Do you believe that physical abuse by a father often results in the same action

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   brakel2posted 12 years ago

   Do you believe that physical abuse by a father often results in the same action by his sons?

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   Yes, I do. I work for a therapist and we see it all the time.  It isn't a given but it happens way too often.  How often do we hear - my dad beat me and I turned out okay - and I want to ask them, Really?  You turned out okay? No repercussion, no problems today in your life that may be related?

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   Unfortunately we only get one set of formative years. It takes a lot of effort to "unlearn" what we have been taught through observation. Some people however go the opposite route. The child of an alcoholic for instance may choose to never drink or get involved with anyone who does.
   Oftentimes we may not think something has affected us until we are put in a situation. For years (singer) Chris Brown did interviews talking about how he hated his father for beating on his mother. Later in life he went to jail for beating up his (singer) girlfriend Rhianna.

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   Minnetonka Twinposted 12 years ago

   I must agree with the answers people are giving. As a professional in the mental health field and personally, it is difficult not to repeat the same behaviors one has dealt with in childhood. This does not mean it's a given to be the same, as someone mentioned, you can go the opposite way. We all have choices in life and even if we've had a history of abuse, we can choose to change the pattern.

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   sassydeeposted 12 years ago

   i think that 8 out of 10 times it does!

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   aDayInMyLife1posted 12 years ago

   I believe that one of two things happen. Either the patern of abuse continues from generation to generation, or a child strives to be the complete opposite of theit parent and not repeat the same mistakes.

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   roxanne459posted 12 years ago

   Unfortunately relationships aren't instincts like breathing and walking. We learn what we live and we push repeat. There are always the exceptions and I commend them immensely! I know that it takes a lot of work and conscious effort to not become your parents.

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   shorty72posted 12 years ago

   It is like an ad on tv at the moment about drinking they say a child only knows what they see and are taught. So if you grow up in a house with a parent that drinks you will do the same when you grow up because that is there way of life . It is very hard to break that cycle .

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   Ona Canadyposted 12 years ago

   Yes, our children's most idolized person is their parents.They learn and do everything we do. They have from the begging. I know I've been guilty of saying a cuss word. You always remember it when they say it for the first time. The abused boy will grow to become the perpetrator.

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