I ever really needed to talk, you would be there".

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   CiscoPixieposted 14 years ago

   i think you should tell him that you want to talk to him but you aren't sure how. Tell him you love him and want to be a good friend and a loving parent. Don't criticize, it's the worst thing possible because then a teen will become rebellious. So go in slow, take time to find out what he enjoys and see if you can bond over it. Otherwise, i suggest a home cooked meal and a board game? Don;t rush into things, just take it easy. It will be difficult in the beginning but your son knows that you love him and will support him. Good luck my friend! Let me know if you need any help? I could talk to him if you need me to

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   sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

   Money! I wave a twenty and  I own him! Forty and he'll go along with my lie!

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   marta_1995posted 14 years ago

   Talking to your kids is very difficult and if you don't start in a young age. There are something that can never be the same in an relationship. But you should start just having small talks with your son. Like how was your day or does he have a girlfriend. How is school. Try to support him no matter what and in time everything will go back to normal but you need to give it time.

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   LeslieAdrienneposted 12 years ago

   Patience and prayer.... please remember that the teen is in a state of growing. The things that seem obvious to you may not be obvious to the teen. Also, try and remember what you were like when you were a teen. Remember that you were trying to work things out with the wisdom you had and that you resented adults who tried to "tell you what to do" or "get in your business".
   
   Remain the parent while the teen is a teen. You will become a friend when the teen is an adult.

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