What can you do if your spouse goes to anger management therapy, but the anger gets worse?
Put the time frame at 9 months every two to three weeks for counseling.
If the anger management gets worse over such a lengthy time frame, then there are several options you can take.
The first, which most people do try and do, is to set up a joint therapy session, whether it is with the same person who does the anger management therapy for your spouse or a completely different person who can deal with joint therapy.
By doing this, your silently letting your sprouse know your still there for them, as alot of people do grow angry to push people away out of fear of something and, as such, this could help both of you gain a better insight into what the problem may be.
The second option you have is to go and see the person who your spouse has been seeing without them and asking them to explain to you what they've been doing to help your spouse, maybe explain to them that it's grown worse. They may have found a topic which is hard for your spouse to speak or think of and as such, lashes out in anger.
The fourth option is to suggest a new therapy office or more sessions; depending on if your spouse sees someone alone or in a group, maybe a change of sessions could help them. Alot of time anger comes from fear or hatred of themselves or something that they have experienced and if they meet other people like them, then maybe it can help.
The fourth option, which many only take as a last resort, is to tell your spouse, calmly, that if things don't improve your going to leave, or maybe leave and stay at a friends or relatives home; tell them your leaving to give them a chance to sort themselves out.
As bad as it is, sometimes what people need is to see those they truely love and care for, leaving them. It can cause anger at first but if they truely care, then it can break through to them. However, I would only recommend that as the very last option to take.
Pack up and leave. If they won't change, then they don't care enough about you to do anything. He obviously isn't trying or even wanting to manage his anger. Emotions can almost always be controlled. The only times I've never seen anger be controlled is when someone is drunk, has a tumor in their brain, or just does not care.
Change comes from within. (There is nothing you can do about someone else's behavior) other than make a decision as to whether or not it is a "deal breaker" for you. If you determine you can't live that way then you have to move on. Once you are "aware" of how a person is then it is on you to make a decision.
Reinhold Niebuhr said it best in his poem " The Serenity Prayer"
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference."
Bottom line is (When we change our circumstances change). Life is too short to be stressing yourself out over your spouse or having to walk on egg shells. Home is the one place where you are suppose to be able to (relax).
by sir_tallest 13 years ago
Is there any site that can help with anger management......hate to see a shrink
by Alem Belton 7 years ago
Why is the divorce rate so high in America? It usually seas saws every years but always remains at 50% or more. Is divorce the new fad, like having an adopted a foreign child or a owning a tiny dog? I didn't get the memo.
by Lissette 12 years ago
How do you deal with your frustration or anger?What do you do to let off steam, to vent, to get rid of it? What is your form of anger management and therapy?
by Chitrangada Sharan 11 years ago
Anger management is a necessary skill, which you must have, in a job/ at office, do you agree?
by Leslie A. Shields 13 years ago
How do you deal with your anger? Do you retaliate? Do you supress it? Do you take it out on others? Please tell us?
by Krystal 12 years ago
What do you to help control your temper?I find that when I think someone is disrespecting me, I get extremely angry and find it hard to let it go. What do you do when other's upset you? How do you control your temper?
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