Do you need to know your partner's sexual history?

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   SpiffyDposted 12 years ago

   Do you need to know your partner's sexual history?

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   J D Murrahposted 12 years ago

   That is an intriguing and personal question. The question that I think is more important is whether or not your partner lies regarding their sexual history. There is a surprisingly large number of people who lie about or misrepresent their sexual history.

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   Motown2Chitownposted 12 years ago

   Interesting question.  Years ago, I'd have said absolutely.  But, I think now that it totally depends on who your partner is (or will become).  If your partner is a one time fling, then yes, in that you don't want to move forward with no clue of what you might be bringing with you.  If your partner is someone with whom you intend to spend the rest of your life, I think not.  Provided you know that you and your partner are both STI free and committed to one another, their history will come out over time.  Unless that history includes something that is a threat to you, I don't think it's necessary for you to know.

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   alberichposted 12 years ago

   No, you need to know how the partner feel and be open to discuss needs and wantings without reproaching and demanding. I think the most essential error is when you think sex in a relation will work just on passion, you need to communicate. The history in a sense of who and when and what might just complicate the understanding.

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   rickydean2010posted 12 years ago

   Maybe not all the exact details, but I think it's good to have a general idea of their past and dating history.

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   Felixedet2000posted 12 years ago

   yes it is very important because if you don't ask your partner consciously about his/her past sexual escapade,s sooner or later you will get to know about it from the mouth of others, that you wouldn't like i bet you.

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   rorshak sobchakposted 12 years ago

   It is probably better to not know if you ask me. My girlfriend said the same thing. Maybe you can come to an agreement that both you and your partner get tested at the hospital just to be on the safe side. Then neither needs to ask about the sexual history.
   
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   lovelife08posted 12 years ago

   I think it is important to know HOW MANY partners there were, and whether protection was used, for health purposes.  As far as WHO...it is in the past and does not matter.

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   hawksm278posted 12 years ago

   Well you probably should because you could get an STI or STD if they have had many.

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    padmendraposted 12 years ago

    Sex only happens when you have trust between each other and through strong bond of love and where there is trust and love between two partners, sexual history of one partner is not required to be known and does hardly matters when no love and trust  is there.  Then  sex  is always considered as lust. Sexual history of a person is only required if the person is  professional and you are unknown about the person and you have a one night - stand with him or her.

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    zduckmanposted 12 years ago

    That is for high school kids...we are adults now ...you are not what you have done....but what you do

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