If someone you loved had signs of maybe being battered by someone, but they deni

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   Deborah-Lynnposted 14 years ago

   If someone you loved had signs of maybe being battered by someone, but they denied it (through their
   
   People often cover up serious problems, they are so personal, how do you get past the feeling that you are intrding, is there anything you can do to help?

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   hublimposted 14 years ago

   You can help by being there for them.
   
   For a number of reasons they may not be ready or comfortable sharing their problems. Forcing the issue and demanding they tell you what is wrong will add to the pressure they feel they are under and will more than likely make them go further inwards.
   
   I feel the best approach is to show them you are always available to talk to if they need or want to, some people need some distance to put things into perspective before opening up to other people.
   
   Also I find each time you recount a bad experience you are subjected to the same emotions again. It is not always a good idea to tell everyone your problems; the negative emotions may be intensified.

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   NNathanielStockposted 14 years ago

   You can help just by being their for them no matter what time day or night you come over if they call for you to help them. It is up to them to see for themself to decide to get help. You can lose this person as a friend if you come across the wrong way and make matters worse they will need you and wont call you or reach out to you. Just take it one step at a time.

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   dcemohighsocietyposted 14 years ago

   If you think or know of someone that is being hurt by someone who cares about what ur gonna feel your gonna feel allot worst if you found out and u did nothing and now they are dead. If you just stand and watch something happen your almost as guilty i know its hard cause some people are like its not your business but i always make it my business its my business as a human a women to protect people its what we should do we should always look  out for each other their so many cops out there to help people but thiers millions of us who can do the same thing and help save people.if you just ask the person tell them is everything ok that ur there to help them that you can be a safe place for them there are strength in numbers and if we all started doing stuff and help saving people then asking question there would not be as many women getting battered. also to add to this there should be no reason in life to ever hit or hurt someone if you don't love the person if you think hitting is love then walk away don't be with that person let it go its better to be known as a man who walked away from a women then a man who hit a women!

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