Never give in to a tantrum. Let themselves wear themselves out if need be, but never give in. I have known of parents that leave a store, grocery cart full, in order to not give in to a child giving a trantrum. Its not fair to the other shoppers to have to hear it, for one, but above all, never give into tantrums.
What is more appalling now, is that more adults than ever are throwing tantrums to get their way, which a whole other problem in our societies. Same rule applies however....NEVER give in to a tantrum, no matter what it is "dressed up" like.
Peacefully, ignore tantrum throwers, unless they are hurting others, and then its ok to seek further help I think. Its all a big test.
Learn how to distract yourself so you don't become emotionally dysregulated just like the child. Wait them out and then when they finally calm down re-state what it is that you need or want them to do. Be consistent...and follow through. The minute you don't you'll be asking for more tantrums.
Ignore the tantrum completely and refuse to deal with them again until they are reasonable. Make sure they cannot hurt themselves while you are ignoring the tantrum, though. I have found that ignoring bad behavior and rewarding good behavior is a powerful tool. Eventually, the tantrum will stop when the child realizes that it does not accomplish the goal of gaining and keeping your attention and that good behavior does accomplish that goal.
yes ,it is very true what you have said but sometimes it is quite difficult to avoid those tantrum and as a parent we fulfill those tantrum unknowingly.
I always let my children know that it is ok to be angry but that it is the behavior that is questionable. In public if a tantrum arrived we left the cart and everything and went back home. Of course this was far and few because if my children were not well rested or were grumpy we stayed home. tantrums at home were handled in some what the same way. they were always told they are responsible in how they protray their anger therefor they were responsible for the consequences of their actions. They are held accountable. It is surprising how even a 2 year old can grasp that concept. If they were ging to have a tantrum they went into their room until they stopped. after they were calm we discussed the behavior and also options to better handle themselves the next time they were angry. I feel a lot of time parents simply punish their children for the tantrum and the child thinks they are being punished for their anger which in turn angers them more and you have a repeat situation. I have always let my children know why they were being punished that anger is ok it is the behavior that has consequences.
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