what do i say to boyfriend who says i do not show enough affection

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   kerri1posted 14 years ago

   what do i say to boyfriend who says i do not show enough affection
   
   i have alot going on in my life...i lost my daughter to brother and no one in my family talks to me right now....i am severly depressed

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   Jawa Lunkposted 14 years ago

   Treat him like crap for a few days, then he will appreciate how you wre treating hi before he opened his mouth.

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   GoGrannyposted 14 years ago

   Sounds like you have suffered too many losses (your daughter, your brother, your family) recently which could certainly account for the depression. But you didn't say how all of that came about. I don't want to speculate but it sounds as if you have done something major to cause this alienation. If that is the case you must clean up your act to hopefully be able to reunite with your family. Maybe it's some thing involving your boyfriend and you are quietly resenting him for his part in losing your family. Depression can cause you to withdraw from things previously enjoyed - like being affectionate. Your recent losses could also be causing you to be more reserved emotionally, fear of getting too close to someone to avoid more pain if that person is also taken away. Consider contacting a counselor to help you work things out.

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   stricktlydatingposted 14 years ago

   If he's mentioned that you haven't been showing enough affection, you can only try to make an effort to be more affectionate with him, dispite what other things may be going on in your life, from what you've said has been going on you may also be needing a little affection too, it could be of benefit to you too at this time.

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   Silver Poetposted 14 years ago

   He shouldn't be trying to badger you into feeling affectionate.  If he had his head on straight he would woo you and soothe you in an attempt to heal your wounded soul and nurture your inner being.
   
   Feelings can't be forced.  If you attempt to be "affectionate" even when you don't have your whole soul behind it, it will be fake.  Is that what he wants, for you to fake it?  If he does it would seem to me he has a few things to learn.

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