What to do when your boyfriend suddenly leaves you to go back with the mother of

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   asamom2005posted 14 years ago

   What to do when your boyfriend suddenly leaves you to go back with the mother of his children?
   
   She threw him out to start a relationship with his best friend there roommate at the time. He started a relationship.. We had known each other for years prior to this.. I actually knew her too and all our kids knew each other from School and Sports.. Things between her and the other guy failed and I believe she manipulated him to come back for a paycheck and because she saw the light in his eyes and smile on his and the kids faces. My friends say he will realize he made a mistake .. we even have a Poole going.

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   ddsurfscaposted 14 years ago

   If you allow it he will work both of you, going from one to the other, apologizing, repeating etc.  Kiss him good-bye and toss his clothes out the door behind him.  Tell him to go take care of his kids like he should have to start with.  You sound like an independant sort of person who does not need a man to pay the rent, am I correct?
   Find yourself a companion who does not have a family already, and who works, and does not have either a temper or cheating problems.  Good luck. 
   I almost gave up on finding a guy altogether, and began looking for a girlfriend instead, when I ran into the very last good man on the face of the earth.  Funny how it works sometimes.

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   asamom2005posted 14 years ago

   You are  VERY correct  in regards to my independence.. Oh don't worry I have already started looking for someone better and like you said.. no baggage.. I think I only hooked up with him.. because I felt bad for him after she threw him out.. now he can kiss me goodbye..

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   SpaceAgeposted 14 years ago

   well, if he has a kid w/ the other woman, then let him go

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   doraemonixposted 14 years ago

   I'm sorry heard about it, but the situations not same like before, you must forget it and give his appologize, let it flow..
   you must find the others man could make you be better than now.

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   Lisa HWposted 14 years ago

   I know this isn't the answer you'd like, but I think you're better off without him.  He has children with someone else.  If he's a good father anyone he goes out with will take a back seat to his kids.  If he's a less-than-great father any girlfriend he has may not take a back seat, but she'll end up with a guy who isn't a good father to his own children and most likely will have some kind of "mess" /drama follow him wherever he goes.  If he were a strong, mature, grown-up he wouldn't be someone who could be manipulated.
   
   I think you should do your own thing, get past the breakup, and take it from there.  If you have children concentrate on them.  Maybe you'll meet someone better somewhere along the way anyway.  He and the "mother of his kids" all just kind of sound like a train-wreck to me.  Why go back to a train-wreck that you managed to escape from.

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   reeltaulkposted 14 years ago

   go wash your hands and be clean of that mess for good!  Seriously

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   Julie2posted 13 years ago

   Oh sweetie, there really isn't much you can do. When this happens they usually go back for the kids and not the wife.  It is better for you to try your best to move on as best you can. I know that it isn't going to be easy, believe me I know from experience. You cannot and should not put your life on hold because of this. I am not telling you to run out and meet somebody right away. The heart wants what the heart wants, so you are the only one that will know when the time comes for you to be ready to do so. Do not lose trust in other men because of this. You will be ok, eventually. If you want to email me privately you can... I'm all ears. Take it easy...

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   bayougirlposted 13 years ago

   Children greatly influence men s thinking .I d start looking for a new relationship . !

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    Shelvajayposted 13 years ago

    I have a friend that this happened to, a long time ago.  I felt her hurt, but you know what?  She did not need him anyway.  Tell your friend to forget him.  I know it hurts, but after a while, that will stop, and she will heal.

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    Lady Wordsmithposted 13 years ago

    No brainer   Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again.  Good riddance!  He sounds like a very weak sort of person, and not worth your concern
    
    All good wishes, you sound like you have your head screwed on right.
    
    Linda.

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