What are you going to do & feel if your other half of 2 yrs told you,its over be

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   cosmicdustposted 12 years ago

   What are you going to do & feel if your other half of 2 yrs told you,its over bec this is nonsense?
   
   Your other half told you that its over between the two of you because what you have is/was a nonsense relationship.

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   louiseelcrossposted 12 years ago

   I would think time to move on and find a relationship that I will feel respected and cared for. Not all relationships work out as it takes time to get to know each other. You might love everything he does in the first part of the relationship only to discover those same loveable traits he showed earlier, now gets on your nerves. You deserve to be happy. Find a new relationship.

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   cobrienposted 12 years ago

   I would be crushed and wonder how I didn't see it coming. Then I would go out with the girls and join a bowling league or take a class or join a gym or find something else to distract me and get me out of the house.

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   stricktlydatingposted 12 years ago

   I've had something similar happen to me.  My boyfriend told me our entire relationship was "Based on lies".  I told him that was not true and to give me the REAL reason he was ending the relationship.  He did not. 
   
   In any case you're going to feel hurt when you've been in a 2 year relationship and your partner ends it.  You're going to feel angry, betrayed, bewildered.  You're probably going to want to try to solve this as a problem and to sort it out.  But all you can really do is try to have a decent conversation with the ex to try to get your head around what's happening in order to start to deal with the ending of your relationship.

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   Marlena Oechsnerposted 12 years ago

   Two years of nonsense, huh? BS. If he won't tell you the real reason, just get out. Clearly, you can do so much better. Good luck.

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   whizcreedposted 12 years ago

   Dynamics of relationships works in mysterious ways. Maybe not as mysterious if a pattern is emerging.
   
   A lot of thought has gone into the whole breakup thing and you can read a part of it from psychological point of view at:
   http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Relationship_breakup
   
   I am pretty much going through the similar state of life but have been through it before and it is not hitting me as badly as before.
   
   I think it hurts you even more when you feel that the decision has been forced over on you or you feel that you have just about no control. You can obviously turn the table around by being so sorry about the whole thing. After all if someone calls a relationship of 2 years useless then it was not worth it to begin with.
   
   Now what is more important is that you understand what you want from the situation, do you want to move on or do you want the relationship back, irrespective of what others think about it. Once you know what you want, you will at least have some direction.
   
   I would recommend a movie that helped me get over the breakup once, it is called "Getting Over Sarah Marshal", it is about a guy but I am sure you will be able to relate with it.
   
   I really hope that you get over this difficult time and get the best of life

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   reeltaulkposted 12 years ago

   Regardless if the relationship was or wasn't nonsense I would give them exactly what they want.....Their freedom!  I can't see myself trying to compromise or talk about anything after hearing someone say that to me.  That sums up my future with them in a nutshell!
   
   After reading some of these comments, I don't care if the reasons they have mentioned is a lie or the truth.  I wouldn't even want to control or fix anything with a person as such.  Yes it hurts and is insulting, but the faster you accept what you are hearing the quicker you will learn.  Learn in every aspect of the word, like never to deal with this type.  You will also know and recognize signs that rise major red flags. I refuse to be insulted especially if I am giving my all and it's considered nothing or used for convenience.  As I said before there would be absoultely nothing for us to talk about or discuss.  People as such are usually cowards who live to play the blame game and when you don't fall for it seek to apologize in order to remove whatever guilt they feel.  Then wonder why things never work out in their favor.  Fooooey!!! Negativity and non productiveness is written all of this...Eeew

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   onegoodwomanposted 12 years ago

   Honestly, I can not imagine.
   
   At two years into our marriage, we were still in the "honeymoon" stage.
   
   
   I am baffeled by your loss.

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